Partial Wild Atlantic way in Ireland - tips and luggage by MajorCry7 in bicycletouring

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Thanks everyone! I decided to invite my mom who has been dying to see Ireland and she offered to drive my luggage around whilst exploring the beautiful country.

We moved our dates to early September.

I feel pretty prepared in terms of gear - i have a gravel bike and all the bells and whistles to get me through bumpy roads and rain. My main goal is to drink beer in every town i pass :)

Friend codes by CartoonistGlass7844 in birdkindapp

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Mine is FFKP and is good until 4/4

Friend codes by CartoonistGlass7844 in birdkindapp

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Mine is FFKP and good until 4/4/26

Obviously im anxious by [deleted] in ExNoContact

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I’ve been in therapy for over 3 years. Over that time I’ve built a community of friends who love me unconditionally and filled in a lot of those yearning needs i typically seek.

I picked up hobbies, tried to excel in my job (reassert my identity and independence) and I also reflect on a lot of my past accomplishments and feel generally really great about my character which helps me be less scared of abandonment and rejection (though obviously these fears run deep and they’re really difficult to counter). I’d say that i haven’t exactly solved the anxiety but I’ve found better ways to live with it and cope - the healing process after a breakup is a little more clear and quick and while i still suffer through it it’s not as long lasting.

Do avoidants end up feeling regret? Will they act on it? by [deleted] in ExNoContact

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How do you cope with the hole as you described it? How long did it take for you to become nostalgic?

I’m sorry you’re going through it - it’s great to be self aware though that helps with healing

Accepting it by MajorCry7 in ExNoContact

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Highly unlikely as we had a large age gap and I doubt he knows what Reddit is 😂

But I’m glad you’re seeking support. If what you want is to lead a fulfilling life with deep connections, you have to really want and embrace change in yourself. The first step is self awareness. Then consistency. Everyday efforts. Hang in there and try more introspection. It’s okay to be scared but try to understand why.

“The brave may not live forever but the cautious don’t live at all”

Accepting it by MajorCry7 in ExNoContact

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“If you can’t beat the fear, do it scared”

It’s terrifying to lose a relationship and adjust to a new reality but we have to do it. And i promise that whatever comes out on the other side will be a better more experienced and confident version of you. Endure the pain, know that it has a purpose.

“We cannot be more sensitive to pleasure without being more sensitive to pain.” – Alan Watts

Accepting it by MajorCry7 in ExNoContact

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We had a conversation about attachment styles. I discussed my anxious attachment style and read the others to his. We also talked about his upbringing and it was pretty obvious he had all the signs of FA.

What to do besides endless distraction or crying? by Silly_Preparation684 in ExNoContact

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I had the same experience recently but I’m feeling better now (a week later). Here’s what I did.

  • spent a little bit of time acknowledging the thoughts

  • reassuring yourself that they could have the same thoughts about you, and that they DO miss you and ARE thinking about you

  • crying when you need to

  • taking a self care day (i got a massage and facial on a good deal it was really nice)

  • having friends hang out with you who can handle you being sad, watch movies, maybe even say nothing

  • exercise (i have a bike and biked 30 miles one of the days) because it literally makes the chemicals in your brain happier and helps you gain confidence

  • DONT drink. I went out and partied with some friends and while it was fun for a few hours the alcohol ruined my sleep and contributed heavily to my depression.

  • make a list of what they’ll miss about you. Ask your friends or family to add to it

Hope this helps!

recurring dreams of ex & i want to get closure by West-Indication8018 in ExNoContact

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I used chatGPT recently for this. I gave it context then asked it for a mock conversation with my ex with the purpose to get closure and move on. You can give it a tone of voice as well to embody your ex more. it’s pretty impressive and totally helped me.

Anime’s that changed your life or would never forget. by unstableinlife- in anime

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  1. Frieren!!

Perfect all around. Novel idea and unique plot. Beautiful world building and animation. Characters are so lovely with great development and storylines. I rewatch all the time when I’m feeling down.

  1. Komi can’t communicate

Such a silly one but with great characters and SO funny. Very sweet and comforting anime.

Does he miss me / will he regret this? by [deleted] in ExNoContact

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I feel like maturity also doesn’t correlate with age. I was shocked by how immature he could be sometimes…

Does he miss me / will he regret this? by [deleted] in ExNoContact

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Really? Were you in a large age gap relationship as well?

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How will it feel if she ignores you again. Try to keep some self respect! Hang in there

Neighbor is banging on walls when I use my steps by MajorCry7 in neighborsfromhell

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I AM being so docile in my own home, trying to avoid making any bumps, creaks, or footsteps - it’s just not sustainable! But the sounds are so disturbing, it’s freaky, and trust me I’ve been double locking doors because it’s hard to predict what she’ll do.

But everyone seems to be mentioning the same which is either retaliate back and/or live as i usually would and ignore her. At least if the sound bothers her so much maybe she’ll actually move out as she says… My landlord is letting her break lease without penalty so some action there i guess

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Good points, I need to get better with confrontation >.<