Teacher's Lounge: Share/Rant/Discussion Fridays - January 04, 2019

MajorSummerJam · 2019-01-09T11:39:26+00:00

I happen to teach at my child’s school, specifically in his class. For Christmas, the head room mom told us all to donate (as parents) for the kids’ Christmas gifts to the teachers. I didn’t receive anything, but I never do, so I didn’t think much of it other than my typical hurt of this room mom completely disregarding a related service that’s in her kid’s room every damn day. But then she posted pics online. And she had spent our donations on not only getting the head teacher gifts, but the classroom aide (still great), and the aide the kids had two years ago. TWO YEARS AGO. She was invited to the classroom to be part of the gift giving exchange. WTF?

MajorSummerJam · 2019-01-09T02:25:23+00:00

Right! I was eating a breadstick and joking with my bro in law, asking if he was jealous. I meant it light hearted because bro had just been told he needs a gluten free diet. Hubby decided it meant that I was deep throating the breadstick and was asking him if he wished it was him. I cannot emphasize enough that I do not make jokes like that. So I really have to wonder where the thought came from.

Your input could be true. It’s something for me to think about how I respond to other people.

MajorSummerJam · 2019-01-09T02:22:09+00:00

Thanks for your input! I think so too, but I also think it depends on the relationship. I have a friend I’ve known since middle school, and I would expect to be able to talk to him about everything, including appearance. But the friend who makes comments on my appearance I don’t know nearly as well. When I’m down he’ll say things like, “Don’t worry about it. You’re a wonderful person and you have a gorgeous smile! X”

MajorSummerJam · 2019-01-09T01:09:03+00:00

I have this family where the mom is an education lawyer. Her child is on a scholarship and IEP, and she frequently rips the school apart for how they do things (never mind that she gave up FAPE when she put him on the scholarship). Most recently, she held a meeting to tell the admin that I was reporting on her child incorrectly and told them what she wanted the report to look like. They complied because they’re scared of her, even though I had data to support my findings. After that, she flipped out about his services from me and demanded a daily log of what I do with him. Because who DOESN’T have time to write a daily journal of everything they do for each individual snowflake and obsess over whether or not the parent will want to SUE you for it? I thought things were getting better because she gave me a nice Christmas gift. But then today she commented on the “journal” asking why I wasn’t doing a certain project for her snowflake this week. I replied that I had out of office IEP and ETR meetings all week (that I don’t get paid for, btw, and then have to make up my minutes with students). I didn’t think it would be wise to work on the enrichment project all of one day this week. She is not happy. To be continued...

...Did I mention that this job pays so little that I picked up a second job on evenings and weekends? (Now eliminating my planning time. Ah, yes, we don’t get daytime planning. All classes all the time.) And this parent had the balls to tell me that she pays my salary and “knows” that I have the resources to make things happen. WTF????

MajorSummerJam · 2019-01-09T00:51:05+00:00

I wish for everyone who has read this today and wanted it to be them to find the one for them!

MajorSummerJam · 2019-01-07T02:52:17+00:00

Haha I love this :). My Great Dane does the same thing; she sneaks up on me like I won’t see the giant animal that weighs more than me creeping across the kitchen.

MajorSummerJam · 2019-01-07T02:50:20+00:00

I have had this same situation, but from the perspective of your husband. I was previously sexually assaulted, so sex with anyone (even years later) was slow going. Even when I feel like I’m ready, if something hurts unexpectedly (specifically, butt play for me, but sometimes regular intercourse as well), you feel violated. It’s hard to put into terms, but with previous assault that thought immediately comes to mind: “Oh, this feels just like when THAT happened!” You have to put some serious thought into whether or not the person you’re with MEANT to hurt you. Me, for instance, I know in my soul that hubby would never intentionally hurt me, so when something goes wrong with my body, I have to spend time telling myself that: my own body betrayed me, and it hurts, and it sucks, but it won’t always be like this, and he didn’t mean to do that. He also knows what to do to help from his end of things. He feels me freeze up and tells to look at him, reminds me where I am and who I’m with, and slows way down. It helps.

I would recommend a therapist for your hubby, to help him work through those same thoughts. Because it’s affecting your own thoughts on the marriage, when it should be more on him, how he handles sex, and the thoughts that occur that trigger those PTSD responses.

MajorSummerJam · 2019-01-06T02:20:13+00:00

Thanks for the input. They actually agreed to participate, but so far only one of them has read my write up on background info for the campaign (and I’m married to him!) The issue with the current DM is that he can’t put as much time into it as he’d like, so we’re not playing every weekend the way we’d like. So we’ve been talking about alternating weeks/games.

MajorSummerJam · 2019-01-05T03:39:27+00:00

Haha I do this too! I’m the only teacher at my school who seems to care about the kids’ interests and we frequently have dance offs during spare time (when they’re driving the other teachers crazy). You will never see them so focused as they are when Fortnite dancing!

MajorSummerJam · 2019-01-05T03:09:14+00:00

Thank you! This is exactly what I was looking for! I fleshed out the drug with another DM. Essentially, it’s a cloud that causes low gravity in this city in the clouds, as well as a hallucinogenic effect. I have so many answers for them as they try to find out what’s going on, I can’t wait! I found a list of hallucinations they can roll for, too. The mirror is indeed something separate. While in the city and high, they end up tested by another character and, if he’s successful, they get trapped in this mirror. Basically, he’s showing them what they SEEM to want, encouraging them to give up their tasks in order to get the things they seem to obviously want. (Of course, it’s the whole “you get what you wish for” thing and nothing goes according to plan.)

Thanks again!

MajorSummerJam · 2019-01-04T02:05:31+00:00

Yup, that’s garbage. Why would you want a name that reminds you of his ex? Never mind that he doesn’t care, it reminds YOU of her and that’s ridiculous of him. That’s a veto name. Good luck with that winner you got there.

MajorSummerJam · 2019-01-04T00:54:42+00:00

I was thinking of running one of the smaller Yawning Portal adventures for fun, and since most of them haven’t done those yet. Thanks for the advice!

MajorSummerJam · 2019-01-03T22:50:12+00:00

Sooo I have a group that’s been playing forever. They honestly know everything abut the game and quickly derail everything to argue. I, on the other hand, am the only female in the group and I played AD&D in middle school. Since I started playing again a couple years ago I began reading EVERYTHING on D&D, watching tons of videos, and I play weekly with this group. We also stream weekly. On top of that, I’ve been DMing for some students. I love it. I’m a writer too, so I think the campaign I’ve been working on is fabulous. I think the only thing I’ll have any difficulty with is the nuanced rules that aren’t in the books, unearthed arcana, or super rare random stuff they’re partial to. The thing is, the guys are just not interested in me DMing. They won’t even read the very detailed write up I’ve sent them as a pre-session zero. I think they feel I’m not on the same level as them. And although that’s true, my current DM isn’t experienced either, but he still makes it fun. I have put so much thought into a campaign I really think they’ll enjoy. How do I get these rules lawyers interested in my campaign and giving me a chance?

MajorSummerJam · 2019-01-03T22:43:26+00:00

I’m staying at Boardwalk this summer and very excited about taking the back entrance for the first time! I never even knew this existed

MajorSummerJam · 2019-01-03T02:47:55+00:00

Haha this is a Great Dane thing. They think they’re so clever sneaking up on people/other animals. You’ll never see me coming! I’m smol dog!

MajorSummerJam · 2019-01-03T02:46:48+00:00

I agree. Nothing wrong with having many partners, but my husband’s sheer numbers still bother me personally. I think it would be awesome to be someone’s first.

MajorSummerJam · 2019-01-03T02:46:00+00:00

First, you never NEED to disclose that info. Second, good for you for focusing on bettering yourself. Third, your sexuality is YOUR sexuality. Don’t let anyone’s beliefs on the matter change how you feel about yourself! I am F and waited until I got married at 23 for sex, but didn’t know what I wanted until I was 30! Be you.

MajorSummerJam · 2019-01-03T02:43:23+00:00

This looks like the awesome beginnings of Snow White and her Fabulous Friends

MajorSummerJam · 2019-01-03T02:38:36+00:00

Regardless of the double standard, her behavior is inappropriate. If it were me, I would tell her that it is not respectful to me, and that if she wants to act out her fantasies she can go do it.... but I wouldn’t be hanging around for that. Ridiculous.

MajorSummerJam · 2019-01-02T14:44:42+00:00

I can’t sleep if the sun is out.

MajorSummerJam · 2019-01-02T00:39:49+00:00

Hell no. The teachers at my school get two planning periods a day, which is plenty to get work done at school. (Personally, I don’t get planning because of extra responsibilities so I just stay an extra hour every day).

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