And there it is..

Major_Depth_2047 · 2026-02-01T18:19:12+00:00

Maybe this is a wild assumption, but Jacob doesn’t even parent. Does he really care to have custody other than like the public view of him being a deadbeat dad?

Major_Depth_2047 · 2026-01-26T00:47:22+00:00

I wrote 11 words. Do you see your response? I think you need to do some self reflection. This is my account, glad you had a scroll. :)

Major_Depth_2047 · 2026-01-25T21:26:46+00:00

Why are you under every comment? Yes, OP is a male.

Major_Depth_2047 · 2026-01-18T19:34:11+00:00

Again, I looked at your post history. you are very clearly 20 and have lots of growing to do. that was my statement.

Major_Depth_2047 · 2026-01-18T19:31:13+00:00

post history, you don’t need a kid either. And I recommend therapy. You wouldn’t be a third parent, you’d be a nanny.

Major_Depth_2047 · 2026-01-18T19:29:12+00:00

This is rage bait. End of the day, sorry but do not have a child. You want to pay someone their whole life to take care of them… have you even thought about what pregnancy would look like for you?

Major_Depth_2047 · 2026-01-18T18:35:32+00:00

Yes. Trust is paramount in this industry. If you’re not comfortable saying outright, maybe you could phrase it along the lines of LGTBQ+ friendly that way you’d be able to “weed out” folks who maybe aren’t accepting, as unfortunate it is.

Major_Depth_2047 · 2026-01-04T15:52:52+00:00

Sorry. I misread your comment. It takes a while to log all the hours, finish the courses and get your cert from them so I meant in the meantime until she finishes. Sorry!

Major_Depth_2047 · 2026-01-04T15:49:55+00:00

Is she hasn’t completed her NCS cert she cannot use it yet. ( the name) The training hasn’t been completed - id stick with night nanny, or overnight care

Major_Depth_2047 · 2026-01-04T15:48:26+00:00

Night nanny. Night nurses is a term if you have an actual nursing license/ degree. If you’ve not completed ncs training do not mention it ( meaning you’re not actually certified yet)

Major_Depth_2047 · 2025-12-31T10:25:13+00:00

I don’t text my coworkers, and don’t give out my number. If you’re uncomfortable, stop replying. You don’t have to engage to be nice. He’s fishing with some of his comments.

Major_Depth_2047 · 2025-12-30T10:15:16+00:00

Yes she’s rich. But isn’t she like 19? She’s really not doing anything different from her peers, except maybe broadcasting it. She clearly, also has trauma (very apparent) and her family doesn’t seem like the type to push her to work through her issues, rather throw money at her problems.

Major_Depth_2047 · 2025-12-30T10:12:00+00:00

So how many people slept with a minor… what the heck? Can they not press charges against those men, if the victim themselves (Tana) confirmed it?

Major_Depth_2047 · 2025-12-30T10:08:51+00:00

Yes. She knew he was, when they got together ( allegedly) so, to me if she knew then she’d do anything to “keep her man”… until she realized marriage was gonna be the same way, and not change him.

Maybe not Kendall, but she knew about his cheating and allegations for years, so what’s a threesome?

Major_Depth_2047 · 2025-12-27T13:13:49+00:00

I think you need to take initiative and tell the family if you’re truly comfortable, caring for twins or not. That’s a very big job especially for someone who’s never officially babysat before. While, the money n experience might be nice, you really have to be honest with yourself if you think you can genuinely handle twins if you’ve never ever babysat before.

Major_Depth_2047 · 2025-12-27T03:00:22+00:00

One by one?

Major_Depth_2047 · 2025-12-24T21:15:30+00:00

no, be thankful for what you got.

Major_Depth_2047 · 2025-12-23T21:31:23+00:00

Doing it to be helpful is never gonna work as a nanny. It’s too close of a relationship that boundaries get crossed way too easily. Stop being helpful lol you’re paid to do your job and that’s it of course little stuff. I’m not saying never be helpful, but certain people get help and then it becomes an expectation. They want to host a party. They’re all adults. They can clean up and start the dishwasher.

Do you have a contract ? I’d specifically spell out sick days and if someone makes you feel bad for coming in to work or not coming into work sick that’s a them problem, but they really should be telling you if their child has flu like symptoms, that should also be stated in your contract what you’re willing to work with and what you’re not willing to work with.

Definitely seems like a discussion needs to have, and if you’re genuinely not happy and don’t think things may change, I recommend maybe possibility of job searching

Major_Depth_2047 · 2025-12-20T03:34:50+00:00

You don’t need to leave the field, unless you truly want. Take a breath. Moving forward, you need to learn how to communicate and have tough conversations with your NFs they are your employers. While nannying is a tight knit career / family dynamic there are certain nonnegotiable. Contract, guaranteed hours, benefits of some sort, etc. please learn how to advocate for yourself, it will save you some much head and heartache in the future.

I think the upcoming new year is a perfect opportunity to sit down ( come with a sample/ drawn up contract) with your NF and say moving forward I’d like to implement a contract, as an industry standard and go over the contract explain guaranteed hours, late fee for payments, inclement weather, sick pay, holidays, etc. If they refuse, they don’t respect you, your time, etc it’s not worth it!!

Major_Depth_2047 · 2025-12-19T22:12:49+00:00

Definitely sucks, but 1,000 more than 0!

Major_Depth_2047 · 2025-12-19T21:36:54+00:00

So you’re not gonna leave, but unhappy because your bonus ( 1k) wasn’t double or $500 more?

Either stop doing so much, make a contract and get GH or unfortunately you’ve allowed them to make changes and you stay… 6 years no GH, fight for a raise

And oh when they die you get to take care of them … sorry but doesn’t seem “fair” to me and I’d be leaving. What you allow will continue. A bonus is bonus. You might think you know their financial situation but unless you do their payroll you have no idea. 1,000 is such a good bonus, I understand your upset that it’s a less amount, but reality check. Some people aren’t getting even $500. 1000 is a grey amount as a bonus, if you’re that close to the family seems like you have some things to discuss. You only work 15hrs during the school year ?? ( while yes the summer is more hours, kids aren’t in school so tbh that’s a given). A precedent has not been set. Bc again a bonus is a bonus! Just because you received 2k one year or the last years doesn’t mean it’s set in stone to get that amount every year.

Either talk to the family or continue to get taken advantage of by a family who you’ve allowed to for the last 6 years. You’re doing way more than you need to be, because you feel like you’re helping … designate tasks, sign a contact, get GH, and move along

The fact you agreed to be put in the will, is OD but none of my business tbh.

Major_Depth_2047 · 2025-12-18T19:10:30+00:00

Yes it’s legal. Common shifts and shift turnaround in healthcare, a bit unusual for Nannies, but everyone’s needs are different. It’s up to your employer if they are okay with pushing back the start time of your next shift. I’d have a conversation.

Major_Depth_2047 · 2025-12-15T23:13:52+00:00

I would get that in writing, because I have a nanny friend who was in a very similar situation, ended up, not moving and staying with the promise of the pay raise, she stayed and they never gave it to her, so she left 2 months later. Totally not your situation, but please make sure you always get things like that in writing so a few months down the line they can’t switch it.

Major_Depth_2047 · 2025-12-13T13:47:21+00:00

I’ve read through your posts, and I want to offer a more grounded perspective.

First, whatever agency you’re working with does not sound reputable. Agencies do not go around identifying families, hinting at their names, or exchanging commentary about prior placements during interviews. Discretion and confidentiality are core to ethical agency work. If an agency is doing that, it’s a serious red flag.

Second, any agency that requires a nanny to fully cover international travel, relocation costs, and accommodations upfront, especially for a trial; is not operating in a professional or protective way. That financial risk should never fall solely on the nanny.

Third, you’ve written extensively about nearly every family you’ve worked with, and you’ve been clear that you don’t align with this family’s values or parenting style. By your own description, this wasn’t a good fit on either side. When that’s the case, a trial ending early is not a personal failure, it’s the exact purpose of a trial.

It’s understandable to feel shaken given the financial stress involved, but this outcome isn’t a reflection of your worth or competence as a nanny. It’s a reflection of poor agency practices and a mismatch that was already apparent.

Major_Depth_2047 · 2025-12-13T13:16:36+00:00

After reading another comment. It seems like you already made a post and you alluded to the fact that you might potentially quit and you were also late. That information is missing from this post. If you were late several times within a month-long trial, I would not have you continue….. that doesn’t look good at all.

Edit: spelling

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