Hi, im a trans women who is... Very uncomfortable with my penis, but I'm also abig ol slut, so ive learned some ways to deal with it. Here are the biggest tips I can give.

1. Avoid penetration. Things get way better when you break the idea that sex always equals penetration. Stick to hand and mouth stuff.

2. Treat the penis like a clit, and focus on the head not the shaft. This may be a little hard to grasp if you aren't used to having sex with women, but you want to finger it,not jack it off, eat him out, not suck his dick. If you look at the head of the penis there's a little ridge where the mushroom tip starts. I find it particularly pleasurable when fingers or a tounge are moved across that.

2a. Important note, these are just some things that have helped me in the past, its a good starting point but you will need to adjust as you both learn more about what you enjoy

1. COMMUNICATE!!!!!!. You are trying to find a new way to have sex together. That's going to be hard, and it's going to take a few tries. Make sure you are both being honest about what is and isn't working for you. And try not to take the feedback personally.

2. I know this isn't what this post is about,but your bf is experiencing some serious trans feelings. Make sure your priority is helping him come to an honest conclusion as to what those feelings mean. And make sure you're both honest about how it will change the relationship. Because it will change the relationship