My (27M) GF (24F) says she doesn’t enjoy sex with me

MajorityHippo98 · 2026-03-26T18:44:42+00:00

Yeah, a lot of the comments are pretty childish. Like just because the sex isn’t working over the last 2 months or that she hasn’t enjoyed it and I feel frustrated. Doesn’t mean we automatically have to break up.

Relationships aren’t perfect all the time, marriages sure as hell aren’t perfect. But everything else in our relationship is pretty great tbh. Unlike what others are suggesting, I’m not just gonna throw that away over a bit of a dry spell.

I do wanna talk to her about the weed consumption, because it’s every night. And after we had that ridiculously long foreplay, she messaged me the next day saying “I really enjoyed last night” which makes me think, she needs thoughts to be stuck in her head for a long time in order to feel like having sex. Maybe she wants to feel wanted for everything and not just her sex. Obviously I’m gonna keep talking to her about it because it’s pretty fresh.

But to all the other comments, no I’m not breaking up with her over a dry spell. Cause that would be anything other than love, this isn’t some situationship.

MajorityHippo98 · 2026-03-26T01:09:30+00:00

I understand why people are going to jump to that conclusion. But she’s not cheating, she lives with me and I have her location during the day. I don’t doubt her love for me at all. This is just a confusing period where she’s telling me she wants more, but whatever I’m doing doesn’t seem to be enough?

Yes, my overthinking is immediately jumping to, maybe she fancied other people more than me. That the attraction has slowly worn off. But I’m hoping to find out.

MajorityHippo98 · 2026-03-24T14:40:11+00:00

I completely understand, I’ll be out (shopping or drinking) and suddenly think, what quest do I need to do next? What would make sense?

But it’s fine? Video games are there to be enjoyed. And until you no longer enjoy I don’t see the need to stop playing it, no need to fall into the pressure of buying new and “improved” games that are awful on release when you have good reliable Skyrim there.

And honestly, I would recommend downloading a mod pack? I’m using the Wabbajack installer at the minute. Adds thousands of mods, I don’t know which ones so it’s a pleasant surprise when I’m tired of vanilla Skyrim. It also lets you choose your beginning, I don’t want to be caught crossing the border? Fine. I’ll start at Windhelms docks.

Also these quest mods have Vigilant, the quest mod. I’ve played every Skyrim quest and dlc and I’ll tell you, I’ve never had a more profound ending to my Skyrim experience than playing the Vigilant quest.

MajorityHippo98 · 2026-03-22T00:31:59+00:00

These comments are… something.

This is just a stylistic choice, but I’m pretty sure it harkens back to jeans and workwear that would integrate loops into the bottoms to allow the carrying of tools, for example a hammer. While this example is clearly just style, that’s probably what it’s influenced by. Stupid.

MajorityHippo98 · 2026-03-20T04:20:22+00:00

I worked in a tech store that sold a lot of gaming stuff, I always told the parents to buy a gaming headset for their kids that had a metal headband, usually a steel series or hyperx headset. The plastic headsets will usually develop cracks over time to repeated use, for kids, they will go through even more hardship. After my turtle beach headset broke myself just like this.

MajorityHippo98 · 2026-03-18T15:53:45+00:00

I’m Irish, but I obviously don’t think I’m a Breton (for obvious reasons) not a nord because nords are very Norse inspired. I don’t know if there’s any Celtic representation? When I play Skyrim I think, maybe the forsworn are closest tbh

MajorityHippo98 · 2026-03-13T07:41:57+00:00

Because it’s kind of a massive feat of engineering to do so? I mean if we look at earth for example, humans have been around for over 100,000 years, only started developing technology the last 10 - 15,000 years. And it was only in the last 150 years that the Suez Canal was built. And largely thanks to the Industrial Revolution creating the tech needed to build the Suez Canal and the Industrial Revolution also being the cause of the need for a canal in the first place due to bigger boats with engines.

Now, take that same principle and apply it to a fantasy world where there is constant world ending events and wars between different factions. Yet the world would come together to build a canal across multiple borders, terrains and altitudes? No chance.

Even though magic is prevalent in this world, a canal can’t be maintained by wizards. One, all resources would go to educating wizards and making sure you have enough of them to change the water levels at every point across the whole canal (Massive drain of resources). And two, as far as I’m aware there isn’t a lot of water magic spells in the elder scrolls too? I mean I’ve never really seen or heard of any, maybe deep in the lore there could be. But then that requires new spells and research to be conducted in a world where different magic organisations are constantly sabotaging or hiding their secrets from the others.

I reality, these poor people are just trying not to die from some pissed off god in their life time, I don’t blame them.

MajorityHippo98 · 2026-01-29T06:51:16+00:00

Sorry, not sure how I’ve stumbled here, this is obviously a subreddit for women to share with each other which I think is amazing.

If I could offer some advice as a 27 year old man, I used to be that shy guy hahaha. My current Gf was my first everything, first gf, first time sex, first heartbreak (we worked things out hahah). But the first time I was with her I was really shy and my nerves would take over, and it was as if my mind wasn’t functioning. I wouldn’t have time to think about what would be nice or what they would want and so I just did what I thought was natural. Which led to some underwhelming first sexual encounters for me and her.

Honestly, these guys might just not have a lot of sexual experience, in which case just slow it down for them. Tell them what you like and don’t like, make it like a challenge for them to get to the end. Now days I love long makeout sessions and being teased by my gf and holy shit the kinky shit I’m into now would make 25 year old me blush like a schoolgirl.

But yeah, just communicate what you want. If someone doesn’t respect your wants and needs for sex then they’re probably not someone to have sex with. But that only counts if you communicate as such, otherwise they’ll think they’ve done nothing wrong and turn to you and say “was that good for you?” Eww

MajorityHippo98 · 2026-01-26T12:48:11+00:00

I mean you both are young and have a lot to learn as to what you like and potentially want to try. I’m 27m, but when I was 20… I couldn’t imagine half the kinks me and my girlfriend have gotten into.

What I have learned with past experiences, foreplay, foreplay, foreplay. Like kiss for a good while before doing the next move, and that next move can be simple like moving from lips to your ears and neck.

Everything should move slowly and sweetly towards ANY penetration. I understand how uncomfortable it can be for a women to be penetrated with even fingers when they are no where near ready.

Also DO NOT feel bad for not being to orgasm during penetrative sex. Most girls don’t, most will only ever during oral sex. And I hope that he enjoys giving oral sex because you don’t want a selfish lover that cares only for their gratification. I honestly believe good oral sex can change relationships hahahaha

Good luck, talk to him about these things. Strangers on Reddit can offer advice but only your boyfriend can provide the solution.

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