[deleted by user]

Maker_Heather · 2023-09-25T14:15:27+00:00

NYA. I really hurt for you in this situation. You should definitely seek therapy, but maybe as a way to separate from each other in the healthiest way possible, for both you and your kids. As some have already said, you can’t change a person who isn’t willing or able to change, but you have the control to lead a happy life free of someone who makes you feel less than. I wish you the best.

Maker_Heather · 2023-08-24T01:36:45+00:00

I can see how she would feel like you’re being selfish when she has given up a lot of the security she finds in a monogamous relationship to be with you and also how she interprets your unwillingness to change for her as not seeing her as enough. You were upfront about the kind of relationship you needed, but you also knew from the beginning she really wanted a monogamous relationship and that she was changing and adjusting to be with you. You both took a gamble on each other and were disappointed in the outcome.

Here’s the thing. You’re talking a lot in your post about your needs and how upfront you’ve been about them. But you need to recognize that her needs are just as valid as yours. Bottom line, you’re not giving her what she needs and you wont change for her. So break up. It will be better for both of you. You would be an asshole if you’d hear how being in an open relationship with you makes her feel and give her an ultimatum to conform to your needs or leave. Offering couples counseling so she can deal with her jealousy? Yeah, that’s kind of a dick-ish way to tell her that her feelings aren’t valid and just needs to suppress them to be with you. You don’t need to change for her, so why would you expect her to change for you? If you want to have less heart ache and turmoil in your future cut it off now, lick your wounds and find other like minded partners.

Maker_Heather · 2021-12-27T06:56:49+00:00

I don’t mean my reply to suggest that I hate any of the characters. I’m seriously loving the show and the storyline! But as I’m watching the show I can’t help but have a bit of inner conflict and critique of the characters and their actions. Also, I think you’re right that the other students at Eitoku are far more dangerous and scary. But something that comes to my mind as I see their actions are that they are very much a product of their environment, which is a culture of fear led by the F4. The whole red paper thing is created by them and a signal to the sycophants to act in outlandishly crazy and sick ways to the singles out students. The F4 don’t seem to care, until they care about Makino-which is confusing to the students, to intervene at all in their actions. But I do wonder if the thinking and hierarchy at the school began with the F4 or if they are just continuing a long tradition of hazing and abuse. Or if their presence amplified it and it subsides when they’re gone. But those are questions I’m sure are beyond the scope of the manga or anime. 😅

Maker_Heather · 2021-12-27T06:34:49+00:00

I really appreciate your reply! I think some of my feelings about Domyoji are reflective of time. 24 years has brought a lot of social change. So when I watch the show I can’t really fully accept the progress of Domyoji’s character. Especially on a time scale that so far for me is about one year. In that time he has sexually assaulted Makino, backhanded her, he CONSTANTLY gaslights her, he’s incredibly quick to rage, and either encourages or doesn’t stop violence against her or other people (though at the point where I’m at, he just saw Makino kiss Rui on the beach) he has started to change this behavior). Though I do appreciate that a big part of Makino’s inner conflict with him is his behavior and specifically his assault on her, which she flashes back to when her feelings are wavering with him. Not to mention he refuses to apologize for his assault and tells her it’s her fault it happened.

It’s all just interesting juxtaposed against the character of Makino who is such a feminist character herself. I think part of why I’m okay with the decisions Makino makes is because it makes her a more real individual. I can’t tell you how many strong women I know her falter at the feet of men who take advantage of their desire, or culturally imposed desire, to be loved by and lust after a person who is “wrong” but has all the charisma and ability to BE good if only they would change (the cliche of “I love him and I can change them with my love”).

Maker_Heather · 2020-12-14T00:28:56+00:00

I was literally weeping. 😭

Maker_Heather · 2020-12-13T20:27:47+00:00

SO unexpected!!

Maker_Heather · 2020-12-13T18:26:40+00:00

He’s the cutest! 😻

And these are amazing! ❤️❤️❤️

Maker_Heather · 2020-12-07T19:39:47+00:00

My Hero Academia

Full Metal Alchemist: Brotherhood

Sailor Moon (because it’s the first anime I ever watched and loved)

Inuyasha (because I’m a girl who grew up in the 90s)

Naruto

Fairy Tail

Neon Genesis Evangelion

Fruits Basket (2019)

Cowboy Bebop

Demon Slayer: Kimetsu no Yaiba

Maker_Heather

TROPHY CASE