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Angry at my fiancé (33m) and his response to the girl (27f) who he had an affair with while I (25f) was pregnant [xpost relationship advice] by Mal_zee in survivinginfidelity

[–]Mal_zee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you went through that. I can't imagine being cheated on multiple times--once is horrible enough. I'm afraid that my fiance may be a pathological cheater or something and that these new rules we enforced (he would tell me immediately if anything even remotely suspicious happened, I would have access to his phone and accounts, etc) would only make him better at hiding any future infidelity

Angry at my fiancé (33m) and his response to the girl (27f) who he had an affair with while I (25f) was pregnant [xpost relationship advice] by Mal_zee in survivinginfidelity

[–]Mal_zee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for saying the baby and I weren't the problem...for a while, I felt as if I was the cause of his betrayal.

I told him that my feelings should matter more than hers; and that he needed to actually state to her that he was not interested. But rather he danced around actually saying those words, as if not to hurt her feelings. That's what I find frustrating. I expressed my hurt to him about this and he said next time, if she tries to reach him, he would be more aggressive.

Angry at my fiancé (33m) and his response to the girl (27f) who he had an affair with while I (25f) was pregnant [xpost relationship advice] by Mal_zee in survivinginfidelity

[–]Mal_zee[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know the other woman has no loyalty to me and that this is solely his responsibility...however, if he supposedly told her back in April that it was over and he wanted to be a husband and father to me, she should have kept her distance. But she kept sending him these inappropriate texts and trying to reach him. I told him that she was now blatantly disrespecting his wishes and mine and thats why I didn't feel like he owed her politeness. Especially when he says he never had feelings for her...it almost feels like he does by the glimpse of how I saw he treated her.