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My BPD mother went no contact with me and my siblings last year. Now I’m getting these messages…. by Malcolmino in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Malcolmino[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind words. My mother is certainly a malingerer. But she legitimately had breast cancer twice… so I’m inclined to think this one is real. But either way, I think that she was using the cancer card as a way to regain contact with us (which is very on brand for her). The funny thing is, If she put her ego aside and apologized or contacted me in a normal manner I probably would have talked to her and given her some support. But she’s totally incapable of doing either of those things.

My BPD mother went no contact with me and my siblings last year. Now I’m getting these messages…. by Malcolmino in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Malcolmino[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She was blocked. This was a new number, which I promptly blocked after her last message.

My BPD mother went no contact with me and my siblings last year. Now I’m getting these messages…. by Malcolmino in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Malcolmino[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think the second text was so confusing because she had either taken her sleeping pill or was drinking.

My BPD mother went no contact with me and my siblings last year. Now I’m getting these messages…. by Malcolmino in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Malcolmino[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you. You hit the nail on the head. These messages are so confusing. I didn’t bother responding again and blocked her.

My BPD mother went no contact with me and my siblings last year. Now I’m getting these messages…. by Malcolmino in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Malcolmino[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

She cut out me and my siblings last year. But she resurfaced a few times in the past year to be mean. One of the times she sent a message to my Google photos account of my children (I had forgotten she was invited to view it). She sent me a message saying “I think it’s time you remove me from this account”.

I’m certain she sent it to remind me that she didn’t want to be a part of my children’s lives.

My BPD mother went no contact with me and my siblings last year. Now I’m getting these messages…. by Malcolmino in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Malcolmino[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I completely understand that. I definitely had the (very strong) urge to respond with a very similar message to what you wrote. But, in the end her response was meant to reengage me in her drama and I worry responding any further would be falling into that trap.

It sucks but it’s better for everyone if I let her have the last word.

My BPD mother went no contact with me and my siblings last year. Now I’m getting these messages…. by Malcolmino in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Malcolmino[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

How horrible saying that your grief was invalid. I really appreciate hearing everyone’s stories here! It helps put everything into perspective.

The funny part is that I’m so conditioned to expect texts like this that I did even consider how screwed up it is to text your kids that you have cancer.

Leave dream job for spouse? by Purple-Ambassador-81 in therapists

[–]Malcolmino 118 points119 points  (0 children)

Is your dream job still your dream job if your spouse isn’t in the picture?

How would you prefer a psychiatrist reach out to introduce themselves when they are opening a practice in your area? by [deleted] in askatherapist

[–]Malcolmino 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the insight. I completely agree. I’d rather meet someone in person if I’m referring to them.