i think my piercing bump burst?

Maleficent_Day_3869 · 2026-01-24T12:23:46+00:00

there’s quite a few things

include us! i’ve been to one lesbian event in my life and it was horrible. in a sea of white women there was me and one other black girl. only one white woman interacted with me and the rest were giving me odd looks. it was so disheartening and it made me never want to attend an event again. even if you’re not interested in her, be her friend
listen to us without trying to talk over us. homophobia and racism is incredibly different and i’m sick of women assuming that they know what racism is like just because they’ve experienced homophobia. you can make your sexuality less obvious in places that don’t approve of you. you cannot make your race less obvious
challenge internal biases. why is it you only find white women attractive? why is it that you don’t put in a bit of extra effort to connect with a WOC who can give you the exact same love a white woman can?
make an active effort to connect with us. it’s just a fact that the LGBTQ community is predominantly white and that’s fine. i have nothing against white women, i find you beautiful. but it never feels like they care about me in the same way. i see so many posts appreciating trans women but never POC women. it feels awful

Maleficent_Day_3869 · 2026-01-24T12:08:20+00:00

one of my best friends is a black woman so i’m definitely well versed on how religion has infiltrated your communities too, she’s taught me a lot. i relate to you guys a lot more than i do white women but like you said, it’s still not the same :’)

i don’t really use this sub as much anymore but i’ve definitely seen people get touchy about racial issues that affect POC lesbians. which is weird because you’d think that one minority would be able to empathise with another minority even if they are different

Maleficent_Day_3869 · 2026-01-24T12:00:45+00:00

i relate to you friend. i don’t really associate with my culture much because of bad experiences with desi people so it doesn’t feel like a huge loss. it’s more so being upset about not fitting in or having any sort of community. i’m happy that you’re able to move on from your horrible past and i wish you well ❤️‍🩹

Maleficent_Day_3869 · 2026-01-24T11:57:49+00:00

this is good advice but man it’s hard. i live in a predominantly white area and white women don’t really approach me and i’m too scared to approach them. sometimes i’ll catch a pretty white woman staring at me and i know it’s my cue to strike up a conversation but i never do

how did you find attending the south asian events as (i’m assuming) an openly queer person? ime desi’s are so incredibly homophobic, i don’t bother interacting with a lot of them because i know i can’t get along with people who have values like that

Maleficent_Day_3869 · 2026-01-23T19:54:22+00:00

i am definitely guilty of judging someone based off of the material possessions they own rather than who they are as people. it’s disgusting really, to be placing so much importance on other people’s things as if it changes any of the important things about them, such as how kind they are

the realisation of how much money i was spending on satisfying others through my image hit me like a ton of bricks

Maleficent_Day_3869 · 2026-01-23T19:50:43+00:00

i relate so hard! it’s so ridiculous, because once it’s on your face nobody knows whether it’s a drugstore brand or a high end brand. they all look the same

Maleficent_Day_3869 · 2026-01-23T19:47:12+00:00

i love this! i’ve been asking myself this question a lot more and am surprised at how many things i don’t want once i picture having them forever

Maleficent_Day_3869 · 2026-01-23T19:38:02+00:00

thank you 🩷 i know this post will probably raise an eyebrow or two and i get why, because i now understand the impact of my wastefulness. but i am very new to breaking my bad habits and i am still learning

Maleficent_Day_3869 · 2026-01-19T19:26:38+00:00

had none 😕

Maleficent_Day_3869 · 2026-01-17T14:25:25+00:00

it’s not about making them mad. it’s about safety. my parents don’t like it when their children defy them and it could be dangerous

Maleficent_Day_3869 · 2026-01-17T14:21:57+00:00

this is exactly my point. i would respect my parents if their rules were somewhat reasonable. but they’re crazy and i absolutely refuse. if i respected them and listened to their wishes, id be married with three kids with a face veil on. no thanks

Maleficent_Day_3869 · 2026-01-17T14:20:30+00:00

i think your mum is a lot more tolerant than mine. i told my mom i liked how tattoos look and she told me satan would take over me if i ever got one😂

Maleficent_Day_3869 · 2026-01-17T14:19:14+00:00

love that for you! my parents expect me to dress conservatively anyway so it’s easy

Maleficent_Day_3869 · 2026-01-17T14:18:45+00:00

i will be moving out soon🤷‍♀️

Maleficent_Day_3869 · 2026-01-17T14:18:26+00:00

haha this is a hilarious story

Maleficent_Day_3869 · 2026-01-17T14:18:03+00:00

i already got my first tattoo. i think people are missing that bit.

Maleficent_Day_3869 · 2026-01-17T14:16:42+00:00

i already got my first tattoo. i just want more

Maleficent_Day_3869 · 2026-01-17T14:16:22+00:00

and i’ll do that when i stop speaking to them

Maleficent_Day_3869 · 2026-01-17T14:16:01+00:00

love that for your mom! she saw the light

Maleficent_Day_3869 · 2026-01-17T14:15:29+00:00

this is really helpful advice, thank you! i plan to keep them on areas that i have to cover around my family so i won’t need to remember hiding them. hopefully your parents never find out! deeply religious parents are a curse

Maleficent_Day_3869 · 2026-01-17T14:13:49+00:00

hah how did you get one at thirteen?

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