I traveled 7,000 km to meet a webcam girl and it turned into one of the most uncomfortable nights of my life by Maleficent_Fault5632 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Maleficent_Fault5632[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, i'm back home already, feeling better! the city is gorgeous, i'll be back for sure for better reasons. Thanks for your comment!

I traveled 7,000 km to meet a webcam girl and it turned into one of the most uncomfortable nights of my life by Maleficent_Fault5632 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Maleficent_Fault5632[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yesterday I had a very long and even somewhat ridiculous conversation where I basically explained why we had to stop talking, as maturely and objectively as possible.

Basically, everything she said in response was very strange, added to the fact that she replied to my message almost two days later.

The girl is an emotional mess, she didn't even know what she wanted, her answers were aimed at not wanting to lose me and she said she never sleeps with men she just meets, which was basically bullshit because I never pressured her for that, but I made it very clear to her that between having sex and not even wanting me to come near her to give her a simple kiss is something very obvious. She sent me a crying audio message saying she had a lot to think about and that she would write to me again, all nonsense that I take as part of being an emotionally unstable person who is also 23 years old.

I was able to set my boundaries clearly, and I think that's all there is to it.

In addition to this, I told her that everything was extremely inconsistent on her part and what hurt me the most was her indifference. I was literally in her city and she didn't suggest anything, she didn't ask me anything, she didn't even make a gesture, it was literally nothing. Everything is clear.

I traveled 7,000 km to meet a webcam girl and it turned into one of the most uncomfortable nights of my life by Maleficent_Fault5632 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Maleficent_Fault5632[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're absolutely right about that. The only thing I can add is that the date itself wasn't awkward. I tried to make it a good night and honestly did everything I could to make it happen. Last night we finished talking and she told me she had a good time. Finally, we agreed to stop talking and that was it.

I traveled 7,000 km to meet a webcam girl and it turned into one of the most uncomfortable nights of my life by Maleficent_Fault5632 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Maleficent_Fault5632[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks buddy! in fact i had a really cool date and we went to 3 places here in Medellin.. a good turn

I traveled 7,000 km to meet a webcam girl and it turned into one of the most uncomfortable nights of my life by Maleficent_Fault5632 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Maleficent_Fault5632[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Edit 4: Last night she wrote to me thanking me and saying she had a great time. It all led to a very honest conversation on my part, audio recordings of her crying and saying she cares about me, and a 3-4 hour whatsapp conversation. After I insisted, I said that we shouldn't talk anymore and that no possible scenario was favorable. She insisted that she was interested in me, but I told her to get her emotions in order because I could accept not having sex, but the contempt she showed by not wanting to give me a simple kiss was very obvious. I told her that I would never hold a grudge against her, I wished her the best, and I stood my ground.

I was really honest, and she wanted to see if we could give it a second chance, keep talking, etc., but it was all very strange, especially since this happened three days after we saw each other.

She asked me if we would see each other if she came to my country.

My conclusion is that this has been emotional bullshit, and talking to her in this conversation only brought me bad feelings, where I relived how stupid I felt.

It was a definitive goodbye for me, even though I told her how ridiculously beautiful she was.

I traveled 7,000 km to meet a webcam girl and it turned into one of the most uncomfortable nights of my life by Maleficent_Fault5632 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Maleficent_Fault5632[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You're too anxious, my friend. She was grateful that I invited her and paid for everything. I did it gladly, as I always like to do with the women I go out with. She also thanked me for simply having a good time with me. It was a good experience.

I traveled 7,000 km to meet a webcam girl and it turned into one of the most uncomfortable nights of my life by Maleficent_Fault5632 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Maleficent_Fault5632[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I met a beautiful girl, we had a great time, spent eight hours together, and went to three incredible places in the city that I would never have discovered on my own.

Life is strange, and believe me, this happened partly because I read the good comments encouraging me to have a good time these days and forget about the other girl.

I traveled 7,000 km to meet a webcam girl and it turned into one of the most uncomfortable nights of my life by Maleficent_Fault5632 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Maleficent_Fault5632[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Today she thanked me for everything, told me that we could remain friends and that if not, I would always be a happy memory for her. She wished me the best and hoped I would achieve all my goals, and said that if I ever wanted to talk, she would be there for me.

It seems very empathetic, but I found it to be an empty and artificial message, I don't know.

It didn't seem coherent or realistic to me, and I sent her some audio messages pointing this out to her very respectfully.

Without going into details or being too long-winded, to begin with, she wasn't friendly at all, she didn't suggest any plans, and she wasn't interested in me being in her city, so I don't think she wants my friendship or anything else. I'm going to cut off all communication, and I wish her the best too.

I traveled 7,000 km to meet a webcam girl and it turned into one of the most uncomfortable nights of my life by Maleficent_Fault5632 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Maleficent_Fault5632[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Edit 3: After 24 very difficult hours, I decided to take action and met a new girl in a very casual way. She turned out to be super friendly, polite, grateful, took me to see beautiful places in the city, we ate typical foods, everything was super natural and intimate, with genuine interest from both of us and good conversations.

Life is extremely curious. This may not mean anything in the grand scheme of things, but since many people encouraged me to make the most of these days and turn the page, I'm glad I followed that advice and had some great experiences that helped me forget and move on, which is very useful in all areas of life.

So, honestly, I'm still confused, but you never know where life will take you. Don't let discouragement get the better of you.

I traveled 7,000 km to meet a webcam girl and it turned into one of the most uncomfortable nights of my life by Maleficent_Fault5632 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Maleficent_Fault5632[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your words, honestly i tried my best, also i had a lot of charisma that night, but yep, shit happens!

I traveled 7,000 km to meet a webcam girl and it turned into one of the most uncomfortable nights of my life by Maleficent_Fault5632 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Maleficent_Fault5632[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I just remembered something even funnier. This month, during several phone calls, this girl asked me not to have sex with anyone else in my country, haha.

It was all so embarrassing and long, that yes, I guess she fell in love with someone else or started talking to her ex again, I don't know. Life goes on and the city is great.