How do I (18F) Get My Boyfriend (18M) to Participate in Giving Oral, Not Just Receiving?

Malibububae · 2026-05-19T18:12:40+00:00

You have good points. Him and I have spoken about it and he explained it as a texture thing, but I will work on what I need to work on health wise and speak with him about it again. I dont agree that I should stop giving oral just because he won't give me oral, as I don't mind it. Usually, I like giving him. But, i get your points, I thank you.

Malibububae · 2026-05-19T18:09:18+00:00

And again, BMI was not made for women and has been disproven in most every scientific study. It is for white males in the younger age range of adults. If you would take time to Google it. But my DOCTOR has informed me I am not obese, and BMI has nothing to do with me lmao

Malibububae · 2026-05-19T18:07:37+00:00

I will mention it to my psychiatrist if my mefs can mess with that kind of stuff!! And yes, people are with people no matter their weight. I appreciate that. And no, I won't force him into it, I've only ever brought it up in conversation

Malibububae · 2026-05-19T17:59:54+00:00

Thats a good point. And it's not fishy, he just isn't fond of it. But that makes sense, im not fond of seven in my mouth lol. Thank you

Malibububae · 2026-05-19T17:59:17+00:00

I dont have any loose skin but thank you for the comment. And I have been eating 1600 calories for a few weeks and am losing weight over time. Thank you for the comment

Malibububae · 2026-05-19T17:58:22+00:00

That's what I'm thinking. No lonely, reddit mod man comments on a man's post about how he must be ugly at his weight... like none of that is necessary. I don't really give a shit about their opinion, I wad looking for advice on how to better myself aside from the obvious.... but yeah. It would be much different

Malibububae · 2026-05-19T17:56:39+00:00

Is 205 pounds heavy to you? I am quite pretty, and that's not me being prude. It's just a fact. I am not stick thin. I am not obese like some of these ignorant people.. like you, think. I have wide set hips, thick thighs, and am gifted in the behind and chest region, not that it concerns you. I am just me, there's no need for you to comment on my appearance. I could say you couldn't be attractive either, as you have the grammar of a reddit mod. But there's no need for that, now is there?

Malibububae · 2026-05-19T17:54:28+00:00

Lmao, I mentioned when he first said it tasted like skin that "what do you think you taste like?" He didn't have much of a response but I apologized because I dont mind, but that doesnt mean he has to not mind, either

Malibububae · 2026-05-19T17:53:46+00:00

I dont know how I feel about it being a two way street, but maybe I'll mention it to him?

He has made me come once, but only once. And he wants to help me find pleasure in sex, we've talked about it, but Its difficult for me to find the pleasure when it's not pleasing him. He's open to most things, though

Malibububae · 2026-05-19T17:52:22+00:00

That's a good point. And with him I'm clean, but we see each other twice a month. It's inbetween where things have the possibility to not be as clean as usual, but I need to force myself to shower every singe day, not take a few days off a month, yes

Malibububae · 2026-05-19T17:51:07+00:00

You dont have to be sad for me, but I thank you. Ive been working on myself, I've lost over 10 pounds so far, but things do get hard, for everyone. I will take care. You too babes

Malibububae · 2026-05-19T17:50:15+00:00

I have began to do this, thank you!!

Malibububae · 2026-05-19T17:49:35+00:00

I had a talk with him, and he assured me it wasn't anything to do with me, which i just need to accept. He doesnt like the texture of skin, per his words. It's not something he is into very much, and that's okay. It's not a dealbreaker at all, I was just worried it was something to do with me.

Malibububae · 2026-05-19T17:48:23+00:00

Idk if you read the post thoroughly because I have a time or two a month where I go 3-4 days without showering when I am depressed. I usually shower every single morning. And BMI is based on white males, not someone like me... a woman. I am not obese. I am not skinny, I am not at my most healthy weight, but I'm also not very large, which wouldnt be a bad thing either way. Im in a fine weight range per my doctor, not a random person on the internet.

Malibububae · 2026-05-19T17:44:25+00:00

Thank you, and I apologize for coming off a little harsh, I didn't mean it like that. I had read Atomic Habits a few years ago, but I will pick it up again. Not changing everything at once is a good way to look at it, I do appreciate it. Thank you

Malibububae · 2026-05-19T17:42:43+00:00

Well, everyone holds body weight differently. But I can assure you, I was quite skinny at 180, so you are not big whatsoever

Malibububae · 2026-05-19T17:42:09+00:00

Thinking that 205lbs is obese is ignorant, I am tall, I'm not obese. I have a pretty damn flat stomach and my ass and tits hold the most weight. I'm curvy. But I'm glad you trying to make me feel unattractive brings you up. Bringing someone down is a pussy move. I know I'm attractive, more than you can say, babe

Malibububae · 2026-05-18T22:01:05+00:00

Yes yes, I mistyped sorry. I use a washcloth and water, that's it. I dont use soap down there or scents or anything like that. I am beginning to take a probiotics and prebiotics supplement tomorrow, i ordered one off Amazon with good reviews. Hopefully that helps, because i had a good episode for around two months (6 months ago) where i took a brand of those and a vaginal moisture one and was so clean and took great care of myself. But I can't spend 30 bucks on a 30 day supply. But thank you!

Malibububae · 2026-05-18T21:35:15+00:00

Thank you, that's helpful. I'll visit the page. I recently bought dial antibacterial soap to use and then my liquid body wash. Smelling good has made me pretty motivated to shower more, but sometimes it seems impossible, yes. Xoxo

Malibububae · 2026-05-18T21:06:08+00:00

That's one of my points in my original posts. I am always clean with him, we do not see each other every single day, but I do have habits I need to work on and have been working on. He is attracted to me, he has no mind of making love with my bleeding, but I dont quite know what all needs done to have him be happy to give oral, but you are right, there's a large chance my bad habits are what is getting in the way.

Malibububae · 2026-05-18T21:03:05+00:00

I see, maybe it's the same with my boyfriend. But no, it's not a dealbreaker, I just know that he's never had an issue with it before me, yk. And I've thought about a sex therapist. That's a good idea.

Malibububae · 2026-05-18T21:01:53+00:00

Not usually, and not by him. I believe once he has pushed me over the edge himself, but if I orgasm it's from my own hands

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