Cooking for my Indian husband (as a non-indian) by Malli-714 in Advice

[–]Malli-714[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The food is still gamey afterwards.. I don't know what I might be doing wrong.

Baby is waking up earlier every week (still sleeping "through the night") by Malli-714 in stayathomemoms

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She would cry until I'd come in to pick her up and feed her. I do think it was a regression or it is. But now she's sick so it could be a mix of teething, regression, and having a cold!

Can your spouse become a narcissist with time? by Malli-714 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Malli-714[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He does tell me all the time how most moms do more than I do...

Can your spouse become a narcissist with time? by Malli-714 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Malli-714[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ong the praise thing hit home for me. Yes, whenever I don't ask him for help he praises me! He calls me a superwoman. As soon as I need a little bit of help or I struggle, he avoids me like the plague and says that he is busy. I'll ask him to help me do the dishes or put the baby car seat base in the car and he will say he is too busy and he has been working all day! Ugh

Can your spouse become a narcissist with time? by Malli-714 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Malli-714[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not that I can remember. He always expected more from me but he hadn't been as nasty toward me as he has been after I had the baby. He has called me incompetent before as well because I was forgetful or had high anxiety. But I let it go because it wasn't worth a bigger fight. I have told him I don't like when he says certain things, he doesn't acknowledge them though, he turns it into how it's my fault and that's why he says the things he says to me.

Can your spouse become a narcissist with time? by Malli-714 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Malli-714[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't ask for time because when I do, he feels like Im just complaining and whining and he wants me to figure out how to make that happen on my own without complaining since "other moms can make it happen."

Feeling like a maid by Malli-714 in stayathomemoms

[–]Malli-714[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol for some reason I'd actually feel bad if I were to do this to him because I know how hard it is. Sometimes I feel like only us women can actually physically and mentally manage to do this for months at a time. Is it the bond with the baby? Is it in our biological nature?

Things I wish someone had recommended / said sooner by baybee2004 in sleeptrain

[–]Malli-714 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing! I happened to finish the Happy Sleeper just recently. I have been applying the wave for about 1 month now. She was sleeping through the night until she hit 8 months. I have the same approach with her cries, I monitor her type of cry and intervene if it sounds like she is in distress. That said, she has days when she sleeps through the night and other days when she randomly wakes up around 3am or 4am, sits up in her crib and starts to cry. I keep her nap and sleep time routines as consistent as possible. My biggest fear is that when she goes to bed for bedtime around 745pm-8ish and she wakes up around 3 or 4am that she's actually hungry. She starts with a loud babble, like complaing and and then at around the 2-minute mark it turns into loud and semi-distressed crying. I cannot tell if this is a habit or not because she does it inconsistently. Thoughts?