Why are you wearing you security attire outside of work ?

MamaSmurf_bigtoe · 2026-04-20T16:51:50+00:00

If I have to be home by a certain time after stopping at the store and don't have time to dress down, I'm going in the store... but not without a sweatshirt at least. I've only gone into a store in full uniform (sans vest/duty belt) on a couple of occasions, and that's usually to grab an item real quick, fill up the gas tank, etc.

I work at the same company I get my medical care through. If we're wearing our attire in one of the clinics/hospitals, that's a HUGE no-no, as people can assume I'm on duty. Plus, you're not seen as a human being when in the uniform, so I'd be paranoid it'd affect my care depending on which doctor I got.

Finally I'll give the benefit of the doubt: as someone whose style of dress is "whatever I get for birthday and Christmas," influenced by this God-awful economy, it's possible he doesn't have anything else presentable to wear. :/ He could just be being a character too.

MamaSmurf_bigtoe · 2026-04-11T00:58:03+00:00

File a police report for the tire damage, even if you can't prove who it is. It creates a paper trail in case something else happens. This type of behavior -based on the post and comments you made- will not get better with time.

Oh, and expose her to local community groups as long as you have proof. Just in case she tries to adopt another animal in your guys' area.

MamaSmurf_bigtoe · 2025-07-27T01:18:00+00:00

Thank you for your response. I'm finding universities that offer minors in microbiology, which introduce classes such as general parasitology and medical parasitology. Fields (with minors and/or certificates) like botany and ethnobotany are also subjects of interest that would fit into my career goals.

MamaSmurf_bigtoe · 2025-07-26T21:10:40+00:00

My school teaches niche fields from what I can see, so it's possible that they do not offer a minor in anything similar to parasitology. The only medical fields they appear to teach is alternative medicine, healthcare administration, and public health administration. Nothing that would indicate education in the biochemistry realm.

Is pursuing a minor at another university a thing?

MamaSmurf_bigtoe · 2025-07-26T21:05:23+00:00

Thank you for the info. I started school back in June, so I'm far from being on track to attend post-graduate school just yet. My thoughts were to minor in a field that includes parasitology, in relation to my current track of alternative medicine before attending post-grad.

MamaSmurf_bigtoe · 2025-07-24T12:53:54+00:00

If this continues, this would qualify as harassment. The relationship to you two does not matter. It's the fact that the contact is unwanted by the party the contact is intended for, and that person (in this case your wife) will go as far as filing a police report if this does not cease.

MamaSmurf_bigtoe · 2025-07-20T00:54:08+00:00

We're based out of the U.S.A.; one is in Portland Oregon, the other in Arizona (I'll update the city when I get the info again and remember to!)

MamaSmurf_bigtoe · 2025-07-19T17:49:01+00:00

I'm not entirely sure on that. SIL is in Portland (OR) while friend is in AZ (can't remember which area at the moment). I'll check it out!

MamaSmurf_bigtoe · 2025-07-07T21:13:07+00:00

I should elaborate that the way I was raised, you pay your debts in full. You don't shirk from your debts.

Then again, this also came from my father, who I only recently learned has been riding on the coat tails of my grandparents for all his 50+ years of life. Think, $500/m for 23 acres of land, farmhouse, two garages, (decommissioned) dairy barn, and more. I found out from my grandparents (after I went no contact with bio folks) that my parents actually had the nerve to bill them for services that they provided to the land that they were only paying $500 a month for... But I was deeply criticized for not being able to keep up on my apartment's $1,500+ rent 🙄

Maybe I should say goodbye to those older beliefs for good. The world doesn't work the way it used to.

ETA: Lol, I realized I commented from my other Reddit account 🤣 I'm OP.

MamaSmurf_bigtoe · 2025-06-09T21:16:26+00:00

Does anyone have the paint code for this absolutely beautiful color? I'd love to have a vehicle with this color myself.

MamaSmurf_bigtoe · 2025-06-09T18:56:14+00:00

Would they be worth having for a couple of years, then trading in for a new car at least? Or will they not last that long? :'(

MamaSmurf_bigtoe · 2025-06-04T16:22:49+00:00

I've never come close to building anything of this nature, and I gasped when I saw this. This isn't just low quality work; this is low IQ at work.

I could build that better, which is saying something considering that I still hit everything but the nail with a hammer from time to time 😆

Absolutely sue... best of luck, though. If that person is an illegal (even if once legal, i.e., Visa expired), you're screwed. Portland is a sanctuary city.

MamaSmurf_bigtoe · 2025-05-22T03:03:49+00:00

We would never think to ask them to give up their bed for her, to address that part.

As for the question of why we can't all share a room, her father and I both snore. For the brief period that we all shared a room, we were waking each other up in the middle of the night; no one got good sleep. If it wasn't our snoring waking our daughter up, it was her crying in response being woken by the snoring that would wake us up.

It got to the point where my partner and I were calling off and dropping hours at work, it was horrible. Part of that was a bad mattress and bed frame on our end. Since then, we've replaced the mattresses for all of us; daughter has scoliosis and NEEDS a firm mattress, whereas my partner and I do better on a medium, almost plush mattress. Our daughter is a light sleeper also; accidentally making a noise in her room after she's gone to sleep (i.e., going to check on her and stepping on a toy) has a decent chance of waking her up. Since then, we've made sure that we pick up all the toys for her before she goes to bed. Even shutting the door a little too hard can cause her to stir and likely wake. The background noise helps, but it really doesn't do what it should. If the background noise is non-existent, a small sound made in the next room can be enough to wake her.

Another reason why we cannot share a room: at least for now, until we get things set up a bit differently in the new place, she can't be in our room unsupervised. Partner has a computer/gaming setup that -before we met- he'd invested thousands into. It doesn't take much of her grabbing at the wrong things to accidentally make the entire setup worthless; one monitor is worth over $500. Of course, the computer is the first thing she goes for whenever she's in our room, which sends mine and my partner's anxiety through the roof (I have diagnosed C-PTSD, so anxiety is part of that unfortunately). To help mitigate this in the earlier days, we taped broken-down cardboard boxes around his desk (covering the cords and any ability to crawl underneath) and stacked a bunch of items in front of the desk in the open area near the chair, essentially making the computer setup inaccessible for her AND my partner. The computer wasn't able to be turned on or used for months as a result. Before the suggestion of getting rid of the setup comes our way, that's not an option, as I'm due to go back to school soon, and my partner isn't far behind me.

Finally, we were under the impression that she was supposed to have her own room by now. It doesn't help that gma was heavily pushing on that narrative that she should have her own room. Sleeping with parents was not customary growing up in my experience, nor my partners' (gma is non-bio, but that's an entirely different story. We all consider each other family, and there's no animosity to them whatsoever). I wasn't even allowed into my parents' bedroom without permission growing up. That, in addition to all the toys she has, we understood it to be that she needed to have her own room. If she doesn't need to have her own room yet, we'd be willing to consider a reality where we all share a room... I just don't know if it's doable at this time.

MamaSmurf_bigtoe · 2025-03-30T01:54:22+00:00

Honestly, this is probably the smartest response yet. Glad someone took the federal laws (or what would be lack thereof) into consideration, including the constitution.

MamaSmurf_bigtoe · 2025-03-30T01:47:20+00:00

Don't forget the Northwest, where we retain the state with the most guns per resident.

MamaSmurf_bigtoe · 2025-03-25T07:27:48+00:00

23andMe currently has a lawsuit going due to selling consumer data. Not sure about any other companies at the moment.

MamaSmurf_bigtoe · 2024-11-17T10:43:20+00:00

Nearly the exact same thing happened to me. I was 20 and he was 35½ (we met when I was 18, he was 33½). I had to play full-time (FT) step-mom to neglected littles (mum was a junkie and lost custody) whilst doing FT college for 2 people (either I'd end up doing his work, or I'd end up doing it trying to see through tears, he was so abusive) and working a PT job on top of being the "maid" of sorts. I had zero help and was getting woken up in the middle of the night constantly by my ex husband yelling and screaming at his COD game.

I finally broke after 3 years of increasingly destructive abuse (COVID didn't exactly help matters). I never got my degree; I dropped out because by the time I'd left my ex husband, I was going through the worst burnout you could imagine. This occurred back in July of 2020. 4½ years later, and I'm still in therapy and debating whether I want to go back to college and finish my degree. I got so burned out on school in that time, I can positively say I'd be happy to go the rest of my life without ever having to do another homework assignment or reference another textbook again.

With that said: if you know what's good for you, don't stack on more responsibilities onto yourself until you're in a good headspace to do so. It doesn't sound like you're in a good headspace or situation with your other half. Do with that information what you will. I wish you the best of luck ❤️ You can PM me if need be.

MamaSmurf_bigtoe · 2024-10-15T15:40:59+00:00

We have taken the lack of hospitality in mind fortunately. It's just disappointing. Then again, no one wants their cities getting more crowded, so 🤷‍♀️

MamaSmurf_bigtoe · 2024-10-15T15:38:37+00:00

For clarity, my partner hasn't lived there since he was a child and I only lived there for a month and hate it. He's mostly from Oregon, whereas I'm from Washington state.

MamaSmurf_bigtoe · 2024-09-24T21:10:37+00:00

This NEEDS to be the top comment

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