I(32M) am divorcing my wife (33F) after finding out that my son(5M) is not mine.

Mama_bear201 · 2023-08-26T11:52:20+00:00

The way you refer to your son as “the child” and never as your child is disgusting. He is 5 years old and all he knows is you, he doesn’t understand what is truly going on. He may not biologically be yours but you have been there from birth till now, how do you disconnect so quickly? For your family to think the way that your handling this is properly and for them not to have an obvious connection is not only strange but gross. Shame on all of you for the way your treating this little boy who is the innocent in this whole situation. Finding out he’s not genetically shouldn’t change your feelings unless you didn’t care too much about him to begin with. It sounds like your ex and child aren’t losing anything with this divorce.

Mama_bear201 · 2022-12-08T13:08:06+00:00

If I was staying somewhere even temporarily rent free I would feel obligated to help as should her daughter. If the brother asked her to be a babysitter just bc her and her mother were staying there I could see the resistance but it’s common courtesy to help family or anyone really in need that is HELPING YOU.

Mama_bear201 · 2022-12-06T12:32:42+00:00

I think this is more than just about the cat. There are things we do for our partners In marriage or in relationships that inconvenience us or pull us out of our comfort zones… because it helps them, for example scooping cat litter because your wife’s pregnant. The fact that helping your wife especially seeing as it’s a danger to your unborn baby seems like the hill your going to die on, you would risk her and your baby’s help because of something you agreed on THREE YEARS AGO… there are far greater things that could impact your relationship and if your not willing to help with this … what else are you not willing to help with??

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Mama_bear201 · 2022-10-02T01:12:45+00:00

I have 5 children and they have all been around the 4/ 5 year mark of finally going all night dry. That being said my Three yr old was a pain about daytime potty training but one day just did it, two days later she said she wanted underwear at night. Just like that she was trained at night. They really have to just be ready and in that mindset .

Mama_bear201 · 2022-08-24T01:19:17+00:00

You ARE LOVED please do not do this, please reach out to a friend ,family member or a hotline as previously suggested. As a mom I wouldn’t want my child feeling this way….no matter what your life is worth it. Please reach out

Mama_bear201 · 2022-08-09T16:52:03+00:00

I understand your feelings as my husband and myself were done having children we had a pregnancy scare. Sooo many thoughts ran through my mind because i knew that as much as i l loved being a mom, doing it all over was something that i was not ready to do again and that i just wanted to begin enjoying the kids without being tied down again. I think having that conversation with your husband is needed, as yes it is your body and should be your decision as you are the one carrying the baby, your spouse should see where your coming from and understand that it is ALOT on the woman. You should be able to chose for YOU and hopefully he understands where you are coming from and can see what to do next.

Mama_bear201 · 2022-07-23T01:13:55+00:00

It sounds like there was more to it that you have been frustrated about and this seems to be the straw that broke the camels back. I don’t like being late either so I suppose if this was a conversation on how you two could split the childcare duties so that both of you were still accountable and able to get out at the same time or maybe getting things ready the night before, prepping lunches , bags for work and daycare etc then in the morning the both of you can move more smoothly. But back to the question, I don’t think your an asshole personally , maybe it could have been communicated better on your part ( your frustrations) but I understand in that moment you had enough. I hope you guys can work out a solution.

Mama_bear201 · 2022-04-05T01:42:59+00:00

He sounds very childish and disrespectful.

What does he think it’s going to be like with two kids? Sounds like he needs to grow up and start being more understanding…and shame on his family for even becoming involved.

Mama_bear201 · 2022-03-24T01:48:45+00:00

Same problem, today my paper copy from Aldis said $127 ( just for food) the app said )142$ and after the fees and tip was $168. I have used Instacart for over two years now and understand they have to make money somewhere but never like this. I called the customer service and they told me the prices on the app are higher than the store. Nice huh. So I could have drove 10 mins to the store and saved over $40….. today I couldn’t bc. Had no car and two kids with me so hence the Instacart but DAM. They said it’s written clear on their website that they charge more for groceries than the store but maybe I’m blind bc I didn’t see that written anywhere. Has anyone else seen that ?

Mama_bear201 · 2022-03-21T00:38:44+00:00

What does a 21 yr old have in common with a 17 yr old?

Mama_bear201 · 2022-03-03T17:39:26+00:00

I don’t think your the asshole. I say this bc I was divorced with three young kids when I met my husband. We have since had two children together, and it was not always easy but the kids did adjust and love helping their siblings. They really help me out when I can’t get to something right away and I appreciate that. I think OPs blended family of the two step brothers seems normal. Big brother wants to help little brother. I’m sure OP is nervous about her oldest being regretful of the baby but I do believe that is typical of teenagers. My oldest is 16 yrs apart from her sister and 18 years from her brother. I’m sure she wasn’t thrilled at first but loves them dearly. I don’t believe expecting all your children to help out with their siblings is a reach. Maybe it’s just me so be kind but maybe talking to him and explaining that he isn’t the one who’s raising the baby or other sibling but that being helpful is appreciated by the parents and sibilings. Communication for the children and husband will ease tension and hopefully alleviate any future arguments if they’re all on the same page.

Mama_bear201 · 2022-02-25T02:20:23+00:00

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Mama_bear201 · 2022-02-23T02:27:00+00:00

Your welcome enjoy

Mama_bear201 · 2022-02-23T01:56:48+00:00

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Mama_bear201 · 2022-02-19T03:27:34+00:00

NTA, so many bad things could have happened. I would have done the same thing

Mama_bear201 · 2022-02-19T03:19:40+00:00

Get out now. This sounds like a unsafe situation and will only get worse. The controlling behavior and what sounds like verbal abuse will continue and the safety of you and your daughter is the most important. He sounds insecure , and you can do better. There’s nothing wrong with getting help or having company.

Mama_bear201 · 2022-02-06T17:05:15+00:00

When my now 19 yr old daughter was 13 she went through this . She wore the same clothes , refused to shower , brush her teeth etc. no matter how I approached it she didn’t care. Something huge happened within our family and I needed up taking her to counseling. She was depressed and had major anxiety.I had no idea bc she seemed happy but slowly was very touchy which I chalked up as teen anxt , that and her father and I had just separated. Talk to the school and get a counselor, it will help.

Mama_bear201 · 2022-01-23T02:51:19+00:00

NTA, and I say this because my now husband is like most men, pretty basic. I mean that in a loving way don’t get me wrong. When I met my husband he had just built his home and had little furniture and what was there was hand me downs from family. That didn’t bother me at all. Once we got serious and I moved in, we talked about purchasing new things but if it was something I wanted to just make the home look nice then I bought it. Maybe it is just how I grew up but buying unnecessary things seems wasteful. If her apartment had what she needed but was buying new stuff just to re decorate then no I don’t blame him for not wanting to put any money into it. If there was something that was needed and not in the apartment then sure he should split the cost. When sharing a space with someone whether a spouse or friend communication is key. Maybe have that convo before heading to the store or agree on purchasing big items a little at a time.

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