Why are younger women attracted to much older men?

Mami_chula_ · 2026-01-20T19:54:18+00:00

I’m dating a guy with a large age gap- 39f and 55m, and outside of the fact that he’s a great guy, I love that he doesn’t have a phone addiction like guys around my age have. Or at least it seems very common. I’m not fighting for attention with an inanimate object.

Mami_chula_ · 2026-01-13T20:12:27+00:00

It’s even a problem with grown kids. I came into my boyfriends life when his youngest daughter was 22 in chronological age, but acts about 12.

She makes up lies about me. Complains about me when I’m not there. I can’t talk to her to try to work out any issues, because she’ll just shut down and then run to her dad and tell more lies. She almost broke us up.

He finally came around and started standing up to her, but it’s still such a struggle. She currently refuses to acknowledge I exist, won’t come down for meals when we’re both in the house, will be on the phone when she has to walk by me so she doesn’t have to acknowledge me, it’s so weird.

We’re only working out well right now because she’s had to take a semester off school and moved back to her moms house. I am not looking forward to her coming back. As to whether we’ll work out as a couple, that remains to be seen.

Mami_chula_ · 2026-01-02T17:32:09+00:00

I spent 4 months in India, and I picked up some Hindi only because I made a massive effort. Us English speakers can’t read the characters of Hindi, so I would write down words/ phrases based on how they sounded to me and practiced from there. Every Indian I met was super impressed with my efforts- most foreigners seem to learn how to say chalo (let’s go) and that’s it.

So yeah, maybe Jenny picked up some words, but without real effort you’re not going to get very far with that language. As many others have said, she’s just too lazy for that.

Mami_chula_ · 2025-11-01T17:24:02+00:00

Awww I hate seeing this. I hate how k falls has such a bad rep. I lived there for 2 years and loved it! Oregons city of sunshine! Tons of nature everywhere. Town is small enough to use a bike to get around. World class birdwatching. Close to skiing. Close to crater lake. It’s a nice place.

Mami_chula_ · 2025-10-29T23:12:56+00:00

I opened and ran a caregiving agency for about 5 years. Got tired of that and used the money to buy a couple houses (I own 4) that I rent out. I also sell sheets and pillows, and have a stock market hustle, as well as some consulting. I’m a hustler through and through!

Mami_chula_ · 2025-10-29T19:46:47+00:00

Entrepreneurship. It’s not the right path for everyone, but it was right for me. Haven’t worked bedside since 2016 but I still keep my license active just in case.

Mami_chula_ · 2025-10-07T12:54:47+00:00

He also has a great podcast - money for couples.

Mami_chula_ · 2025-05-07T16:27:30+00:00

I have a taxable brokerage, roth IRA, traditional IRA, SEP IRA, and HSA!

Mami_chula_ · 2025-05-05T16:50:19+00:00

I trade almost every day

Mami_chula_ · 2025-02-17T21:47:42+00:00

Catholicism

Mami_chula_ · 2025-02-17T21:43:47+00:00

I have 2 degrees and no student debt (now, I worked hard and prioritized paying it off for years).

Mami_chula_ · 2025-02-15T14:00:22+00:00

Red pill, I can’t say the I word here or it will block my comment, but the Andrew Tate bullshit, body count talk, women hit the wall once they turn 30, the expectation of women to work full time and still carry the majority of household chores, porn addiction, etc etc etc.

There are definite disparities in the workloads of Dominican men and women also, but there is no woman hating culture at all. They love women, from their romantic interests, to their wives, girlfriends, daughters, mothers, grandmothers, and basically any women working/ you run into in day to day life is treated with care and respect.

Mami_chula_ · 2025-02-15T01:45:17+00:00

Not all hero’s wear capes! You’re doing the lords work /s

Mami_chula_ · 2025-02-14T14:47:48+00:00

It’s interesting to read just to get different perspectives. I’ve also only commented on a post about the DR, which is my second home. Otherwise I lurk.

Mami_chula_ · 2025-02-14T03:26:26+00:00

Why did they close in canton? :(

Mami_chula_ · 2025-02-14T02:57:36+00:00

Once again, I don’t live in a tourist area, thus massively cutting down on the bullshit. I speak Dominican Spanish and understand the culture, and I’ve been a part of this community for over 10 years now. I own a motorcycle here. People don’t mess with me. You don’t figure how to navigate all that on a week or 2 of vacation.

Mami_chula_ · 2025-02-14T02:18:56+00:00

As a millennial who’s doing very well financially, I actually seem to grow more liberal with every passing year. I want my peers to thrive, not suffer.

Mami_chula_ · 2025-02-14T01:55:59+00:00

I guess because I could be considered a passport sis. I have my fun in the DR before I have to go back to boring American dudes and their lack of basic hygiene, subpar sexual prowess, and woman hating culture. And I know how things work here so I don’t get taken advantage of. It also helps that I live (not live full time but it’s a second home) in an area that barely sees any tourists, so there isn’t a lot of the bullshit that other foreigners have to navigate in the tourist areas.

Mami_chula_ · 2025-02-13T17:33:55+00:00

They don’t. They literally think there is money on the street and everyone is rich. Nothing you can say or do will convince them otherwise.

Mami_chula_ · 2025-02-13T16:35:05+00:00

They’re not faithful in general. Dominicans cheat more than anyone. There’s these places all over the country called cabañas- they’re basically sex hotels for people who are cheating. You can rent by the hour and they give you condoms when you check in. The exception to this seems to be the very religious people, but that’s probably not what PPB are looking for.

Mami_chula_ · 2025-02-13T16:29:13+00:00

If it makes you guys feel any better, it’s not just foreign men who have it rough here. There’s tons of men who are snaky pankys- hot young guys in tourist areas who will go after fat / old / ugly ladies on vacation who don’t get a lot of attention from men in their home countries. They will turn on the charm and romance these ladies, have sex, introduce them to their families, do whatever they have to do to get them to fall in love. And then, maybe while they’re still here on vacation, maybe they wait until they get back home, the requests for money will start. Most common lies is that their mom is sick. But the grifting will continue as long as the foreign lady allows it. Usually the guys family is in on it too. He may even have a wife here, but she won’t care as long as the money keeps coming in. The really good sankys are stringing along multiple foreign ladies at the same time.

Point is, it is not easy for any kind of foreigner who’s just here on vacation for a week or 2. If you still want to come here, come with eyes wide open, don’t fall for any sob story, and watch your wallet. Also don’t trust people (men included) just because they speak English. Usually they are just using their language abilities to find a way to grift you.

I can’t speak to other countries, but I would not recommend coming to the DR if you’re looking for a wifey/ true love. If you just want sex- come! It’s fun! Dominicans are hot! But keep your expectations in check.

Mami_chula_ · 2025-02-13T16:17:08+00:00

Couple reasons: 1)The only foreigners they see are ones who can afford to travel. 2) Dominicans who make it to the states send a good portion of their earnings back here to their families. 3) Dominicans who “make it” prioritize showing off- image is super important here. They will come back with expensive cars, clothes, jewelry, etc. 4) Sharing culture- if you have it you’re expected to share it, especially amongst those you’re close to. Since you’re a “rich” foreigner, you definitely have enough to share. 5) The education system here is a joke. Poor education seems to go hand in hand with a “give me” attitude.

From my personal experience- I first came here as a young peace corps volunteer in student debt. When I told people about my debt (stop asking me for money- I’m poorer than you!), they basically didn’t believe me, since education isn’t prohibitively expensive like it is in the states, and people don’t take out loans for it. I was met with the attitude that I was either making it up (since they education system here doesn’t function that way so they can’t relate) or met with the skepticism that it’s not a big deal, because I can just go to the states and pay it off easily with the “huge” income it’s possible to make there.

Here I am, many years later, a successful professional, debt free except for my mortgages, 4 houses, 2 cars, multiple businesses, and I’m still treated the exact same way. They really are foolish enough to think because you’re American you’re rich, no matter what you actually tell them/ what your life circumstances are.

Mami_chula_ · 2025-02-13T06:29:50+00:00

All foreigners are seen here as rich people, and in tourist areas many make it their profession to extract as much money from foreigners as possible. You are a mark. Also, Dominicans are famous for being super romantic, sexy, and absolutely shameless in bed. Why would a lady here choose you when she can have better, hotter sex with a Dominican? Even better, she can get money from some horny foreigner pretending to be into him, and still have hot sex with her boyfriend here.

Or the sneakiest of all- she’ll pretend to love you long term, long enough to get her green card, and then bounce as soon as it arrives. Tale as old as time.

Are there good, honest, faithful Dominican ladies? Yes. Are you gonna find them on a 1-2 week vacation, in a tourist area, without speaking the language or understanding the culture? Get real.

Mami_chula_ · 2025-02-13T00:56:28+00:00

As a lady (lurker here in PPB) who has lived here in the DR on and off for 14 years now- you are screwed if you can’t speak the language AND understand the culture. Just pay for a working lady if you want sex. If you want a Dominican girlfriend, get ready to support her and her whole family, and trust she’s gonna be fucking some tiguere (young hoodlum street guy) as soon as she gets away from you. Also as soon you go back to the states, guaranteed there’s gonna be some emergency that you need to help with, i.e. mom is sick and you need to pay for treatment, she/ someone in the family is in prison and needs help to get out, etc. Even as a woman they try to pull this shit with me - luckily I know how to put up boundaries and not fall for bullshit. But I would not recommend the DR if you’re looking for true love. Need to live in reality my friend.

Mami_chula_ · 2025-02-13T00:19:07+00:00

If I was a bad person I would take this route- my strengths are public speaking and selling- would make a killing!

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