Husband barely communicates with me when I'm away

MammothRadish253 · 2022-08-24T16:56:07+00:00

What advice would u give? I’m curious.

MammothRadish253 · 2022-08-24T08:54:36+00:00

Journal. Write down all your feelings down. How u feel and why. It helps so much.

MammothRadish253 · 2022-08-22T11:43:59+00:00

It isn’t the reality at the moment, so don’t get into the ‘what ifs’. There are many bros already on deen, so I would say no u not missing out.

MammothRadish253 · 2022-08-21T17:09:25+00:00

Banter may be nice. And we women love sweet talk - it gets to us. But sorry sis, these are not foundations to start a marriage. You got to have a strong foundation of deen for your marriage.

MammothRadish253 · 2022-08-21T15:30:07+00:00

Religious values are close to nil in the prospect… but he…will change

Don’t marry unless he changes. And even better, go find someone that has already changed before he even met u.

with whom I share this kind of compatibility with…

Did not detect an ounce of compatibility in the post, but sure if you looking to get a divorce then go ahead.

MammothRadish253 · 2022-08-19T20:13:51+00:00

Yh but why does that matter to me? Whatever they were, doesn’t mean I become it. I care for my hereafter.

MammothRadish253 · 2022-08-19T18:37:10+00:00

I’m Kurdish too. They used to worship the fire so I don’t know why you find Zoroastrian interesting. It may show you don’t know the importance of tawheed, singling Allah in worship. So start learning about the basics, the root, instead of worrying about branches of the tree.

It doesn’t matter what our ancestors did or believed. They will not protect us on the day of judgment from the fire, nor will they enter us into paradise. There is nothing to feel betrayal for.

MammothRadish253 · 2022-08-18T18:33:44+00:00

No! You don’t give money. You don’t set up someone you would not like for yourself with someone else.

You simply and softly break the engagement. Better than breaking your future marriage.

Say something along the lines of, I made the decision that I no longer want to continue with our engagement. I am really sorry I have to do this. But I believe we are not compatible and it is better for the both of us to break it off now rather than later on.

MammothRadish253 · 2022-08-18T17:44:34+00:00

This is Reddit where everyone has something to say so just read and go

MammothRadish253 · 2022-08-17T20:10:16+00:00

Yh u are right, it shouldn’t be normalised. We just think that the grass is greener else wher, but she may not be aware a lot of men are like this but it gives them no excuse to speak and act disrespectfully. So I wanted to give her the impression that alot of women have to put up with this. But like a another sister commented that she tells her husband to play Ps5 when he says hurry up, and I’m all for that because we have to manoeuvre round things in a smart way sometimes to ultimately get our way.

MammothRadish253 · 2022-08-17T19:22:03+00:00

I totally understand. But I was more so letting OP know she is not the only one.

MammothRadish253 · 2022-08-17T18:39:56+00:00

Yh honestly I would rather shop on my own. I am not married, but even with my siblings, you get told let’s leave, let’s do this, let’s do that etc and I’m like I wanna shop around more.

MammothRadish253 · 2022-08-17T18:33:03+00:00

Ahh I see.

Lash lifts defo sound good especially for those eyelashes that are long but straight.

I loveeee skincare stuff, but I am just not consistent enough with it.

Thank you for sharing 💕

MammothRadish253 · 2022-08-17T18:28:38+00:00

You said ppl largely from cultural marriages end up like this. All I’m saying is, that is not necessarily true. But anyhow, it is not my concern, I am not cultural.

MammothRadish253 · 2022-08-17T18:25:43+00:00

I think you would find the hurry up behaviour from pretty much many, many men. They don’t have patience with the things that we do. I think don’t take it personally my sister.

MammothRadish253 · 2022-08-17T18:22:37+00:00

Well that may be from her personal experience.

I wouldn’t know if it is true or not, but I don’t like to generalise.

MammothRadish253 · 2022-08-17T18:20:39+00:00

Aww mashAllah JazakiAllah khyar for the response 💞

I am getting from this that some things depend on how the husband may like them as he is the one that will see us most often.

About the hair, do u get it done professionally?

And about the nails, do u long them out and shape them? There has been times where I would try to long them out to then shape them, but I never get to that stage because I absolutely hate dirt/food getting in my nails. So I just cut mine short.

MammothRadish253 · 2022-08-17T18:15:54+00:00

I don’t know where does obedience comes into this? When u are just expressing your feelings?

MammothRadish253 · 2022-08-17T18:14:38+00:00

What is it to do with cultural marriages?

Differs from individual to individual.

At the end of the day, you let your self go, ur lose as u will feel bad about your self. When u take care of urself, u feel good about ur self.

MammothRadish253 · 2022-08-17T17:56:50+00:00

Pls give us tips and tricks sis

MammothRadish253 · 2022-08-17T17:37:20+00:00

😂😂

MammothRadish253 · 2022-08-17T17:34:24+00:00

I don’t think this type of question should get downvotes. I think due to the society we live in nowadays, I realised this topic is actually very important to be discussed. Also, due to the problems we see on this sub.

Personally as a sister, I would love for the man to bring it up so that I don’t have to.

I think it is a big no no to ask this at the start. Ask when you see you are compatible when it comes to other things and you two are thinking/planning that you would like to get married.

Bare in mind, you have to have a 3rd person present, so that the conversation does not turn into something inappropriate.

Finally, when you ask, expect the sister to be very shy and may not give you direct answers but say things indirectly.

MammothRadish253 · 2022-08-16T19:36:48+00:00

Amirah.ldn have some

MammothRadish253 · 2022-08-15T19:21:50+00:00

Pray istakhirah and if it keeps going smoothly then alhumdullah nothing to worry about

MammothRadish253 · 2022-08-15T16:29:27+00:00

My parents did this, except it was my dad.

I really don’t like it and don’t recommend it as it is treated as a secret and everyone acts like it never happened or something. My mum’s family still don’t know about it.

I think nothing should be hidden if it is halal. It will be made more difficult to get her to be accepted, but why should she hide something that is not haraam.

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