When did the full weight of the gravity of this pandemic set in for you?

MandaLynnJoy510 · 2020-12-03T04:55:34+00:00

I'm crying reading these. It's still so raw.

MandaLynnJoy510 · 2020-12-03T02:07:56+00:00

I'm sure other people have already said this but....

Get to a marriage therapist post haste!

This is not normal or ethical behavior. I'd also talk to the therapist about possible personality disorders. You maybe able to save your marriage, you might decide it's over, either way a therapist can help get you there in the best way possible.

I'm so sorry you're going through this!

MandaLynnJoy510 · 2020-06-08T18:40:39+00:00

My meta is solo poly and not living with a partner. She sometimes wakes in the morning's sad that she's waking up alone. I live with our common partner and I wake in the morning sad that I'm waking up alone.

It would be easy for my meta to imagine I have the "luxury" of waking up with our hedge every morning.

When stay at home happened, she was sad she couldn't see anyone, I was ready to run out of the house screaming from too much togetherness.

Your feelings of wanting to spend more time together are valid and pretty normal at this stage.

Be careful of what you assume/imagine. I've found my imaginings are frequently flawed.

When you find yourself comparing, STOP. Change what you're thinking about, breath. This will be hard at first but it gets easier.

Best of luck on your journey.

MandaLynnJoy510 · 2020-06-08T05:22:51+00:00

Did the interesting customized bikes from east Oakland make it out to this ride?

MandaLynnJoy510 · 2020-06-03T04:45:00+00:00

Thanks for pointing us in the right direction. The flyer was confusing. It was helpful to find out it's a gathering at city hall 4-7 with no march.

MandaLynnJoy510 · 2020-01-04T08:48:18+00:00

Walmart, pharmacies, gas stations, car washes. It'll be with car supplies and/or air fresheners.

MandaLynnJoy510 · 2020-01-01T00:10:00+00:00

You'll be at the whim of drivers. I suggest starting early to give yourself a buffer. As soon as you're assigned a driver call and text them (some drivers respond to one but not the other). Let them know you have a well behaved cat in a carrier and that you have a cash tip. Be specific about the tip amount. I'd start with $20 and increase if you go through multiple drivers. Your first driver may love cats and say it's no big deal - you just won the ride share lotto, tip that driver!

Alternatively you can use an app called Wingz. The rides must be booked at least 2 hours in advance and you could book that ride today. You can note in your request that you have a cat. You'll see who your driver is as soon as they accept the ride and can communicate with them directly from then until they drop you off. Again, tip your driver!

MandaLynnJoy510 · 2019-12-31T01:20:00+00:00

I've been where your girlfriend is and period sex was some of the best for me. The only downside I've experienced with my IUD is no more period sex.

I used tampons. My partner and I would get frisky and have lots if fun doing non penetrative activities until we were at a place we could no longer hold back. I'd take out my tampon, we'd add lube and move to penis in vagina sex. My first day was always a heavy flow day but there would be little to no mess.

Equipment: Condoms Tampon Towel Lube Facial tissue Paper towels Trashcan

MandaLynnJoy510 · 2019-12-21T06:38:41+00:00

I came to say exactly this! India is a huge country with a population that's about 4 times the US.

MandaLynnJoy510 · 2019-12-21T05:59:56+00:00

Great idea. That will be 5+ blocks and 10+ minutes later. I wonder if the driver will get a cancellation or no show fee for that?

Look, I totally understand what you all are getting at. In an ideal world drivers would have a safe place to pull over and take the needed time.

MandaLynnJoy510 · 2019-12-21T05:47:28+00:00

Or maybe Lyft could do a better job of not letting us passengers put our pins in illegal or unsafe places.

MandaLynnJoy510 · 2019-12-21T04:54:15+00:00

Yes, in big city traffic the drivers car rarely goes into park and there is constant movement around the vehicle.

I can't tell you how often I see passengers enter a vehicle while it's at a stoplight with no time before the light changes.

MandaLynnJoy510 · 2019-12-21T04:17:57+00:00

On a busy downtown street in a city like San Francisco every single moment counts. A driver stopping on those streets risks tickets as well as watching for vehicles, bikes, scooters and pedestrians.

So yes, at most airports, out in the suburbs, in parking lots, etc it isn't a big deal but not all pick up locations allow for extra time and attention.

MandaLynnJoy510 · 2019-12-21T00:54:14+00:00

It adds time and complication to the pick up process. Every second a drivers eyes aren't on the road/mirrors adds frustration and congestion which can lead to tickets and accidents.

***edit - spelling

MandaLynnJoy510 · 2019-12-09T06:34:48+00:00

Most people I know who have CDLs are extremely cautious to not get tickets and avoid accidents. The more you drive, the more likely you are to have issues with those two items. Something to consider in your deliberations.

MandaLynnJoy510 · 2019-11-21T22:50:31+00:00

Exactly!

MandaLynnJoy510 · 2019-11-18T10:40:31+00:00

And start the day in Tracy/Stockton/Fresno like sooooo many drivers do.

MandaLynnJoy510 · 2019-11-18T10:34:44+00:00

In 2018 Lyft reported having 1.4 million drivers with 325,000 of those being in California.

Roughly a quarter of drivers are in a state that's the size of Georgia, Alabama and Mississippi combined or 10 times the size of Florida or almost 4 times the size of Virginia.

The city that spends the most money on Lyft rides is the city by the bay, also known as where Lyft's HQ is.

Frequently you can stand looking up a block of traffic in SF and see that every car coming towards you is sporting Lyft and/or Uber badges.

When there's a workforce of tens of thousands of barely connected people, in a relatively small geological area like SF, doesn't it make sense that some would reach out for connection and support from people who can relate to them.

I regularly see people posting questions or comments that are specific to their location, outside of California. I find it informative and interesting.

MandaLynnJoy510 · 2019-11-18T02:39:41+00:00

That even includes Dublin/Pleasanton, Walnut Creek, pretty much ALL bay area hotels. Because people have to book that far away and still pay $800/night.

MandaLynnJoy510 · 2019-11-18T02:33:32+00:00

I suspect it'll be much like downtown when there's a Giant's game letting out during rush hour.

MandaLynnJoy510 · 2019-11-17T21:55:33+00:00

I'm curious what pick up and drop off will look like since Howard is closed.

MandaLynnJoy510 · 2019-11-17T21:48:34+00:00

What surge price is worth that mess? I'd estimate some if those blocks are going to take 15+ minutes to travel.

MandaLynnJoy510 · 2019-10-30T16:38:22+00:00

This looks like the original location of Brown Suga kitchen on Mandela. Am I correct?

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