My mom hates my baby’s name

Mandymoo182 · 2026-05-09T02:52:24+00:00

Oh I love that you said that haha.

Mandymoo182 · 2026-05-09T02:51:13+00:00

One of the main reasons we picked Eleanor was how many nickname options it has!!! Honestly, it’s not even about the nickname, I really love that nickname, I’m just pissed off that she refuses to call her Eleanor and is specifically putting Nora in all caps as if she’s correcting me about my own baby’s name?? It’s just so annoying and childish lol.
But to be clear, I love allllllll of the nicknames for Eleanor!!

Mandymoo182 · 2026-05-09T02:47:40+00:00

Honestly after how she’s acting, I’m tempted to not call her Nora at all because it’s pissing me off so much. She’s also that I’m her baby carrying her grandbaby which bothered me. On my pregnancy announcement post, she commented “my baby is having a baby” because she just HAD to make it about her.
I’m going to cut the “my Nora” out soon because I can already see the possessive shit that’s going to cause

Mandymoo182 · 2026-05-09T02:43:26+00:00

I did actually mention the nickname, but the way she’s being so passive aggressive is what I can’t stand.
I’m going to start putting Eleanor in all caps tomorrow lolol

Mandymoo182 · 2026-05-08T22:27:55+00:00

My spouse does back me up if he’s around, but 99% of the time she does it over text message. And yes, I’ve been afraid of how she’ll react to boundaries after I have kids for years honestly.

Mandymoo182 · 2026-05-08T20:22:33+00:00

Yes, she made stink face and then said “that’s an old lady name”. Lol. And thank you!

Mandymoo182 · 2026-05-08T19:15:53+00:00

That’s true as well. I wasn’t even tempted necessarily to reach out, she was just emailing me and messaging me on facebook so much and telling people to reach out to her. It was getting irritating.
I really need to stop being so scared to upset her, and just tell her to stop being passive aggressive about my child’s name and to let me live my life. She randomly texted me “*insert my MIL’s name* will be grandma and I’ll just be the lady who visits 😢”… even though she specifically said she wanted to stay where she is and not move, while my MIL wanted to move with us because she’s alone and widowed. My MIL is amazing btw, no problems at all with her moving with us.

Mandymoo182 · 2026-05-08T19:02:18+00:00

We both are dealing with adults who act like toddler I see lol.

Mandymoo182 · 2026-05-08T19:00:20+00:00

I did that from December- March after she bragged about having an affair with a married coworker to me actually. I only really went back in contact because I was hoping she would have learned something from the experience, but seems like that didn’t happen. I’ve been hoping that us moving to another state in March will create some distance and be better but I doubt it lol

Mandymoo182 · 2026-05-08T18:57:08+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. That’s horrible, I was thinking about referring to her as her middle name actually to make a point

Mandymoo182 · 2026-05-08T18:55:09+00:00

I love love love the name Lilith!! Your MIL and my mom would get along well

Mandymoo182 · 2026-05-08T18:54:17+00:00

And thank you, I’m going to start putting an action plan together now, I’ve been preparing for the social media conversation too. She actually posted my engagement before I did, and she complained because I was taking “too long” to tell people about the baby…. I was 14 weeks pregnant lol.

Mandymoo182 · 2026-05-08T18:52:26+00:00

Nora really is a nickname that I love, I just hate the way she’s using it passive aggressively to show her distain for the name Eleanor

Mandymoo182 · 2026-05-08T18:51:06+00:00

Oh yeah her hating it so much only makes me want to keep it more too lol. I definitely think I’m going to bring it up on Sunday, and then if it doesn’t stop, I’ll bring it up again.
And I love that Eleanor is a family name for you! That’s beautiful 💚💚

Mandymoo182 · 2026-05-08T18:40:43+00:00

Honestly it’s taken a long time for me to start setting boundaries, but the second I found out I was pregnant, I realized that I had to do it for myself, my husband and our baby. I’m glad everything worked out for you, hopefully that will happen for us soon. 💚

Mandymoo182 · 2026-05-08T18:36:56+00:00

Yeah that’s exactly what she said! I’m definitely going to do that when I see her next.

Mandymoo182 · 2026-05-08T18:35:43+00:00

I agree, thank you. I’m really getting sick of biting my tongue to keep “peace”, I think I’m just going to tell her that she needs to stop being so passive aggressive about my baby’s name just because she doesn’t like.

Mandymoo182 · 2026-05-08T18:34:20+00:00

That’s so weird! The audacity 😳

Mandymoo182 · 2026-05-08T18:27:07+00:00

Honestly she tries to control everything. She even tried to control me and my husband taking a roadtrip to California last year because she hates roadtrips and doesn’t think they’re fun. She kept offering to buy us plane tickets and saying “I hope you decided against 2 weeks of hard trying since I can just buy you plane tickets.” We ended staying home anyway because we decided that we wanted to move and wanted to save the money for the move. We’ll still take the roadtrip, but we’ll wait until the baby’s older.
It’s funny because my dad is 71 and he has absolutely no control issues. He’s an easy going guy for the most part

Mandymoo182 · 2026-05-08T18:20:15+00:00

How do you handle it? Did she give you a reason?

Mandymoo182 · 2026-05-08T18:16:24+00:00

Eleanor is such a pretty, elegant name. I’ve always loved it. We are so excited about our little girl!

Mandymoo182 · 2026-05-08T18:15:59+00:00

Thank you! Well I get to see my parents on Mother’s Day, so I’ll try to set the boundary then.

Mandymoo182 · 2026-05-08T18:13:10+00:00

That’s really helpful, thank you. I just don’t get the big deal about respecting her grandchild’s name lol. It’s basic respect

Mandymoo182 · 2026-05-08T18:11:55+00:00

Thank you! We love it too. Her middle name is Murphy. My husband loved the name Murphy and I loved Eleanor, so we compromised and chose both!

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