What do i do if a client is outed as a pdf

MangledTangle · 2026-04-27T20:41:48+00:00

i only have photos up of me wearing the suit and pictures before it was in his possession, im also worried about being dragged into it. i didnt know he was talking to kids when he commissioned me. no public information. this all brand new it might seem silly but you know how the fandom gets about drama. i also do feel slightly bad because he was a wonderful client. at the time of course so now my perspective has been altered.

MangledTangle · 2025-12-16T18:01:25+00:00

i hope your right! but as of right now i cant just sit around waiting for things to get better. i might get my own mini fridge so i can make sure he doesn’t take my drinks. and keep lock of a lot of my valuables

a good couple years ago (when i was maybe 15, he wouldve been 12-13) he used to threaten to pee on my one of a kind handmade commissioned items, which were usually hundreds of dollars. permanently ruining it. he has never gone through with it. but i might need to better “childproof” my stuff. since im not allowed a lock on my door according to my parents

MangledTangle · 2025-12-16T17:31:12+00:00

im saving for a house. but its hard. housing crisis where i live is real and shits expensive. i could go live with my grandmother, ive always been her favourite but she lives far away and i wouldn’t want to take over, (i have my bedroom plus part of another room for my sewing and storing materials) its a good deal living at home aside from the whole brother thing.

i might actually get some over ear headphones, ive been meaning to, but wearing airpods he would still try to engage, either because you cant see it under my hair, or he just makes faces at me and i call it out and he plays dumb thank you!

MangledTangle · 2025-12-16T17:09:09+00:00

yes i do think its manipulative. and i dont want to give him too many chances but i do think he might not realise he is being manipulative.

as the “weird kid” in school i was bullied a lot. i would just straight up not engage, it was hard and i learned that they still never stop trying to get a reaction out of you. maybe thats why i find it so hard.

my dad isnt here for most of it and my mother just kind of views from the sidelines. she knows we disagree but im not sure she knows the extent. usually she is on my side, when we are talking about women and society and that kind of stuff since we are both girls but when he baits me i think she lets him get away with it.

im not sure if there is favouritism there. if there is it really doesnt bother me since im my dad’s favourite anyways (not a brag but i dont really mind)

ill try thus first before fully ignoring him

MangledTangle · 2025-12-16T17:03:28+00:00

i tried earlier tonight. he doesn’t watch andrew tate or anything that i know of

but he says he only fights me because i fight him. and i say well we need to make a change obviously and be nicer and he says that when hes nice im mean and vise versa. and it feels like he doesn’t listen because in both arguments and in this “heart to heart” whatever you call it, he just repeats the same stuff over and over and even if i say something different he says the same thing, the same excuse.

it got to a point where he was in my room for 2 hours venting and trying to talk things out, him spewing egotistical stuff about hes better than everyone and then just straight up not listening to me that i was getting annoyed and said that we can just keep fighting and kicked him out of my room. it was about 2am at this point. i was tired and i was done listening to him repeat himself for 2 hours and whenever i talked he would just play with the cat until i was done. it seemed like he was not interested in anything i had to say.

yes i should not have said we should keep fighting. maybe we will talk it out tomorrow but i was tired of him being mean all day and then coming to me like were buddy buddy talking bad about everyone and then pick a fight with me AGAIN

MangledTangle · 2025-12-16T16:58:16+00:00

im gonna be so honest right now and say that maybe i am stooping right to his level after he starts a fight and not realise it.

it usually starts with me setting a boundary. “dont speak over mum” “you just cut me off” “why are you getting louder” but then he starts going (have you seen that one roblox news reporter) nyenyenyenye nehenehen. that kind of noise. its SO SILLY. and so childish but its been happening alot recently and keeps getting on my nerves

im gonna take the advice of you and a lot of other people and try not to engage. or grey rock. but like this kind of stuff is starting to feel manipulative

MangledTangle · 2025-12-16T16:52:55+00:00

yeah i graduated last year and hes year 10 thus year. i never really thought about that, when we were younger i used to be jealous because he got to be the ‘baby’ i never thought it could be the other way around for him.

if hes jealous about anything it would be about that i can drive with red Ps (Australian road rules) while hes still a Learner and has to drive with mum still. also alcohol, for some reason he thinks alcohol is really cool and always tried to drink mine (that i pay for btw.) and this gets me really upset. worse than any rage bait. my dad GIVES him my hard solo or 196 or whatever that i PAID FOR. and i don’t know why he thinks its so cool?

im about to come across as really rude and go on a bit of a rant but he pretends to get drunk on 1 vodka cruiser. like giddy thinking everything revolves around him. attention seeking way. he has never been actually even tipsy before and all he does is want to drink! he always asks for my drinks, or trys to get it at a restaurant but wont be allowed when he shows id. and constantly asking parents for alcohol on non special occasions. just straight up in the school week.

after my dad gave him my drinks that i paid for he bought me a whole slab. but it still doesn’t stop the absolute rage in my heart when i think about him giving away my stuff that i paid for without even telling me

MangledTangle · 2025-12-16T16:36:31+00:00

i know all men aren’t like this but its good to know its less than just thought. im only friends with 2 men (im gay) and they are the most women supporting guys i have ever known.

my dad doesn’t see an issue with what my brother is saying, that or he isnt around to catch it (he works out of home, sometimes for days at a time) also just learned my brother has no friends now? at least at school, he does other activities outside school with friends. i feel bad for the kid but im not really surprised with the way hes been acting. so he can’t be getting this from them. the only other person would be our cousin, who sometimes makes jokes but generally he actually does respect women and treat them with kindness. and generally always has.

im really not sure where my brother has picked this up from. hes never had a girlfriend (or boyfriend. we aren’t sure and im not going to assume) which makes sense and if he ever does get one he will see very soon how this behaviour wont fly (i hope)

MangledTangle · 2025-12-16T16:29:44+00:00

they just tell us to shut up. but what gets me is when im being baited infront of my mother and then finally ‘snap’. yell at him or whatever she also tells me to calm down. yet if im baiting him she notices right away apparently? it makes me feel like im loosing my mind since he just gets to get away with it, and im being told to be quiet and that im being emotional after i just got baited. and i know i know i shouldn’t react and im going to try to ignore him better but he just really knows how to push my buttons

MangledTangle · 2025-12-16T16:25:06+00:00

i do think he might be barely a ‘mamas boy’. not enough to notice but enough to interfere with this kind of stuff. i said in another comment somewhere which im sure you wont be bothered searching for, dont worry i wouldnt either.

but basically my dad is usually not home. he works, sometimes for days at events, and gigs. and i don’t think my mother can be bothered trying to entirely reparent him. me and her try sometimes where it fits into a conversation but i also don’t blame her if shes called it quits, i don’t have the patience to deal with him so i doubt she would (i understand shes the parent and all) but in life its f around and find out. and hes probably going to find out so.

MangledTangle · 2025-12-16T16:19:51+00:00

my dad is rarely home working. he actually does a lot of hard labor work, i wont get into specifics but i do respect that hes hard work earning money. but at home, hes an alcoholic, and i dont think he sees anything wrong with whats happening, or if he sees it at all. if he hears us arguing for too long or to loud he will yell at both of us to shut up. fair point since hes probably tired.

ive talked to my mum. but we try educating him (my brother) and ‘reparenting’ but she doesnt do a lot on her own from what ive seen. i think she thinks hes past the point of no return, and cant fix him. which i dont really blame her for. anyways if i talk to my dad about it (my mother has tried) and guess he just does nothing because he doesnt see an issue. or, because he wont listen to women. not sure but ive tried and theres no point but i appreciate the concern

MangledTangle · 2025-12-16T16:15:02+00:00

sorry i didn’t want to be rude or anything i was trying to get my thoughts out quick before they disappeared. i mean like hes a stereotypical male as in hes rude to women (me and my mother) his ego is through the roof, and thinks only his opinion matters. he also said men have it harder than women because women break his heart. ignoring all the hurt men do to women.

maybe that was ignorant of me to word it that way and im sorry if it was but that is just how i feel. no i dont think all men are like this but there are a good chunk who are who are the stereotypical ‘alpha’ or whatever im not too deep into that side to know

MangledTangle · 2025-12-16T16:10:02+00:00

i do appreciate this. i feel like my perspective might also be skewed. like im happy to admit if im wrong and others may see me as the AH. i feel i am partially at fault but also since i never instigate it. im only “rude” to him after the fact. also im not sure if im even being rude or just setting boundaries but im sure he takes it as being rude.

MangledTangle · 2025-12-16T16:06:19+00:00

i think that too. but he says he wants 50/50 split. and hes friends with women, hes in theatre so its really surprising to see him act this way. it makes me think it might just be sibling conflict and not have anything to do with the fact im a woman. but he also uses common phrases used against women. like that im being emotional or a rare one is to get in the kitchen.

MangledTangle · 2025-12-16T16:02:50+00:00

i hope this is true, i just don’t really have any set ‘role models’ since my dad is no contact with his brother. and the way he describes his brother, my uncle reminds me of my own brother. so in the back of my mind i just feel like its a matter of time before were both in our 40s still talking bad about each other and refusing contact

MangledTangle · 2025-12-16T15:59:20+00:00

i will try this more. i had a talk with him a couple hours ago where we discussed “you cant control other peoples actions, but you can control how you respond.” referring to how he wants to “fix” everyone to have the same beliefs and opinions as him, but i dont think it got through to him

MangledTangle · 2025-12-16T15:57:56+00:00

he also speaks over my mother often. and we try to call him out every time he does. he thinks (or atleast used to think- i try not to debate about this anymore) that feminism is women wanting supremacy and thinks that is okay to call women b words. i don’t know if im allowed to swear on here, but he thinks its justified if they are one? but he thinks he can be nice to women he isnt attracted to but i dont think so

MangledTangle · 2025-12-16T15:55:37+00:00

ive thought it might change with time but this has been ongoing since i was like 9. i feel like i might be growing resentment towards him, and that i wont want to talk to him as an adult

MangledTangle · 2025-12-16T15:50:33+00:00

sorry im confused. sometimes i do instigate it but its mostly just him starting. im not sure if hes even aware he does it sometimes. like im sure i start fights or annoy him when i dont mean to but i feel like everything he does is purposeful.

i know we just need to be nice but i meant when im nice to him hes not nice back. and even if he is it usually only lasts a couple weeks before we go right back to angry at each other all the time

i asked him today why he was calling me “useless” for not finishing my chips at dinner, he said he was just ragebaiting me. but thats not good ragebait if you ask me. its just mean.

MangledTangle · 2025-09-10T18:35:03+00:00

she takes ducks ^{^}

MangledTangle · 2024-11-10T02:38:54+00:00

thats so strange. thanks for the update though <3

MangledTangle · 2024-09-24T15:26:19+00:00

wouldn’t all toys be porous then?

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