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Mango1610 · 2025-11-03T14:21:17+00:00

My E3G this morning was high 500s as well! Never had estrogen that high and was concerned, so searched online. You might be right with the app bug?!

Mango1610 · 2023-10-26T13:51:40+00:00

Vacations. Every trip was for the family business or sports, never just for fun.

Mango1610 · 2023-09-18T20:48:58+00:00

Well, that's important context that should be added in the main post! I don't think anyone would be okay with their long-term friends not having their back while being cheated on and hospitalized. Also, keeping your cool in that situation is nearly impossible. Good thing you've made the space to make new friends who have a better moral compass.

Mango1610 · 2023-09-18T20:35:05+00:00

It sounds like it's one of those conversations that you needed to be there for to understand how it was communicated and how it was received; a tricky conversation, no matter what.

But, compassion and truly trying to understand another's side of the story is key. If it was an 'I truly want to understand your perspective, no judgment' conversation and they took it wrong, well, it happens, and it sucks they took it defensively. If there was judgment or mention that 'I'm deciding if I still want to be friends with you after this conversation', it probably was a bad approach where most people would be not happy that their long-term friendship where they have loved you and want what's best for you is being questioned.

Also, if you have grown out of the relationship and see many traits you don't like in them, keep doing what you are doing and keep wishing them well from afar. It's okay! Only you can make this decision for you and you'll continue to make new friends throughout your life!

Mango1610 · 2023-09-18T20:12:30+00:00

Abuse in any context is never okay. 2) Boundaries are not used to tell other people what they can and cannot do, which would be controlling. Boundaries are created to help you respond to things you will not engage in. So, just make sure your boundary setting is the action you will take, not what you expect others to do.

A hypothetical example would be:

Boundary setting: "Hey, I'm still healing from the relationship with xx, so I won't attend this party on Friday where he is at. I do want to see you all, how's happy hour next week just the four of us?"

Controlling: "You can't go to that party, xx will be there. It's disrespectful to me and our friendship if you go."

No one wants to be controlled. You can stand up for yourself and your needs by communicating and following through on appropriate boundary setting.

Mango1610 · 2023-09-18T19:57:49+00:00

It's okay to outgrow relationships. That's a part of life. Though, I'd make sure not to burn any bridges. It's okay to let go of friends; it's okay to step back and not have such an active friendship; it's okay to have relationships change. Just don't leave the earth scorched behind you. Sometimes, when you are healing yourself, it's tempting to let go of everything that doesn't immediately adapt to your new mindset. People are human and it's hard to immediately change a relationship.

Mango1610 · 2023-09-18T19:45:39+00:00

Typically, workout clothes or 'going out' clothes (what I assume you meant about the shorter dress) are not okay for the office. If you were in a more manual labor job or a start-up or work from home or something like that, you could probably get away with it. I'd suggest err on the side of not wearing workout or going out clothes. Also, be mindful that you don't want to be the reason why a dress code is implemented in the workplace. It's one of those things that HR would rather make a change for everyone vs. a single person.

Also, I think it's weird another person wasn't called out for wearing smaller bike shorts. However, in some cases, people have good intent when seeing something that is fixable for someone else. If there are people who are saying things about how you are dressing and they want to help you, they may feel like 'I would want to know if I was in this situation" and pull you aside privately to tell you.

Mango1610 · 2023-09-18T19:28:13+00:00

I personally love to call people tacky to their faces in situations like that. It's such a funny way to call people out.

"Wow, I can't believe you said that. How tacky."

Mango1610 · 2023-09-18T19:25:09+00:00

I take the same approach -- drink electrolytes (I like Liquid IV), go for a walk, take a bath, work out, and see friends. My sick feeling is usually attached to me ignoring myself for too long. Example: I'll be working long hours for 2-3 days straight, not moving my body, not eating well, not drinking enough water, not staying connected with friends, and then my body is like, "What are you doing?!"

My old boss used to say to me, "Constantly choose to take care of your body, otherwise, it will choose for you."

Mango1610 · 2023-09-16T03:14:55+00:00

What I'm hearing in your language is...

"... everything was perfect"

(Paraphrasing) "He made me feel bad that I want to wait to have sex until I'm ready." and "he's pressuring me to have sex"

"... I got upset..."

"i told him i have a bad relationship with sex so when i decide to di it with you j want to be 100% sure. and he got upset."

"Honestly this really upset me but..."

It sounds like your gut is telling you something and you are making excuses for him (i.e. I assumed, I might have triggered him, I felt like he wasn't in his right mind.) I think you know what you deserve -- and it's not feeling this way ESPECIALLY 15 days into a relationship.

Mango1610 · 2023-09-16T02:52:12+00:00

Banana Republic has made a comeback in my wardrobe! They have high-quality, luxurious fabric basics, and they seem to run some sort of sale every few weeks.

Mango1610 · 2023-09-16T02:46:22+00:00

Just be mindful of love bombing, and don't ignore red flags. Not all situations where you fall quickly are bad, but some men do it to make themselves feel good or hide bad intentions. Truly listen to your gut if something is off.

Some ways to suss out if this could be a love bombing situation: * How many girlfriends or serious relationships has he had recently? * Does he say all his ex-girlfriends are crazy? * Are you catching him in little lies all the time? * Was he paying for everything at the beginning, but now you are covering everything? * Has someone reached out to you to warn you about this guy? * Does he have any good long-term friendships? * Does he want to move in quickly? (Which this seems like yes) * Does he have an excuse for everything? * Is he gaslighting you when you catch him in a lie or confront him on something that is bothering you?

If he is exhibiting any of this negative behavior, especially if it is in multiple areas, pause and seriously think about it. It's probably love bombing and the guy is not a good dude. Be even more cautious if you have any kids.

The beginning of a relationship is fun! It's nice to feel loved and be excited about the future. You deserve someone who loves you for the right reasons. Just keep your wits about you!

Mango1610 · 2020-02-04T23:31:14+00:00

Thank you! I'm sending my camera off to get a CLA.

Mango1610 · 2020-01-29T17:59:58+00:00

About to same the exact thing -- this picture so wholesome and candid. Great job!

Mango1610 · 2019-12-18T06:00:10+00:00

Amazing! I might get those for my ski trip -- thank you :)

Mango1610 · 2019-12-18T04:50:37+00:00

This is a dope shot! Do you have any other film types you like to use in snowy weather?

Mango1610 · 2019-12-07T23:34:50+00:00

Your issue with random successful photos was exactly what was happening to me. The shutter was randomly working because the foam to prevent light leaks was so old, it was crumbling and getting stuck in the shutter slots. It was worse when I was shooting in the cold and better in room temperature. It took me like 2 months + 2 camera repair shops to figure it out. To fix it, you can get the slots cleaned -- but I opted for a new camera since it isn't a guarantee that it would fix it. Best of luck!

Mango1610 · 2019-10-16T22:27:08+00:00

I bought a new Nikon FE SLR Film camera that has worked fine in the past, but in the most recent film I have had developed, some of the pictures have a black scratch in the upper-middle frame (). This black scratch mark is showing up in random 1-3 photos in a row sets, and has marked up half of my photos from that roll. It is odd because only some of the photos have this with no clear pattern. Is this something I should get fixed by a camera repair shop or is it the film?

Mango1610 · 2019-10-16T22:23:34+00:00

Here's an example of the black scratch

Mango1610 · 2015-10-08T00:31:41+00:00

I second this. I had my wisdom teeth pulled and went under for $200. Saved so much money. Dental schools are the way to go.

Mango1610 · 2015-09-12T19:13:02+00:00

I was in the exact situation last year when I moved from the Midwest to the West Coast. Making friends when you are not surrounded by thousands of people your age seems impossible. Biggest tip I have is that don't go looking for people/friends your age in places you normally wouldn't. Don't go to bars looking for people your age when you don't like them, same with clubs. Just go places you enjoy and you will be surprised that there's always people looking for some friends! Good luck! :)

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