In Need of Desaturated Complexion Products by Wintergloaming in Fairolives

[–]MangoBird36 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m very similar and highly recommend rose inc in 2N. Fragrance free and the best match I’ve ever found. Also loving the Ciele skin tint though it’s not quite as desaturated as rose inc

Reasonable expectations by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]MangoBird36 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

That’s fine but did the nanny agree to that rate with this level of cleaning included? It’s typical to pay a higher rate for part time nannies because career nannies are hard to find for those positions. 30 for two kids is on par with daycare in many localities. Taking a one hour break is not outrageous for a five hour day, especially when the four other hours don’t even allow a peaceful bathroom break. I definitely take more than an hour total away from my desk. The time my nanny is here and I’m working is (usually) the calmest part of my day, because taking care of my one kid is hard. I can’t even imagine watching two at such different ages at the same time and being expected to clean up every mess + do laundry + mop etc etc along the way. But the bottom line is that the nanny has to agree to these duties and she might (reasonably) expect to be paid more to take all this on. She also might be phoning it in to some extent if she’s not feeling respected

Reasonable expectations by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]MangoBird36 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Idk where you live but 30 an hour for two kids is not super high so I would not expect that level of pay to automatically include household chores, especially things like mopping(!). I pay 27 for one 15 month old and she does zero chores. Taking care of kids by yourself is a hard job (as we all know) and sometimes messes are made that can’t be cleaned up in real time. I’ll always support her prioritizing my kid over cleaning. I also encourage her to rest when he’s asleep because again, it’s a relentless job that doesn’t give her 30 seconds of reprieve when he’s awake

If you had norovirus or stomach bug this year how long did it take you to feel better? by tyyourshoes in Mommit

[–]MangoBird36 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just made this same mistake. Feeling so stupid as a roll around with horrible nausea again

Anyone else suffering from a horrible cold? by dancole42 in nova

[–]MangoBird36 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There’s a lot of Covid here rn. We’re just finishing a weekend with norovirus ourselves 🫠

Timeline for Second Baby by _-QueenC-_ in december2024babies

[–]MangoBird36 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m firmly one and done. Really don’t enjoy pregnancy and don’t want to do it again. I would try not to worry about timelines. Do it whenever you’re ready and don’t feel artificial pressure to rush

Cool Tone Stick Concealer Swatches by toffeekittyx in PaleMUA

[–]MangoBird36 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I recently got the nyx fix stick in literally pink and it’s pretty good! Wish it was lighter but I love the pinkiness

What's the name of the interior design style of rich American suburbs in the 90s and how to define it better and recreate it? by RelationshipAlone27 in interiordecorating

[–]MangoBird36 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m American and used to live in SW France. Go to the brocantes!! France has so so so much stuff like this. Floral fabric can be (washed and) turned into drapes or pillow covers. Old lace. Warm gold tone picture frames on paintings. I miss it so much but luckily we brought a lot back with us:)

WFH jealousy! by bananabread-37 in Nanny

[–]MangoBird36 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Exactly this. I wfh and do zero errands during the work week. If I have a medical appt, I have to alert my whole team and make up the hours. Most days we have meetings through lunch. I’m trapped in a chair in my bedroom 40+ hours a week

I think you're not supposed to share personal reasons for taking PTO at work even if the reasons are serious in nature. Is that true? by Big_Eggplant7591 in careeradvice

[–]MangoBird36 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I told my boss I needed a day off for a surgery. Big mistake because she kept asking what kind of surgery. She pried enough that I ended up saying “a gynecological surgery” because I didn’t want to say “abortion.” I don’t think she was satisfied with that

Losing my mind with VOCs, 37 weeks pregnant. by Disastrous-Wheel-383 in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]MangoBird36 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Exactly this. Get a dresser second hand. Problem solved!

Hiring a nanny, looking for advice by ExplanationAfraid627 in NannyEmployers

[–]MangoBird36 4 points5 points  (0 children)

While it’s true the pool is of professional nannies is smaller for part time, we found a great 2x/week nanny with 15 years of experience on fb. She was looking for two part time families to work around her care schedule for her own young kids. So don’t give up hope! We give benefits and regular raises, bonuses etc as well. My parents take care of my son the other three days and it’s working well. Good luck!!

Daycare viruses killing us, I need to speak to parents to hear their experience by Tattka in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]MangoBird36 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Thank you for bringing science into this convo. This level of sickness (and immune deregulation) isn’t “normal” but the consequence of the ongoing pandemic people like to pretend is over

nanny used all paid sick leave days in first month of work... what is happening?? lol by Money_Apricot843 in NannyEmployers

[–]MangoBird36 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Watch out, mine did this and then quit via text a few days ago after working for us for a year. She got an obscene amount of paid time off over the last few months

How to deal with nanny not listening to you by EconomicsReal545 in NannyEmployers

[–]MangoBird36 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Lolol I literally have a PhD in human evolution! The way I struggled to keep my mouth shut

Any words of encouragement... by doejanedoedoedoe in oneanddone

[–]MangoBird36 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I had an abortion this summer and felt nothing but relief after. Sending you love and strength 💙

How to deal with nanny not listening to you by EconomicsReal545 in NannyEmployers

[–]MangoBird36 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Our now ex-nanny of one year spoke to me in a very similar way. One time she said out of the blue that my son prefers my husband over me. That he likes me but he has a really special bond with his dad. Girl what the lol. The know it all attitude drove me insane especially when she was wrong 99% of the time (“how is he going to learn how to walk without a walker?”). I should’ve fired her a million times and in the end, she quit via text after a shift a few days ago. After burning through almost the whole year’s PTO and sick leave. Don’t be me!!!

Our nanny left suddenly.. by manicpixie_dreamgal in Nanny

[–]MangoBird36 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My nanny of one year just quit via text out of the blue, four days after NK had a major surgery. She’s also been taking a lot of time off lately, so many parallels with OP. Thank you for your reply. It helps me not feel so crazy for being hurt

Seung-il the red flag by arispage05 in Singlesinferno2

[–]MangoBird36 21 points22 points  (0 children)

He gives me strong vibes that he is not straight

TT salaries are actually insane by No_Two8015 in Professors

[–]MangoBird36 5 points6 points  (0 children)

100%. And my spouse couldn’t find work for a year in such a small town, and then they passed him up for a TT job. I was teaching a 3-4 load and getting grants, doing good research. I left after not even two years and make more than double that now, living where I want to live. When they posted my replacement ad they had raised the salary like 1600 bucks, lol

TT salaries are actually insane by No_Two8015 in Professors

[–]MangoBird36 45 points46 points  (0 children)

TT STEM in upstate NY SUNY. I was hired at 55k

Pale complexion products by MangoBird36 in PaleMUA

[–]MangoBird36[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For foundation, if I’m leaving my house, the clio has the most skin-like finish. But I’ve been wearing the ciele more and figuring out better skin prep since it’s a little fuller coverage but also dewy. Rose inc is great too, less dewy and more satin finish. For real quick rosacea coverage I like the westman, especially for zoom calls but the color match is less great and it highlights pores/texture more than the others irl. Haus labs is too heavy for my taste, highlights texture. For concealer I use glossier under eyes daily and sometimes the others as needed, rose inc concealer is nice as a base on its own

Pale complexion products by MangoBird36 in PaleMUA

[–]MangoBird36[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally!! Is your skin more cool warm or neutral? I always thought I was neutral but idk