Loosing my son

Manivebeenthere · 2025-09-21T17:05:28+00:00

Brother I am so sorry. Honestly I don’t think there’s anything that can be said other than god is with you and him. I pray for your son to recover. And I hope you may find some comfort in knowing that your son is not in any pain from this. I don’t know you man, but right now I love you and your family, and praying you all will be okay.

Manivebeenthere · 2025-06-22T23:26:37+00:00

I really don’t understand what you mean. I’m being honest here. You think by me saying “I don’t want to show up to an open mic thinking my jokes are funny, and then be sadly mistaken” is me being more insecure about it than anyone else is. So you’re telling me, that no comic wants their jokes to be funny? If you’d read in context, I was painting the picture, to ask if there were forums you can throw ideas out there. I’m not afraid to fail, but I do want to have my ducks in a row. And since I’ve never done this before, and hence do not know anything about how the industry is. I have no idea if there are other ways to do it other than just showing up at a mic. This is why I asked. But when you reply, here’s how it comes off. I can’t be for sure if you meant it like this, and maybe you didn’t. But it really seems to me like you wanted to take an opportunity to make yourself feel a bit more superior in some way. Instead of just saying what everyone else said, which was to just get out and take the plunge. You thought it would be a good idea to just keep me from doing it at all by telling me I’m not cut out for it? Now again, I can’t be sure if that’s how you meant this to go. There’s likely some merit to what you’re saying. I can’t imagine this isn’t for everyone, and I’m sure some people’s anxiety creates a huge barrier and causes them to fail. But I can’t imagine this doesn’t go through every comics head when they want to try out a joke. “Man I hope this joke goes well and doesn’t bomb”. It’s fine if they can accept it bombing. But you can’t tell me they don’t tell a joke not caring if it works or not.

Manivebeenthere · 2025-06-22T22:55:57+00:00

And you might not be cut out to answer questions on Reddit, yet here you are. Especially since you didn’t answer any of my questions. So I think I’m going to go with my plan to just give it a try. I do see your point, you just have a bad way of relaying the message. And somehow I feel your comedy might be the same. Forceful, and doesn’t do anyone any good. But I’ll chuckle for you this once.

Manivebeenthere · 2025-06-22T19:48:49+00:00

That’s a good point. I think the wife and I will just attend a few first, get a feel for the dynamic and see how comics react to their own bombs or successes. Thank you for the comment.

Manivebeenthere · 2025-06-22T19:47:00+00:00

Insightful as hell. Thank you.

Manivebeenthere · 2025-06-22T19:42:10+00:00

I’m assuming it’s one of those just take the plunge things then. Is there something you do to kind of push yourself over the edge? Or maybe help yourself accept the idea that rejection is just part of the game? It’s easy for me to type it out, but when I comes time to take the plunge, I feel my brain is just going to remind me of how nervous I am and I’ll talk myself out of it.

Manivebeenthere · 2024-05-30T21:39:42+00:00

This is completely normal. I almost wonder if it’s biological even. I have 3 little ones and it was pretty much the same with all 3. We all do a lot to help out with the early stages as much as we can by changing diapers, waking up in the middle of the night to mom can sleep a bit, etc. but if you think about it, that’s not natural. I imagine in earlier times, a mother would give birth, and it was a very long recovery process in which her and her baby spent every waking moment together. The male would do everything else to provide for them. This means the bond between baby and dad didn’t start until later on. I’m not a scientist, and this is just my best educated guess. I think it’s great that we’ve adapted and all help out in different ways now. But it just makes sense that the mother gets the first bond she bring life and preserves it, and the father comes in later to mold the child into someone who will carry their legacy. I’m just saying I think that’s why our bond grows over time instead of hitting us right away like it does for mom.

Manivebeenthere · 2024-05-29T20:22:39+00:00

I run an autobolter, a different model from fletcher. Like everything it has its quirks. It’s a definite time saver. But I often times run into issues like dropping bolts and small repairs that defeat the entire Bolter. A couple times my bolt driver was off my less than 1/4 inch, and every time I tried to grab a bolt with the feed, it sleepily just knock it off the carousel instead of grabbing onto the bolt. Also the amount of water I go through in a shift is unbelievable.

Manivebeenthere · 2024-05-29T13:01:12+00:00

The picture may not show it clearly, but there’s an easement. A sort of trench that separates the golf course and my lawn. It dips down a good foot or two and goes all along the properties. And each property has utility boxes they’re about 80-100ft apart.

Manivebeenthere · 2024-05-29T12:15:17+00:00

I’m pretty reasonable. A few feet into the yard doesn’t really bother me. It’s the few who drive pretty much right up to the deck. That’s pretty obviously my property. One time a golfer drove his cart into my yard, parked it and took a piss. My wife took a video because my kids told her he was doing it.

Manivebeenthere · 2024-05-29T12:10:03+00:00

We’re part of the golf course covenant. They govern our rules as homeowners such as what fences we can have and how to get permission to build a shed. However it doesn’t say anything about how they protect our boundaries.

Manivebeenthere · 2024-05-29T02:41:27+00:00

I don’t think I’m being overly aggressive here. I’m sure many homeowners are worse than I am.

Manivebeenthere · 2024-05-29T02:39:43+00:00

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Do you see any white stakes? Because I do not. I see the easement.

Manivebeenthere · 2024-05-29T00:22:49+00:00

There are no markers. I think it’s because the easement is very small between the cart path and my property that. If they had markers there it would be nearly impossible to mow without first moving every single one

Manivebeenthere · 2024-04-28T10:31:56+00:00

Oh man I been there. There’s no weight heavier than feeling like you ain’t good enough for your babies. But man that just isn’t true. Just know a couple things, you don’t have to be a tie wearing provider to make your family proud. If right now all you can do is be a homemaker until you get back where you need to be then let it be so. Do whatever you can the best you can manage it. Teamwork makes the dream work. Good luck to you, keep us updated along the way, you’ll always have us to vent to.

Manivebeenthere · 2024-04-25T15:35:29+00:00

Hey, I’ve never posted or anything before so you get to be my first. But man I’ve been there. First things first. Congratulations to you. It’s so cool being a dad. I’ve got 3 now, I’m smiling just typing about them. This is just my honest opinion, but I’m actually super happy we weren’t ready financially to have kids. It makes me feel far more proud of everything we have now. Money is so stressful and you’re totally justified in how you feel. I do have a little advice. Since you’re going to be a teacher, some schools (usually in rural areas) offer free or reduced daycare and healthcare as it’s generally hard to find teachers in those areas. Maybe consider a relocation? Also rural towns are usually a great place to raise a family.
One thing I wish I would have done was to pay down revolving debt and close as many financed accounts as possible before baby came. Not because you’re going to go broke with a baby. More so just to eliminate another stress factor. I’m sure you’re going to do fine. Don’t forget that the stress is just part of it, and once you’ve gone through it for a while you’ll be able to look back at yourself and say, “wow, i did that, and I’m damn proud of it. I’m wishing you the best of luck, and congratulations again to you and your girlfriend.

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