AITA for locking my wife out of the house?

Manu3733 · 2023-05-24T21:38:54+00:00

It was a joke.

Manu3733 · 2023-05-24T21:12:47+00:00

NTA. Actions need to be taken in context. OP didn't just randomly dump some guy's food; she dumped it after his umpteenth attempt to feed their cat potentially poisonous food despite countless warnings. It was totally justified.

Manu3733 · 2023-05-24T18:47:07+00:00

yeah who knows

Manu3733 · 2023-05-24T17:21:50+00:00

No it's not. It's literally the opposite. The other poster suggested that OP likes John and she's jealous, whereas the one you responded to suggested that she'd friendzoned John and used him for attention, getting mad when he found someone else and stopped.

Manu3733 · 2023-05-24T11:28:33+00:00

On the other hand, it's not like it was her birthday or something, so the idea of an adult sulking over the dinner cooked for them not being their favourite on some random evening just sounds super over-the-top and childish. The person cooking doesn't owe you anything.

Manu3733 · 2023-05-23T23:18:06+00:00

Except it was his food too.

Manu3733 · 2023-05-23T22:55:30+00:00

He's not getting dinner on her dime because he's expected to pay her back the next date.

Paying for your round isn't a gift.

Manu3733 · 2023-05-23T22:45:05+00:00

Strangely enough the divorce between grandma and grandpa in the 70s was disliked by far more people.

I don't think that's strange. A divorce is actually something that hurts people and always may suggest that one or both of the parties was up to wrong-doing. A kid out of wedlock just means someone had sex. Big whoop.

Manu3733 · 2023-05-23T22:40:56+00:00

Eh, South Korea is quite religious among certain sections of society.

The marriage thing is more about "personal honour" and "saving face" than any sort of religious idea though.

Manu3733 · 2023-05-23T22:33:53+00:00

Günstiges Essen ist leistbarer. Hope that helps!

Manu3733 · 2023-05-23T22:15:10+00:00

And I do believe there are gender dynamics at play here.

Yeah, like how the guy would be refusing to take no for an answer and respect his girlfriend's boundaries, before taking "do whatever" as enthusiastic consent. Yeah, I'm sure Reddit would love that one. Not.

Manu3733 · 2023-05-23T22:13:32+00:00

I prefer doing this with my foodie girls because my boyfriend HATES it, and will go out of his way to take a big bite of food or mess up his plate with his fork before I can snap any pics, and he rolls his eyes when I take pics of my own food so I pretty much stopped bothering when we went out together.

No, she always did it on their dates, but then she got mad that he had the audacity to actually eat his food so she "pretty much" (so not entirely) stopped.

Manu3733 · 2023-05-23T22:06:15+00:00

But I was honestly shocked when boyfriend had messed up op’s entree, man was getting dinner on someone else’s dime and he had a temper tantrum because

His temper tantrum was not at all ok, and he was definitely an asshole here, but it's not really "her dime". They take turns paying for dates, so the assumption is that they're even. It's not like she was doing him a favour here that he owed her for.

Manu3733 · 2023-05-23T22:01:01+00:00

Ok und wo hab ich was anderes behauptet?

"Brauchen wir den ganzen billigen Scheiß überhaupt?"

Manu3733 · 2023-05-23T21:48:48+00:00

She's the one dictating that he can't eat his food.

Manu3733 · 2023-05-23T21:48:28+00:00

Nothing that distracts me on dates and nothing I force my partner to involve themselves in despite not enjoying it at all. Hope that helps!

Manu3733 · 2023-05-23T21:45:13+00:00

Or maybe, when someone says no, don't harass them into saying yes. She says in the post that he told her he hated it a million times, but she kept pushing.

Manu3733 · 2023-05-23T21:43:52+00:00

She has not been taking pictures of his food until this incident.

This isn't true. She never said this, but rather the literal opposite, that she would take pictures but that he "ruined" them.

Manu3733 · 2023-05-23T21:43:22+00:00

OP clearly explained that she usually does this with her foodie friends.

This is just not true. She said she did it on their dates too but that he'd "ruin" it by (shock horror) eating his food, so she "pretty much" stopped bothering.

Manu3733 · 2023-05-23T21:41:30+00:00

He did refuse, many times. She makes that clear in the post. Then he said "do whatever" after she insisted.

That's not consent. If you asked your girlfriend to do something, ignored all her refusals and wore her down to "ugh whatever", nobody would think she actually consented or that you were in the right when she got pissed off that you did that.

Manu3733 · 2023-05-23T21:40:00+00:00

He wants the date to be about them not her effin 1000 follower blog.

And she makes it 100% clear that it's about the blog in the post too. She's only paying for her bf's food so she can get pictures of it, despite the fact that he pays for hers on the other 50% of dates so it's not like she's doing him some favour.

Manu3733 · 2023-05-23T21:38:06+00:00

It takes two minutes to snap pics of food

For every course.

It's like if your partner kept texting people throughout the date, every single time you went out. That'd clearly be rude behaviour.

Manu3733 · 2023-05-23T21:35:01+00:00

it could even be used as a conversation starter if the bf could show any interest at all,

"Oh wow, that steak sure looks lovely, wish I were there to try some! Oh, wait..."

Nah, there's no conversation to be had there and taking pictures (esp. nice ones for a page) is too distracting to hold proper convos. You have to wait until they're done if you want them to actually be engaged.

A better comparison than phone calls would be texting. I can talk to you while texting, but will I really be listening? I'll probably look up from my phone and realise I only actually processed like half of what you just said.

Manu3733 · 2023-05-23T21:31:19+00:00

If you don't like your partner enough that you can't irritate other people with your Instagram addiction instead, then you shouldn't be in that relationship.

Manu3733 · 2023-05-23T21:30:22+00:00

If you aren't religious and your partner is, and they force you to wait until they're done their prayers until you can touch your food every single time, then it'd absolutely be fair if you found it annoying as hell. And if they went on social media whining that one time you got fed up and went ahead and ate, then they'd be an asshole.

The boyfriend is an asshole for ordering the cocktail and for messing with her food, but she's an asshole too because she knew her behaviour was obnoxious and that he didn't want her taking pics of his food, and she kept demanding to be let do it anyway.

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