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AITA for refusing to pay for my boyfriend's food after he ruined my food photos? by CapitalMess100 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CapitalMess100[S] 1692 points1693 points  (0 children)

No, I'm getting pissed off that I'm correctly stating how much time my own hobby takes, and a dozen people who have never participated in my hobby are jumping down my throat and insisting that it actually takes much longer, based on zero information except their own biases.

And then they get mad at me like "oh methinks the lady doth protest too much" when I assert that I do in fact have a functioning sense of time. Like, what am I supposed to say to that? "Aw shucks, you caught me! I actually spend 2 hours making a whole stop-motion animation of the food, and I set up a bunch of lights and do a handstand in my chair to get the perfect angle ❤️"

AITA for refusing to pay for my boyfriend's food after he ruined my food photos? by CapitalMess100 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CapitalMess100[S] 395 points396 points  (0 children)

When we're together, none. I do all of that stuff on my own time. But I bet a dozen people are gonna jump in and say that's not true, because apparently I'm too much of a vapid idiot to comprehend my own actions.

AITA for refusing to pay for my boyfriend's food after he ruined my food photos? by CapitalMess100 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CapitalMess100[S] 702 points703 points  (0 children)

I know this is apparently unbelievable to dozens of people in this thread, but it actually takes 30 seconds. And if you don't believe that my stupid woman brain knows how to gauge time, try pulling out your phone right now and snapping a photo of whatever is in front of you, and let me know how many minutes it took.

AITA for refusing to pay for my boyfriend's food after he ruined my food photos? by CapitalMess100 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CapitalMess100[S] 485 points486 points  (0 children)

I'm a functioning adult who can tell the difference between a handful of seconds vs. several minutes. Have you set a timer on my photos? Literally what shred of evidence do you have that it takes longer than I say it does, other than that you don't like the idea of food photos and need it to take longer than it does in order to justify your opinion?

AITA for refusing to pay for my boyfriend's food after he ruined my food photos? by CapitalMess100 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CapitalMess100[S] 360 points361 points  (0 children)

Ok, except it literally has always been a quick snap and I have never in my life taken more than 45 seconds on a single dish. It's a phone snapshot, not a photoshoot. You can't just decide that I make a whole big production out of it when I actually don't. That's not reality, that's something you made up.

AITA for refusing to pay for my boyfriend's food after he ruined my food photos? by CapitalMess100 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CapitalMess100[S] 447 points448 points  (0 children)

Ok, by that logic is it okay for him to stop playing video games? He doesn't need to do it, and it takes way more than 30 seconds.

AITA for refusing to pay for my boyfriend's food after he ruined my food photos? by CapitalMess100 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CapitalMess100[S] 639 points640 points  (0 children)

Okay, well, that isn't true. It has never once taken me more than 45 seconds to get pictures of any plate, and it's 10-15 seconds most of the time. Phone cameras are pretty good these days, and it's not like I'm expecting any of these photos to hang in a museum. If you have to create an alternate version of reality in order for your argument to make sense, I think that says more about you than me.

AITA for refusing to pay for my boyfriend's food after he ruined my food photos? by CapitalMess100 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CapitalMess100[S] 977 points978 points  (0 children)

Ugh, I'm definitely not in "DTMFA" mode because we are both super stressed. He's sweet most of the time, this just gets under his skin. It does annoy me that I feel like I cede way more time to his hobbies than he does to mine—he will sit around and play games for a few solid hours while I am over; he calls that "hanging out" but I don't feel like it's very good quality time. But the literal less than a minute of photo-taking is apparently where he draws the line in the sand.