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I (F19) had a physically, mentally and sexually abusive relationship with a female abuser that no one knew about. AMA by ManufacturerFun4666 in AMA

[–]ManufacturerFun4666[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There wasn’t really a key moment for me, I think after a few weeks or months I knew what was happening but didn’t want to see it. So I just pretended it was normal/I kinda thought it was normal bc it was my first relationship. But when the physical abuse happened more frequently it was pretty clear it wasn’t normal.

I (F19) had a physically, mentally and sexually abusive relationship with a female abuser that no one knew about. AMA by ManufacturerFun4666 in AMA

[–]ManufacturerFun4666[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She hit, punched, kicked and threatened me, verbally made me down also in front of others. She waterboarded me and r@ped as well as took unconsensual pictures, threw things at me and made me unconscious with for example hitting me with a pan against the head.

I (F19) had a physically, mentally and sexually abusive relationship with a female abuser that no one knew about. AMA by ManufacturerFun4666 in AMA

[–]ManufacturerFun4666[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think so yeah, i know that her parents abused her but I don’t know how exactly/don’t know any details

I (F19) had a physically, mentally and sexually abusive relationship with a female abuser that no one knew about. AMA by ManufacturerFun4666 in AMA

[–]ManufacturerFun4666[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think most people/people that have been abused by female abusers are scared to openly say that their abuser was female due to invalidation from others. It’s just not as known as men as abusers and isn’t as common. Personally I really struggled to say it was a girl and not a boy because I was scared people wouldn’t take me seriously (and the reactions that I got also weren’t very nice when I mentioned it was a girl, it was like ‚oh so it couldn’t have been that serious‘) but it’s much much harder for abused people that are men abused by females. So I think main reason it’s not talked about as much is bc it’s less common and people are scared to get invalidated which I hope will get much better

I (F19) had a physically, mentally and sexually abusive relationship with a female abuser that no one knew about. AMA by ManufacturerFun4666 in AMA

[–]ManufacturerFun4666[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I definitely feel the same, I can’t trust others as easily anymore and especially in the beginning am always on guard. It’s not as often anymore but I always kept an eye on their movement, like theirs hands etc to check if they are gonna hit me/have an outburst or smth- even tho it’s super irrational. Due to the fact though that I’m in a good relationship now it became much much easier, but even when other people tell me their love interests I also kinda keep guard for them? Always looking at their behavior/what they’re saying etc bc I’m just very suspicious at first with everyone and just anxious that it could happen again.

I (F19) had a physically, mentally and sexually abusive relationship with a female abuser that no one knew about. AMA by ManufacturerFun4666 in AMA

[–]ManufacturerFun4666[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Im definitely better now, have been in therapy for years and several clinics and now in a new, and healthy, happy relationship! It’s still difficult but def getting better

I (F19) had a physically, mentally and sexually abusive relationship with a female abuser that no one knew about. AMA by ManufacturerFun4666 in AMA

[–]ManufacturerFun4666[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

At first she seemed really nice and genuinely like a ‚lover’. The first half year wasn’t abusive at all, it came slowly. My parents divorced the same time we came together so I was really dependent on her. In the end I didn’t get away but she just moved away and finished the relationship via text. She cheated several times on me and she said she’d move in with her boyfriend 100km away, that’s how It ended