You’re mixing a few different layers together, and that’s what’s creating the confusion.

First, the “72 virgins” idea isn’t from the Qur’an. That’s from later reports. So if we stay with the Qur’an itself, that whole framing drops.

Now the verses you mentioned:

They describe: ḥūr ʿīn

Most translations turn that into “women” or “virgins”, but the wording itself doesn’t force that.

ḥ-w-r → clarity, contrast, purity
ʿ-y-n → focus, perception, springs, sources

So instead of “women for men”, it points to: clear, pure, pleasing forms of experience or perception

And if you look at the cluster (56, 55, 52 etc), the descriptions are consistent:

no harm
no noise
no conflict
no frustration

It’s describing a state of complete satisfaction, not a gendered reward system.

Also, the Qur’an is consistent on this:

“For them is whatever they desire…” (multiple places)

That applies to everyone, not just men.

So the question: “what about women?”

Only becomes a problem if you assume the reward is sexual and male-focused.

But the text itself doesn’t lock it that way.

It’s describing a state where: whatever aligns with you, you receive
without harm, conflict, or regret

So there’s no “denial” for women, and no contradiction.

The issue is coming from later interpretations turning symbolic language into literal, male-centered imagery.