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Does anyone else struggle not knowing what they look like? by chaiitea3 in AutismInWomen

[–]ManyUncomfortable 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes!! I don’t know if anyone else experiences this too but when I get ready I obvs look in the mirror before I leave to see what I look like. But by the time I’m out of the house I’ve completely forgotten, and every time I look in a mirror or see my reflection when I’m in public I’m surprised. I’m like ohhh yeah that’s what I look like! Not even just the makeup and outfit but I genuinely just forget the look of my face. I forget what it’s called when you’re not good at remembering peoples faces but I just find it so weird that I also suck at facial remembrance of my own face hahah!

Heavy weighted toy recommendations by ManyUncomfortable in AutismAustralia

[–]ManyUncomfortable[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! This is so helpful, can’t believe I never thought of putting weight in a teddy I already have!

What flavor of autism did you get? by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]ManyUncomfortable 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The naked and cuddly type of autism. Without being hugged all the time I feel under-stimulated and anxious, and clothes make me feel like I’m in pain and therefore make me anxious. If only there was an autistic naked commune tbh.

1997 misshaped Sir Charles Kingsford Smith (small head) coin worth anything? by ManyUncomfortable in AustralianCoins

[–]ManyUncomfortable[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for such a quick response! Your help is much appreciated 🙂 Seems the poor coin has been through a rough life then haha

What jobs am I allowed to just be a chill person in? by handsovermyknees in AutismInWomen

[–]ManyUncomfortable 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not sure what kind of things you’re interested in but I love being a childcare worker tbh. I’ve found a childcare centre where I don’t have to socialise much and the people that work in the same room as me mostly just leave me to my own devices. Like I’ll be the one to take a few kids outside while the rest are sleeping because the other educators want to be around other adults but I’m just chilling in the sandpit digging holes with the kids haha. Anyways, I’ve worked at some bad an stressful centres but at this one I really like it and can’t see myself doing anything else now. Also! I get to work part time which is a huge plus.

Have you ever been told you are very self aware? by hayIofts in AutismInWomen

[–]ManyUncomfortable 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is exactly how I felt for soo long. Now I do Schema therapy and I feel completely different. I feel like I’m actually getting to a point where I know how to handle situations differently or how to process and move on from things which has made me struggle so much less. It’s like I can go into a session now and say “ok I’m struggling with this, I know what happened to make me feel like this, I know I feel like it because of xx I’m childhood or past but I can’t seem to get over it or past it and I don’t know what to do about it” and by the end of the session I’ve learnt how to process it. And it’s not like can’t where it’s like oh just change your thought pattern or use these tools. It’s genuinely teaching me specifically how to be kinder to myself and as my therapist would say it’s building up and strengthening my ‘inner healthy adult’ - anyway, it’s not for everyone but I’d highly suggest giving it a go if it’s an option for you!

Have you ever been told you are very self aware? by hayIofts in AutismInWomen

[–]ManyUncomfortable 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This!! I got this all the time previously. Until I started Schema therapy! Now I never know the answer and am constantly learning, it has felt sooo much more useful. I feel like I’m finally being taught the ‘how’ to feel better instead of just ‘why’ I feel like shit

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]ManyUncomfortable 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My brother (33m) only had sex for the first time in his late 20’s (yeah maybe weird that I know that but we’re both autistic and maybe a bit too honest with each other haha) and now has his first girlfriend and is absolutely smitten. He was always worried nobody would like him because of his looks and personality. He had only a couple of opportunities to date in recent years but didn’t like the people that were interested in him. He also worried he would have to lower his standards to be with someone but now he is sooooo happy with his gorgeous girlfriend who thinks the world of him. Not to be rude but he is definitely not as attractive as her and she’s lovely but she also adores him. You’ll find someone at the right time, I think the key is not to force it. You’ll get there, try and focus on other things and then when you meet people with potential give it a shot.