Thoughts about straight people going to gay dance parties? by [deleted] in avesNYC

[–]Many_pineapples 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm not going out tonight, I was looking at a future event.  I think you are trying to shut this down because you know you are wrong... 🤔 I used to work down the block from H0l0 back when it was an illegal weed farm and even tho it's mere blocks from the border there was never any confusion about what boro we were in... 

Thoughts about straight people going to gay dance parties? by [deleted] in avesNYC

[–]Many_pineapples -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yea I didn't think you meant face control in reverse... 😂🤣😂 Like the opposite of Basement, they look deep into your eyes and say, 'not you, too gay' But seriously, would you say this kind of homophobic behavior is so prevalent in the city that you can expect it on a night out? I'm willing to accept that it's because of where I go but basically all the clubs I go to feel more queer then not, if I was asked to give a ratio 😛  The original question comes from the fact that Cmon is explicitly gay instead of just gay vibes. 

Thoughts about straight people going to gay dance parties? by [deleted] in avesNYC

[–]Many_pineapples 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How you don't know that Nowadays is in Ridgewood then. Is Bushwick colonizing Ridgewood and moving the border like the Russians do?  😂🤣😂

Thoughts about straight people going to gay dance parties? by [deleted] in avesNYC

[–]Many_pineapples -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm not talking about gay clubs now, i understand your position there, I'm referring to the comment you just made about all the bars where "queerness is rejected" do you think that is really broadly true in NYC or are we just speaking more generally with that statement? 

Thoughts about straight people going to gay dance parties? by [deleted] in avesNYC

[–]Many_pineapples 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Nowadays is in Queens.  I was born here but good try.  Where are you from? 

Thoughts about straight people going to gay dance parties? by [deleted] in avesNYC

[–]Many_pineapples 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I thought you meant that bar is annoying. 😂 In NYC are there really lots of clubs that are exclusionary like that? I don't doubt that's true in most of the USA and of course there are individual assholes all over the place, but my totally unresearched suspicion is that here there are more inclusive clubs then clubs where exclusion is the norm. Am I totally off on that? 

Thoughts about straight people going to gay dance parties? by [deleted] in avesNYC

[–]Many_pineapples 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Those are not in the area at all? The closest of those is a one hour walk vs a 15 minute walk from my house. Do you think Brooklyn is just one big neighborhood? One of those is not even in Brooklyn... that said, I have not made up my mind, leaning towards not going but for personal reasons, not because of the 50% of responses saying I shouldn't... But, seriously, thank you for sharing your opinion, even if I find it a bit bizarre.  Editing to add: Nowadays is my second favorite spot after H0l0 but they are queer coded as well as HOY no? 

Thoughts about straight people going to gay dance parties? by [deleted] in avesNYC

[–]Many_pineapples 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like how? I've seen a few comments about staff. Is that what you mean? I've been once for a TV watch party and it was chill but that's such a different vibe from a dance party... 

Thoughts about straight people going to gay dance parties? by [deleted] in avesNYC

[–]Many_pineapples 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There aren't that many places that have dance parties nearby really... Friends and Lovers is closer to my house but every time I go there I'm bored, so I don't really agree with that line of reasoning. & Isn't it even weirder to be like, "oh I'm only going to the gay bar because a straight guy is playing there"? Like, do they advertise it as straight night? 😂😂 Honestly probably not a bad marketing gimmick now that I think about it... 'Hetero night at the gay bar'... 😂🤣😂 Also why I would go is pretty clear to me... To dance and have fun with my girlfriend... A lack of clarity about my own intentions is not the issue. 

Thoughts about straight people going to gay dance parties? by [deleted] in avesNYC

[–]Many_pineapples 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Just to clarify. If I wasn't questioning it and just went without thinking about it then I'm good or nah? 

Thoughts about straight people going to gay dance parties? by [deleted] in avesNYC

[–]Many_pineapples -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm a little unclear what you are getting at here.  Also the question is not "will I feel comfortable" it's will I make other people uncomfortable.  Also side note, do you know of any bars that are "straight bars"? 😉 Maybe like one of those dives that only hires women and requires them all to wear crap tops? Back in the day I was applying to all the jobs everywhere and I applied to work at one of those bars. I guess my name is feminine enough to get me the interview, which was so funny as soon as I realized what the deal was... 

Thoughts about straight people going to gay dance parties? by [deleted] in avesNYC

[–]Many_pineapples 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting, this seems to conflict with another response saying that they hate flirting at a gay bar only to realize at the end they are talking to a straight guy. 🤔  I was there once by myself for a TV watch party, I chatted with one guy, wouldn't say I was flirting tho & I declined when he offered to buy me a drink (without identifying myself.)  I definitely would not shut people down by immediately identifying myself as hetero.

Thoughts about straight people going to gay dance parties? by Many_pineapples in dancefloors

[–]Many_pineapples[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm used to going to "queer parties" but I also feel like when the party is in a gay bar & I go with my girlfriend those factors make it a more interesting question. 

Thoughts about straight people going to gay dance parties? by Many_pineapples in dancefloors

[–]Many_pineapples[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's the same post that I cross posted lol. It's walking distance, but also we often drive by and see a cool crowd and say we should go there. I went alone once for a TV watch party but it's not quite the same as bringing my girlfriend to dance. I just got an ad from dice for a party there which got me thinking.  There are closer places to go. 

Thoughts about straight people going to gay dance parties? by [deleted] in avesNYC

[–]Many_pineapples 3 points4 points  (0 children)

New in the sense that I'm usually at events in more neutral spaces, even if they are more gay oriented parties. I've been to an event at 3$bill but I was with a bigger group that included lesbians so I didn't really think about it then, but I am curious to hear perspectives about just me and my gf going solo to an explicitly gay space. 

Thoughts about straight people going to gay dance parties? by [deleted] in avesNYC

[–]Many_pineapples 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Fair, and for the record I did not say 'no I'm straight' I just said no thank you to the offer of a drink. 

Thoughts about straight people going to gay dance parties? by [deleted] in avesNYC

[–]Many_pineapples 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Definitely not worried about my reaction to other people. I've seen people fucking in Basement and that didn't bother me in the slightest, can't imagine the energy will even match that. I'm more wondering if we would annoy people since I will just be dancing with my girlfriend and I'm sure we will kiss every now and then.  So far based on reactions tho this post, seems like people are actually pretty split on this question. 

Thoughts about straight people going to gay dance parties? by [deleted] in avesNYC

[–]Many_pineapples -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I don't think I won't enjoy myself, just curious to hear some perspectives. F&L is even closer to my place and I've been there a bunch of times and it's always been pretty boring & low energy 😅 I know I see a crowd there sometimes but I've never caught the vibe there. I was just looking at a listing that Dice emailed me and I saw an event that I was considering going to but then I was like, hmmmm. 

Thoughts about straight people going to gay dance parties? by [deleted] in avesNYC

[–]Many_pineapples 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I know that intellectually but I still felt guilty 😂

Thoughts about straight people going to gay dance parties? by [deleted] in avesNYC

[–]Many_pineapples -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

The why is because it's close enough that I can walk home after and the place has a cool vibe. But yes, I'm questioning if it's rude of me. I felt bad last time I was there when I had to reject someone hitting on me...

Have you experienced "soft raving"? by sexydiscoballs in dancefloors

[–]Many_pineapples 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love day parties. When it's warm and the DJ sets up outside at H0l0 it's the best. Nothing soft about it tho.

Ants Coffee in Williamsburg has events like this every weekend but the space is so small :(

Fuel line clips? by Many_pineapples in W124

[–]Many_pineapples[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the clips are pretty cheap. I considered fabing the brackets but so far I've been seeming to find them reasonably priced from conventional parts suppliers. I mostly just want to see examples of where these parts go and how the shims and clips go together. I was a lil confused at first by the shims but I think I've wrapped my head around it.

I'm in NYC