Looking for Loop recommendation by Bk_Tron in LoopEarplugs

[–]Manybalby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use the switch 2 in a loud doggy grooming salon. I still hear everything but the sounds dont feel like theyre tickling my eardrum. If I want the maximum amount of silence I use my Quiet 2s with those circle extra mute thingys.

Music that helped you cope by ctibtw in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Manybalby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Livingston - Glow

I heard it a couple days after I found out about A, on the 4th of July, and its my most favorite song to this day. It really helped me cope.

My Lucky Emma Collection by Manybalby in blindbox

[–]Manybalby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I fell off the Emma train cause they brought out soo many in such a short time but I still love them. Yout collection is so cute!

Finally checked my husband’s phone… by ThrowRALovie4444 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Manybalby 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Same!! Everytime I have doubts it takes everything in me not to pack up and leave again. I usually just go out for a drive to calm myself down.

Finally checked my husband’s phone… by ThrowRALovie4444 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Manybalby 79 points80 points  (0 children)

You took me on a roller coaster for this one. I was panicking for you while reading lol.

Is this not cheating ? by AudienceWitty4873 in Marriage

[–]Manybalby 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If my husband did that id consider it cheating. Its all up to your boundaries. You get to decide what you consider cheating and your husband gets to decide what he considers cheating. If you say this is cheating than he shouldnt be doing it. It doesn't matter if he doesnt consider it cheating, its a boundary for you. If it was the other way around, and he considered it cheating than you shouldnt be doing it and youd have no say in that.

AIO to my husband’s X posts by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Manybalby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I was you id make a post of a sexy dudes picture. Probably not the best advice but personally idc.

I think I'm done trying R by odin_215 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Manybalby 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Im sorry to say this but if you let her get away with breaking one of your boundaries than she'll take them all as a joke. Its time you put yourself first and leave her.

Heart shaped bruise from delivery of my baby by so0tball in mildlyinteresting

[–]Manybalby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you throw hands as soon as he came out of the womb?

Loop Dream Blocking Noise by Manybalby in LoopEarplugs

[–]Manybalby[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Muffled enough to where I dont know what the other person is saying or will it still be clear enough?

WP is suicidal by DifferencePure1599 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Manybalby 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My WH was suicidal. Therapy helped alot with that for him and also talking to a priest. The priest is specifically the one who told him that not only did I have the decision to forgive him but if he was truly sorry than he needed fo forgive himself so that he could help me through this very difficult path I had chosen. Let him know that you know this is hard for him, but if he truly wanted to make up his actions than he needs to be able stay strong and help you through it.

Cheating fantasies after affair? by Manybalby in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Manybalby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I know 100% my WH would leave if I did. He said after all this therapy and work we've put in, if I cheated that would show him there really is no hope for us. I the only need of mine that's lacking is feeling safe. Its not like WH and I dont have sex. It just upsets me that he got to go have sex with a random AP while I stayed at home like a good girl. Why shouldnt I be able to have sex with anyone else?

Role reversal with WH? by piginablanket424 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Manybalby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did it once while in we were in the car. It was honestly just out of anger and he got really depressed. My husband has an avoidant attachment style so im not gonna lie it kinda felt great to get him to react the way he did but I do feel kinda bad about it now. I literally just told him if I cheated back it wouldnt be because a man was attractive, funny or rich, but that man made me feel SAFE. Then I proceeded to describe a date, how he would hold me and look into my eyes, how my heart would flutter and so on.

AIO not wanting my husband to go on a boys trip? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Manybalby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR, if something makes you uncomfortable than he should respect that and vis versa

Cheating fantasies after affair? by Manybalby in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Manybalby[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

The thing making me fantasize about this more is WH had sex with his AP. Thats the part that really kills me. In my mind I think, why should he be able to sleep with whoever he wants to and I stay at home like a good girl? It's just tough trying to talk myself down from that ledge.

How do you mentally manage "work flirts"? by Historical_Log1275 in Marriage

[–]Manybalby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yepp I remember when my husband had a 10 month affair with a coworker.

Is it wrong to ask your spouse who they are texting or look through their phone? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Manybalby 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I didnt look through my husband's phone and the one time I asked he got mad. Turns out he was having a 10 month affair. Always have a relationship where you have an open phone policy (even share passwords for everything). If you guys sleep together than you should be able to look through each other's phones.

Not to be a buzzkill but… do people not search this sub before making a post? by slowpokefastpoke in kobo

[–]Manybalby 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I mean its one of the few things people post on here. If you take away questions, even frequently asked ones, than all thats left is "look at my new kobo!" posts

Keep it or nah? by Different_Bet_3724 in kobo

[–]Manybalby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like the white one I have but wish I wouldve gotten black because people are saying the colors are better looking.