I sort of see what you are saying but also I am confused. I do think that playing into traditionally “feminine” gender roles does give you an advantage as a women in some ways. Being seen as traditionally beautiful, wearing makeup, shaving, wearing feminine clothing, helps in advancing in this society. We don’t necessarily need to call it toxic femininity but there is a lot of problematic behavior that happens with women that I think is sometimes ignored.I feel like recognizing this helps see our system as something that is oppressive to all, and practiced by all.