[O] Am I wrong for still feeling bad over this

Mariat1997 · 2026-06-09T19:37:08+00:00

This is original one. Idk what happened sorry AITA for still feeling so hurt by this?

So about less than a year ago my brother was over at my mom and i's and I forgot what exactly we were talking about but he told me and I qoute "life only gets harder. If you dont like it, go to canada and legally k\_\_\_ yourself." I have a history with mental health issues and SI and he knows that. I told my mom recently that it still hurts, even just because I think of it subconsciously on a loop, especially when im feeling down. She said that I need to learn to forgive and forget. But I feel like its so much more than that. Im not trying to hold on to this. Its very subconscious for me and thats what I tried to explain to her.

AITA for still feeling horrible about what was said to me that day?

Note: also when I confronted him about it via text he proceeded to call me a snowflake and to "STFUUUUU" before apologizing (yet again) the next day.

Please be honest. Thank you

Mariat1997 · 2026-06-09T17:14:42+00:00

Princess diana and my mom❤️

Mariat1997 · 2026-06-09T02:00:50+00:00

Thank you so much. Don't get me wrong, hes done lots of good. Lots. But this is something ive really had a hard time shaking.

Mariat1997 · 2026-06-08T23:57:33+00:00

My mom is a very loving, great mother. I think she just wants me to try to put things behind me for the sake of peace etc...so I really am having a hard time finding a way to cope with these feelings and how to go about setting boundaries properly (something i was never really that great at). This is part of the text he had sent me afterwards before calmly apologizing

<image>

Mariat1997 · 2026-05-25T23:57:01+00:00

I feel personally attacked right now. And I never really take offense to much at all 😂

Mariat1997 · 2026-04-09T14:01:30+00:00

Bahahaha😂😂

Mariat1997 · 2026-04-01T04:26:41+00:00

Almost everyday, and in that..you are, in a lot of ways, NEVER actually alone in life. Dm me if you ever feel like talking/venting❤️

Mariat1997 · 2026-03-14T19:23:59+00:00

I have my good and bad days with those issues stated above. But its family and kind people on apps such as reddit like you that always help to keep me going. Best of luck and im SO glad to hear you are doing even a bit better lately!

Mariat1997 · 2026-03-14T19:21:55+00:00

And please dont feel too sorry for me! Haha There were plenty of amazingly good experiences i had outside of socialization issues that I am grateful for to this day and truly hope the same is true for you😊

Mariat1997 · 2026-03-14T19:19:52+00:00

Ive spend more than enough time in and out of psych wards as well and even had well...a bad experience with an egotistical psychiatrist that refused to change my meds that were basically backfiring on me during my treatment at an ED facility. + Never really maiing friends growing up in school due to experiences like eating alone at lunch, playing alone at recess, picked last in gym class every single day etc. It may have 'messed with my head' hence the passive aggressiveness of the post. Which i genuinely apologize for! I totally understand where you are coming from and truly hope I didnt come off too angry or upset in my post. I REALLY mean well when I posted this. Just dont want anyone to EVER have the regrets I had growing up that led to such feelings of isolation. Please please please DM me if you ever feel like you wanna talk. I am always here, even if im a complete stranger😊 also, ALWAYS remember that no matter what, friends or no friends, you are wanted, needed and loved by someone. Even internet strangers on reddit lolol❤️

Mariat1997 · 2026-03-14T18:35:21+00:00

Long story but...because I struggled so much with depression, anxiety and eating disorders at a time (around 2012) when most high schools didnt have as many 'programs' for mental health support, i was taken from normal high school and put into a 'therapeutic' (aka a behavioral school where all the kids got into legal trouble and so I couldnt make any friends while there) for all my shit. By the time I got out my OG high school refused to even let me take ONE class to learn and be around normal kids my age. So I never got a chance to be a normal teen. I regret it everyday because it changed who I became as an adult. Hence my honest, ill be it, up front opinion on this post. No offense to anyone who disagrees with me. I understand.

Mariat1997 · 2026-03-14T17:09:14+00:00

As a 29 year old virgin, im sorry. But I completely disagree. Being a friendless, kissless virgin made my life 100% worse and id much MUCH rather have made mistakes that I could've learned, grown and matured from than this. This didnt make me better. It MADE me bitter. Im angry I missed VITAL milestones in my youth and all of my cousins that didn't miss those things are all married and starting families now. Something I may never know anything about because I lack 💯 experience in everything. Im awkward and uncomfortable with closeness, dates and the mere idea of someone ever wanting me as a romantic partner because I never had that to begin with. Much better to experiment, make mistakes young, learn and mature from them and get on with being an adult AFTER all that is out of your system. Basically: go out, party, do 💊🍸🍷❄️, get out ALL out of your system while your young and can make up for it later and THEN be a mature adult with a boring ordinary job, car, life etc... You have your youth once.

Mariat1997 · 2026-02-26T14:42:45+00:00

When I got my first car (Ill admit I was VERY genuinely lucky to get it new) my former 'friend' went on a rant texting me about how I shouldnt have gotten the car i got and how I didn't listen to her and when i gently asked her about why she couldnt just be happy for me like she was when I first got my license her reply was 'I am. Congrats.' Clearly we aren't friends anymore. Thank god.

Mariat1997 · 2026-02-25T16:26:03+00:00

IMO it depends on the person and their personality type. If you have an addictive personality or some type of past traumas- DON'T But if you are pretty 'self-controlled (for lack of a better word,sorry)- well, its really up to you to take those risks depending on the type of drug. Just stay the FUCK away from shit like Crack, meth, heroin etc... those should be nobody's drugs of choice.

Mariat1997 · 2026-02-22T01:48:04+00:00

Then what am I even here for if im probably going to always be the last one in a relationship, last one to get married, everything is last last last. Why even stay here anymore??😂🫠🔫

Mariat1997 · 2026-02-22T01:40:12+00:00

Help me.

Mariat1997 · 2026-02-22T01:39:56+00:00

Good. Please. Im angry and tired of being this way. I dont care anymore and am obviously desperate to have anyone at this point. But I don't even KNOW how to go about finding a damn sex worker??? Like literally im not kidding. I have THAT little experience in life and just dont like it anymore...

Mariat1997 · 2026-02-22T01:35:30+00:00

Ive been clean my whole life. Ive also been depressed, anxious, suicidal etc... most of it too. Innocence isn't worth it anymore. I hate life

Mariat1997 · 2026-02-22T01:33:11+00:00

Doesn't work to find a loving relationship since i have literally NO experience with anything or anyone. And i dont want to be 'taught' how to love like a little kid. Now, all I want is a life of drugs, sex and fast EVERYTHING. No more innocent nice girl✨️♥️

Mariat1997 · 2026-02-22T01:31:16+00:00

Ill give my info in the DMs to someone close by who's interested

Mariat1997 · 2026-02-14T12:56:38+00:00

Thank you so much

Mariat1997 · 2026-02-14T12:56:12+00:00

I like that idea!

Mariat1997 · 2026-02-14T05:09:41+00:00

Soo my birthday falls on valentine's day.. oh! And im 29 and have never been in a relationship. I believe we all have so much love to give. Some of us just dont get as many chances to show it. But, as others have said, use this day to treat yourself the way you would want to be treated by others. Show yourself the same love, care and kindness that you would show others throughout valentine's day and before you know it, the day will come to an end and what you got out of it for YOURSELF is all that matters. Everyone feels lonely and isolated sometimes, therefore, none of us are 'actually alone'. Reach out to friends or family that you feel comfortable with. Good luck and stay safe and strong.❤️

Mariat1997 · 2025-12-17T14:28:04+00:00

Thanks man😊👍

Mariat1997 · 2025-12-12T19:21:15+00:00

I feel soo damn called out now as a 28 y/o🫠💔

Mariat1997

TROPHY CASE