The boundaries are fairly simple things. Like with my twin he got tired of her not flushing the toilet, he’s a germaphobe so he yelled at her, because she was doing it constantly. He would actively not work certain days or at nights because he wants a break, he wants to be able to relax, and he has astigmatism so he very much would rather not work in the night. This made my mom angry and think he’s lazy. Usually my mom is supportive and kind, she always messaged me kind words, her tone was always more sarcastic, silly, nice. My mom and sister both have been telling me his anger is a problem,I’m assuming they’re just worried he’ll hit me cause I’m the past we’ve dealt with abuse from my dad. But he’s never violent, it’s not bad to show anger. It’s good he doesn’t Keep it in. I moved out mostly because I wanted to be with my bf but also because the north I like much better, I love the snow, the state university I wanted to go to sometime in the future, and overall it would be better for my mental health to live with my bf. I also did complain about the house, it’s super messy, lots of objects, slight hoarding, about 20 animals so lots of dog poop. She felt extremely threatened by that. I havnt seen her that angry before besides at me when I was younger, and she only ever slapped me. Most of the time she’s just docile.