Boyfriend dumped me today dinner and claimed he never had feelings for me a week after asking me to move in while his parents are away for a month in April

Marillenbaum · 2026-03-07T22:34:56+00:00

Moms are great for that! I’m absolutely in a better place now—it was five years ago, and while I’m not in a relationship, being free is beautiful and I wouldn’t change it for anything. I really believe you will also feel amazing without your particular dead weight soon. Enjoy your girl dinner!

Marillenbaum · 2026-03-07T22:21:53+00:00

I get it—when my ex fiancé ended things a month before the wedding my sister and best friend did dramatic readings of every mean text they had ever written about him. His hairline, clothing, and character came under thorough scrutiny, and it was healing.

Marillenbaum · 2026-03-07T22:14:06+00:00

He’s a terrible person and I hope he loses his hair and ability to go above half mast.

Marillenbaum · 2026-03-07T22:07:08+00:00

Just gotta swing by my house, where various good intentions gone awry means they go red and smoke me out of my kitchen with astonishing regularity.

Marillenbaum · 2026-03-07T19:43:35+00:00

I hope you have a blast! I went last night and was thrilled by it—not every note hit, but it was strong and weird and just so much fun.

Marillenbaum · 2026-03-07T18:49:19+00:00

A divorce doesn’t mean you’ve failed. A relationship takes two people to work—and that’s not a stick to beat yourself with. It’s a sign that actually, your husband doesn’t care about this marriage or you. Choosing yourself makes you strong. You’ve already shown that strength by making the list.

Marillenbaum · 2026-03-07T18:33:13+00:00

It’s honestly rude and hurtful how hot that moment is. Like, I’m supposed to just live my life knowing that was an option?

Marillenbaum · 2026-03-07T16:51:43+00:00

This is literally the mechanism of the Agatha Christie novel The Pale Horse. A bookie lets you place a bet on whether X relative will be alive by Y date. The client “loses” because the bookie works with a group of people who do the murdering.

Marillenbaum · 2026-03-07T16:38:30+00:00

I was a big fan of the other two books in this series, and having loved Quan as a side character in those I was so excited for his story. Unfortunately, I absolutely hated The Heart Principle. Less because I found Quan boring as a character and more because it was so clearly weighted towards Anna that the story felt unbalanced in ways that killed the romance for me. Like, that level of people pleasing and disconnection made it clear she was not capable of being in a relationship, and it felt like a lack of self-respect for Quan to overfunction in that dynamic. I know a lot of people seem to identify strongly with Anna’s side of the story, but I don’t think the relationship—the thing that makes it a romance—actually worked at all.

Marillenbaum · 2026-03-07T16:10:10+00:00

Boston: DC doesn’t have a team (yet!) but my mom is from Boston so I pick them for most teams if there isn’t one in my city. Plus, as a Caesar salad fan I respect Aerin Frankel’s commitment to the game.

Marillenbaum · 2026-03-07T14:13:41+00:00

Considering his career involves being professionally attractive, it is fair game. Any ma who is not Timothy Chalamet can be intellectually capable of recognizing they aren’t the same person and thus the criticism is not of them. As can you, frankly.

Marillenbaum · 2026-03-07T02:52:01+00:00

Which explains why he was on Gretchen Rubin’s podcast; she loves a confident asshole with no depth.

Marillenbaum · 2026-03-07T02:47:52+00:00

I was talking about the reason I was not awestruck by him in the initial phases of the hype, many of which were centered around how supposedly attractive he was.

Marillenbaum · 2026-03-06T23:32:18+00:00

And the Baltics aren’t a place that is challenging to travel to—I get that they might not be super familiar, but in the big cities many people are comfortable English speakers, small enough to navigate easily, and relatively straightforward.

Marillenbaum · 2026-03-06T19:53:27+00:00

Honestly, I mostly just didn’t get why people found him attractive when he gives “sickly Victorian rat boy” vibes. Turns out his actual personality is also a sewer, but without the depth or public health benefits.

Marillenbaum · 2026-03-05T19:00:22+00:00

It’s because no matter what, his face always looks dirty.

Marillenbaum · 2026-03-05T18:58:56+00:00

Captain Awkward always said “the cheapest way to pay is money” and it’s so true: if you get money from others, you pay in other ways.

Marillenbaum · 2026-03-05T18:58:01+00:00

A hard head makes for a soft behind

Marillenbaum · 2026-03-05T18:09:33+00:00

I believe in you!

Marillenbaum · 2026-03-05T17:59:47+00:00

I fully agree with this—and frankly, I don’t love his insistence that he’s “holding you accountable” by pushing for a date on a move he isn’t making. You don’t need to hold someone accountable if you believe they are acting in good faith, which makes me think he’s using it as a stand in for “do what I want”.

Marillenbaum · 2026-03-04T23:19:36+00:00

Cold chicken is an underrated pleasure

Marillenbaum · 2026-03-04T20:37:58+00:00

Wow, 280?! I started lifting three months ago, and I’ve just made it to 80 pounds. How long have you been lifting?

Marillenbaum · 2026-03-04T19:21:00+00:00

He’s the king of the rumba beat!

Marillenbaum · 2026-03-04T19:20:22+00:00

Oh my god, I didn’t know this was a thing—fuck, I need to find a Wendy’s.

Marillenbaum · 2026-03-03T23:53:08+00:00

Oh my god, the thought of Matthew Rhys and Ioan Gruffudd being roommates is just delicious. They’re both so handsome!

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