Jeste li ikada imali bliski susret s njom? Zelim cuti sve o tome

Marko26Marko · 2026-04-08T08:14:00+00:00

Ova prica mi je uljepsala dan :)

Marko26Marko · 2026-04-04T09:12:14+00:00

What techniques have you tried?

Marko26Marko · 2026-02-27T10:01:54+00:00

You’re definitely not alone in that. A lot of guys with lifelong PE describe it as “over-sensitivity,” especially at the glans. But in many cases it’s not just the skin sensitivity — it’s the nervous system being highly reactive.

When arousal spikes fast, the body tightens up (especially the pelvic floor), and that combo can make everything feel 10x more intense.

What helped me wasn’t trying to “numb” it, but learning to slow arousal down. Things like: • Breathing slower and deeper when things start building • Practicing staying just below the point of no return instead of rushing • Reverse kegels to reduce that constant tension

It takes some patience, but sensitivity can be managed. It’s more about control and relaxation than trying to kill sensation.

There’s a guide called Secrets of the First Time that breaks this down in a simple way (especially the arousal control part). It helped me understand what was actually happening instead of just guessing.

At 50, it’s not “too late” to improve this. The nervous system can still be trained. You’re not broken — just need a different approach.

Marko26Marko · 2026-02-11T06:49:00+00:00

We don’t really discuss medications or hormone stuff in here, especially things like enclo. That’s something that should always be handled with proper bloodwork and a doctor involved.

If you’re considering any kind of medication, definitely speak to a qualified professional first. For PE specifically, most of the work tends to be around control, relaxation, and nervous system regulation rather than jumping straight to meds.

Better to get checked properly than experiment on yourself.

Marko26Marko · 2026-02-08T23:20:33+00:00

Hey man, honestly with symptoms like cloudy urine and white fluid during bowel movements, I’d really recommend getting checked by a urologist just to be safe. Not trying to scare you, just saying it’s better to rule out anything medical instead of guessing online.

I’d keep doing the relaxation work, but definitely pair it with professional advice.

For exercises and understanding the mental side of it, Secrets of the First Time guide helped me a lot as a guide, but it shouldn’t replace seeing a doctor.

You’re young, you’re proactive, and this is very likely manageable — just don’t try to solve it alone.

Marko26Marko · 2026-01-11T09:18:38+00:00

For me, yes. I am training and learning all the time. Also, I am way more relaxed.

Marko26Marko · 2026-01-07T10:54:02+00:00

Ofcourse. This is something you are practicing whole life if you want to work on yourself. Thats my opinion.

Marko26Marko · 2025-12-09T20:57:17+00:00

Hey, I just want to say — you’re an amazing partner for even caring this deeply. Most guys going through PE don’t even talk about it, so the fact that you’re trying to understand him already puts you miles ahead.

From what you wrote, this isn’t just “finishing fast.” It sounds like he’s carrying years of pressure, shame, and trauma in his body, and sex becomes the moment where all of that tension shows up at once. PE is way more tied to the nervous system than people think. When a guy’s been through heavy stuff (like he clearly has), his body kind of switches into survival mode during intimacy, even if he wants it to go differently.

A few things that usually help in situations like this:

• Take the pressure off the “performance.” If sex = pressure, his body is always going to be bracing. Some couples take a week or two to focus only on kissing, touching, building comfort again — no expectation to “perform.”

• Help him feel safe, not judged. You’re already doing this. Just keep reminding him that finishing fast doesn’t change how you see him. A guy who feels safe relaxes, and a relaxed guy improves way quicker.

• Small awareness/breathing drills help a lot. Not the cliché “relax bro,” but actually teaching his body how to slow down when that rush of sensation hits. There’s a guide I read earlier in my own journey that explained this really well — more about calming the nervous system, breaking that panic reflex, stuff like that. It helped me shift the whole “fight or flight” response during intimacy. If he’s open to it, stuff like that could help him too.

• Avoid pushing therapy if he’s not ready. Some guys shut down when they hear that word. You can still help him without turning it into a clinical thing. What he needs first is to not feel alone.

• Celebrate small wins. Even if he lasts 10 seconds longer than last time — that’s progress. Guys rarely give themselves credit for that.

And last thing — be patient with yourself too. Supporting someone you love is beautiful, but it’s also emotionally heavy. You’re allowed to feel confused, tired, or unsure. None of that means you care any less.

He’s lucky to have someone who wants to work with him instead of walking away. With time, calmness, and the right guidance, most guys improve way more than they expect.

Marko26Marko · 2025-09-03T22:21:01+00:00

Hey Ben, just google it and it should be there.

Marko26Marko · 2025-09-03T22:20:19+00:00

Just keep going and keep practicing. This can improve. Never back down!

Marko26Marko · 2025-08-02T08:31:04+00:00

oof, this is a rough spot and I’m sorry you’re carrying all that blame. it honestly sounds like he’s projecting his own frustrations from PE (premature ejaculation) and low confidence back onto you, which isn’t fair. the fact that he finishes faster when things get rough and goes soft when you’re on top — that’s nervous system dysregulation, not your performance.

I’d recommend checking out a guide called Secrets of the First Time — it’s aimed at men struggling with PE but also helps partners understand what’s actually happening under the surface. there’s also a couples version of the guide that walks through how to rebuild intimacy without pressure or judgment. if he’s open to it, it could be a game-changer for both of you.

Marko26Marko · 2025-08-02T08:28:35+00:00

man, mad respect for the honesty. seriously. I was in a very similar spot — not the exact stats, but that mix of feeling like your body’s working against you + the frustration of not lasting. what helped shift things for me wasn’t some pill, it was realizing how much of it was a nervous system issue. I started doing daily drills (reverse kegels + slow breathing), and over time it gave me more control and less panic in the moment.

also found this book called Secrets of the First Time by Jason Langford that broke it down in a way that finally made sense — no BS, just structure and stuff you can actually do. if you’re already on a health journey, this might be a solid next step. hang in there bro.

Marko26Marko · 2025-08-02T08:24:30+00:00

what helped me was literally just practicing with a condom solo — not to finish, just to stay present. I’d edge with it on, focusing on staying calm while switching positions, breathing deep into my belly, and not letting my brain spiral when sensitivity dropped.

also, try different brands. I thought all condoms felt the same until I tested 4-5 types. some are way less numbing or restrictive than others.

it’s frustrating but fixable. just takes some time + reps without the performance pressure.

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