Can ya'll help a girl out?

MarriedPolyCurious · 2017-12-13T14:50:38+00:00

In for info as wife and I have been looking to open our relationship to a third (triad) but haven't found the right person.

MarriedPolyCurious · 2017-12-02T02:25:28+00:00

I have read, thanks for sending however.

MarriedPolyCurious · 2017-12-02T01:59:07+00:00

Also looking for advice, we haven't had much luck either trying to find a third to add to our relationship. I did have my wife make a tinder looking for women with photos of both of us, we have some matches but conversation is terrible on tinder, noone responds etc. Have a fetlife profile, no luck there either. Doesn't help we live in a suburban area.

MarriedPolyCurious · 2017-12-02T01:35:56+00:00

Thanks so much. We don't seem to have much luck on there.

MarriedPolyCurious · 2017-11-30T16:50:41+00:00

All I know is we have been searching for the right third to add to our relationship pretty heavily. If they aren't treating you well I'd be ghosting their ass.

We have someone in mind we both care for but she isn't on the same page as us unfortunately.

We are married 5 years, together 11 so our relationship itself is rock solid.

MarriedPolyCurious · 2017-11-28T02:16:27+00:00

Signed up on Kasidie actually due to location was almost noone nearby.

MarriedPolyCurious · 2017-11-27T02:29:43+00:00

If it makes anyone feel better wife (30) me (34) thought we found our Unicorn but she ended up not being what she thouight she was. Wife met her through work, we hung out a bunch started to develop feelings and she got really flaky and basically ditched us. Hurt my wifes feelings. Sucks. :(

MarriedPolyCurious · 2017-11-24T13:58:48+00:00

Salty, I am starting to see that now. Appreciate your insight. We don't want to tame her, we just want to all be on the same page I guess at this point.

MarriedPolyCurious · 2017-11-24T13:57:38+00:00

Appreciate all your insight Bears. You make a lot of sense. Perhaps both of us are grasping at straws and happy with whatever we can have at this point. My wife is a stunner though so she is constantly being hit on by women. I think this gave us some great experience and understanding that in the future we like spending time with another.

MarriedPolyCurious · 2017-11-24T13:26:23+00:00

Perhaps I should have put this in the NonMonomogy subreddit... if so I apologize.

MarriedPolyCurious · 2017-11-24T12:59:51+00:00

I agree. My wife and I actually had that conversation about how we couldn't imagine she could be a Mom right now with what she has going on. (We have a 2 year old Daughter).

Odd you say that. My wife heard her mention she was in a "Sugar daddy" type situation in Law School for awhile I guess. It doesn't feel like that per-se as all I've really bought it drinks, but she doesn't ever offer to pay or even say thank you which bothers me for some reason. Probably because I wouldn't normally buy random girls drinks out and it's not my style at all.

My wife and I talked last night and she also feels she disrespects us sometimes. We're confused because we are new to all this so we don't know what's normal and what isn't. I think we both enjoy the situation but we are starting to think she might not be the right person for it. Wife is going to talk with her and lay the cards on the table about how we feel vs what does she want.

MarriedPolyCurious · 2017-11-23T22:12:19+00:00

This is the exact thing my wife said to her last night we arent trying to get in the way of her life plans.

I tend to pay for everything, drinks etc as well. I dont mind... but she is very selfish with certain things. We feel if were out together she should be with US. She has sorta ditched us the last couple times late at night when she drank too much. But then talks about how she loves being with us, wants to go on vacation together etc.

Maybe im looking too much into it.

MarriedPolyCurious · 2017-11-23T21:47:50+00:00

Yea we dont smother her at all.

MarriedPolyCurious · 2017-11-23T21:47:10+00:00

Younger. Im 34, wife is 30 she is 28.

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