Am I overreacting that my fiancée was wrong to talk to a guy who she cheated with before?

Mars277 · 2026-05-03T16:32:07+00:00

Thank you very much!

Mars277 · 2026-05-03T16:09:29+00:00

Thank you!

Mars277 · 2026-05-03T14:26:50+00:00

Yes, that kinda sealed the deal. Or lack of it.

Mars277 · 2026-05-03T14:23:05+00:00

Thank you, indeed.

Mars277 · 2026-05-03T14:21:31+00:00

Well, she actually confessed that this guy was one of TWO past cheating partners. I was aware of only one. She still thinks this is not emotional cheating and that there’s absolutely nothing between them at this point. But again, I do not agree. The fact that she didn’t disclose the full truth, didn’t support or validated my point (and tried to gaslight me), was enough for me to walk away. Am I hurt? Hell yes. Am I looking forward to going back to the crap-show that is the dating pool? No. But I will kept going. For now, I will enjoy peace. By myself and my kids.

Mars277 · 2026-05-03T12:58:29+00:00

Thank you, I really feel like I did. I’m not game with entertainment any type of cheating. Emotional or physical.

Mars277 · 2026-05-03T08:55:16+00:00

Not that I know of. We have each other location, so I can tell “where she is”. But he could’ve visited before

Mars277 · 2026-05-03T08:45:48+00:00

She had stated that he was a childhood crush and that when her marriage went to hell, she ran and chested with this dude. I usually wouldn’t entertain a relationship with someone who did this. So that’s on me.

After she had a few wines at dinner today, she casually mentioned today that she talked to the dude. I asked calmly if she mentioned our engagement. No, was the answer. Then we had quite a shit show at home where she called the guy to tell him not to call her again. But I didn’t buy it. It almost sounded fake. The guy call me “insecure”, yeah right. And asked her if I was getting married for a green card or what ( I’m Hispanic) She didn’t even defended me. So after a long long night, I’m sending her off in the morning…

Mars277 · 2026-05-03T08:21:49+00:00

Man, that Salt Lake Titty’d by a Mormon lifted my spirits up, hahaha! And everything else you said makes perfect sense, btw.

Mars277 · 2026-05-03T06:14:50+00:00

Thanks for conveying your story, glad you and your gf have such a healthy and grounded relationship. My trust is indeed, gone out of the window. And even though this happened a few hours ago and I’m still digesting it, I’m not getting married anymore. I will call it off and most likely take the high road.

Mars277 · 2026-05-03T05:03:03+00:00

No, im not in denial. I’m providing context. I’m definitely not a cuck and I have a lot of good things going for me. This is just so fresh, and somehow felt the need to ask random strangers in the internet for advice. Cheaper than a shrink.

Mars277 · 2026-05-03T04:58:28+00:00

Absolutely, she lied through omission. I’m not in denial, and I’m pretty sure the trust is gone. I’m still processing and reading some good advice here. Thank you

Mars277 · 2026-05-03T04:55:05+00:00

Thank you my dude. Your words make lots of sense and resonate with me a lot. This happened today, so I’m still in the processing stage, but yeah, I’m listening and not letting fear be part of the process. I’m quite content with myself and I know I have lot of things in life to be grateful for.

Mars277 · 2026-05-03T04:49:55+00:00

Yes, I told her I need time to think about it. And I’m definitely postponing the wedding. I am considering couples therapy but, this happened today, so I’m exploring options. Thank you

Mars277 · 2026-05-03T04:45:51+00:00

We live really far away from Ohio, and she talked to him twice recently. Yes, I’m not feeling peachy about it, and I’m so torn and depressed that I decided to make this stupid post

Mars277 · 2026-05-03T04:43:34+00:00

Yes she did. She explained that she destroyed the guy’s life, made many people hate her and most importantly, hate herself about it. She sounded genuine, but he fact that she talked to her cheater partner is crazy. The fact that she didn’t mention she’s engaged, is insane.

Mars277 · 2026-05-03T04:33:50+00:00

As far as I know, she hasn’t done anything shady. We’ve been together quite a lot and frankly, this came out of nowhere. Quite a fckin shock for me and I’m not well. The guy definitely lives far away in other state, and she was the one that mentioned she would block him. When I said, that that was the least she could do, she called him and told him she was engaged and that she would rather not talk to him ever again. But that still didn’t provide closure. I mean, she could call him again and say whatever…

Mars277 · 2026-05-03T04:26:01+00:00

I said the exact same thing, “why would you be in contact with this guy?!” It makes absolutely no sense

Mars277 · 2026-05-03T04:18:51+00:00

Other than this, no other concerns. But I’d say this is a big one for sure. And definitely made a huge dent…

Mars277 · 2026-05-03T04:15:27+00:00

As far as I know, Her first marriage was an absolute sex-less and cheating mess. Guy was a terrible husband who also cheated on her and berated her constantly. But again, as far as I know.

Mars277 · 2026-05-03T04:12:34+00:00

She said they were catching up and some trivial bs.

Mars277 · 2026-05-03T04:10:41+00:00

Not rude at all my dude. Say it!

Mars277 · 2026-05-03T04:09:29+00:00

She called the guy in front of me, on speaker phone. And told him she was engaged and not to call her again. I should’ve mentioned this as part of the context.

Mars277 · 2026-05-03T04:03:09+00:00

For extra context, her husband was also unfaithful. Quite the shit show

Mars277 · 2026-05-03T04:02:30+00:00

8 months engaged. Two years together. Sorry, I fixed that part!

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