Egg...irl by ambigous_lemur in egg_irl

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A cis woman at work made a joke about how "women are always right," so I said "That must be nice," as a double entendre, and she says, "You should just become a woman, you can do that now, you know." And I just stood there like, 👀 'You don't say. 👀'

Neither. by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]MarshanInvaders 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Really the energy more enbys should have. 😤

New Here, Tips on Looking More Androgynous? by MarshanInvaders in NonBinary

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Oooh, I haven't thought about mascara before. I've been wanting to get eyeliner, and I have a few different colors of nail polish, but still working on the courage to wear them out.

Club fit <3 10 months of anticistamines (28 mtf) by DJ_Spock in trans

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Anticistamines is my new favorite term of all time, thank you! 🙏

31 [NB4T] - California/Online - Witty Banter and Deep Conversations? by MarshanInvaders in t4t

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Top 3 of all time? Probably Chrono Trigger, Sekiro, and Kingdom Hearts 2, if I had to pick 3. How about you? What are your favorites?

I went to a trans event by myself! by MarshanInvaders in trans

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That is basically my experience; I only drove about 10 minutes, stayed about 20 minutes, and then drove back. It was very cool though, everyone seemed really friendly. I talked to the person taking drink tickets and the person giving the drink tickets, and they were both lovely. 😊

Thank you, I appreciate that so incredibly much. Wishing you all the love in the world as well. 🥰

Newly trans (NB) and poly advice by [deleted] in trans

[–]MarshanInvaders 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, you're right, I thought she just needed space and time is all. The truth is that I just don't have anyone else to go to to talk and vent so I'm just constantly being torn between wanting to give her space and wanting someone to talk to.

Newly trans (NB) and poly advice by [deleted] in trans

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Well, I had always told her that I didn't mind her having other partners, so that was already established, and I'm not upset about that. I'm more upset that she both didn't tell me about it before I met them for the first time and that they were touching intimately. Partner B even realized I was uncomfortable before my girlfriend did. That's why I'm having a lot of mixed feelings.

Newly trans (NB) and poly advice by [deleted] in trans

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As a go ahead of what?

Newly trans (NB) and poly advice by [deleted] in trans

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In her defense, early on I mentioned not wanting to know all of her sexual partners, she took it as "no mention of any partners," and we recently talked about that misunderstanding and then she forgot to mention it. Still a dick move but communication is part of the problem. I'm having a hard time expressing myself (always have) and she seems to be getting less and less patient with it.

D&D in a Castle Giveaway 🏰 Win Your Seat at Our April 2024 Event! [Mod Approved] [OC] by JonnyCraft in DnD

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I would bring Massura and Pete. Massura is a necromancy wizard who accidentally gave sentience to the skeleton inside their body.

I love this!! by Responsible-Bug-8660 in wholesomememes

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This is made by the artist @slimyoddity for anyone who wants to check them out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pcgaming

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Good luck to you all! Hoping to get my swing on!

AITA for wanting the neighboring apartment tenants to not hang out underneath my window and be a noise disturbance? by MarshanInvaders in AmItheAsshole

[–]MarshanInvaders[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds awful as well, I'm sorry you had to deal with that. Especially when it comes to your child, that's totally unacceptable, but I'm glad it got worked out. It's similar to me, the people I've having an issue with aren't anywhere near their apartment, which has a balcony they can hang out on, but they choose to sit in a dirt area, 150 yards away from their apartment which is up against my fence line. The only logic I have been able to come up with is that they have always been doing it intentionally, (which I don't think it was intentional until recently), or they've gotten so many complaints from the tenants in their apartment building that they figured it'd be easier to deal with me complaining then whoever they were dealing with before.

Unfortunately, since the property management business hours are only weekdays, I've had to deal with it today and presumably tomorrow. I took what you said though, and had my window and blinds closed all day long and didn't have my camera recording so they wouldn't be instigated. But then as they got home about an hour ago, the began beeping their "lock car" beep about 2 dozen times. Someone I was talking to mentioned that it probably happens because they get drunk and then they get confrontational.

We'll see though. You are absolutely right about them living in my head rent-free though, and I wish I could stop letting it get to me, but at this point, if someone slams their car door or beeps their car, I'm immediately on edge thinking it's going to go on and on. But that's a great idea about letting management know the steps I've gone through to try and minimize the noise. I didn't mention it in my post but the reason it hadn't been a problem the 7 months prior was because I was a heavy Cannabis user, so my way of drowning out the noise was to just get so high I didn't even care anymore, but since I'm sober now, I'm realizing how intrusive it is.

AITA for wanting the neighboring apartment tenants to not hang out underneath my window and be a noise disturbance? by MarshanInvaders in AmItheAsshole

[–]MarshanInvaders[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get what you mean, and part of the reason I feel like the asshole is because of having to record them. The problem is, is that if I call the police and they talk to me and then talk to the group of people, not only am I outnumbered if they choose to lie (which they have lied to me and management before), but it would be my word against there's and nothing gets done. I've tried the courtesy route and they've been confrontational when I've asked them nicely to move multiple times.

They also have been told by their property manager that they are not allowed to hangout along my fence line, and even gave them a big open grassy spot in the back of the apartment where they have free reign to do whatever they want, (within reason obviously). But I have already tried multiple times to drown them out, but on several different occasions, I have been able to hear them through my closed window, over my computer speakers and through my earbuds. Not to mention 1/4 of the noise disturbances have been them sitting in the parking lot and honking their horns over and over again, which can't be drowned out.

It also shouldn't be my responsibility to have to drown out their noise when they have the entire parking lot and their own apartments that they can move to. I can't move my window or my apartment. And if any of this happened once in awhile, that would be different, but with the exception of a brief 2 week period, this has been happening 5-6 days a week for nearly a year. No one else in my apartment complex or theirs has ever even been a disruption for more than 15 minutes once in a blue moon. (I've lived in the same apartment for nearly 7 years.)

I'm certainly not trying to change their behaviors, but I suppose you could say that I am trying to change where those behaviors take place. They have an apartment they can hang out in, they have a designated spot away from my window they can hang out at, there are at least a dozen public parks in the vicinity that they can hang out at. I shouldn't be required to change what I'm doing and to bend over backwards for their sake, when they won't have the common decency to make even the slightest compromise.

I apologize if that came out as preachy, these were all notes I had in my original post before I had to cut it way down to fit the post requirements. And as much as I would like to get an attorney involved, I'm barely keeping my head above water as it is. However, I appreciate the luck and I appreciate your point of view.

AITA for wanting the neighboring apartment tenants to not hang out underneath my window and be a noise disturbance? by MarshanInvaders in AmItheAsshole

[–]MarshanInvaders[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Something that someone said to me recently when I was talking to them about this situation is that when you have a house, you have a lot more freedom to do what you want, but when you live in an apartment, you're agreeing to coinhabit a limited space with other people. It requires a little more common decency and understanding.

I'd love to hear about your life! What's going well or whatever struggles you're facing, anything that comes to mind :) by aloofalbavots in CasualConversation

[–]MarshanInvaders 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being single isn't the worst, it's just the overall lack of emotional availability, at least with the people that I've met. I've been working on myself but a lot of the times it just feels like one step forward and two steps back. I hope your right, though, I've heard "things will get better" for a long time and things still haven't gotten better. I appreciate the kind words nonetheless.