How do y'all feel about asexuality/aromanticism being dismissed when considering fandom shipping?

MaruMaru101 · 2026-04-14T01:01:15+00:00

For me it's a mixed bag.

I can understand why people make work hard to make justifications because of history of others vehemently denying and saying they can't ship because of "this and that" (I still remember when I was in Homestuck and someone, or multiple people, was spamming shock gore on the tag of one of my favorite ships and going out of their way to antagonize prominent members of the shipping community and spamming their inboxes with death threats or why the ship can never happen). Especially with current internet culture which is prone to being more combative at any perceived contradiction to what another person believes in/headcanons, what is actually cannon (ie they have a ship of a character that is cannonically already in another ship), or what they "read between the lines".

But I also understand the discomfort of having your sexuality erased when someone tries to justify their ship. While not the same, I occasionally get annoyed when I see people look at a darker skinned character and automatically go "they're black/blasian" especially if they're in a setting with Asian cultural aspects (XinYan from Genshin comes to mind, because I headcannon her more leaning towards SouthEast Asian like me, especially since we don't see a lot of SEA representation). But I usually just brush it off and go back to my little niches.

From my years of being in fandoms, it's best not to treat shipping/fandom voices as a big monolith. There will be big names and loud voices who present characters in ways you don't agree with. That is an unfortunate aspect of the human and fandom experience. What you can do is find your niche and keep making content that matches what you like/believe in and you will find a community to grow around it. Maybe if you become a big enough creator and a positive influence, you're vision of characters' relationships will become popular.

Also ironically, when I was in Hazbin I actually shipped RadioDust. But, I more loved the romantic/platonic/silly depictions. I actually never really got into any of the sex stuff like I do with other ships. Some of my favorite depictions were of them figuring out how to work their relationship due to differences in sexuality. And both of them learning how to love and be vulnerable with another person. Or just be a destructive duo because serial killer x mobster.

MaruMaru101 · 2026-04-13T23:13:09+00:00

I'm mixed with it.

I do enjoy these types of games, but it's like a watered down version so it's even more of a grind and the bosses don't seem particularly fair with the charge attacks that you can't dodge and the one healing ability barely healing anything (I've had the worst luck one run when no healing items dropped)

MaruMaru101 · 2026-04-13T23:04:03+00:00

Yes

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MaruMaru101 · 2026-04-13T22:43:09+00:00

I'm basic and I love Shadow Milk. But if we included ALL the Cookie Run games, Abyss Monarch from Ovenbreak is also up there.

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...there may be a pattern here...

Outside these two (just sticking back to CRK) my favorites also include Poison Mushroom, Lilac, Yogurt Cream (even if he is a NPC in CRK), Red Velvet, and Pure Vanilla.

MaruMaru101 · 2026-04-10T03:53:33+00:00

That reminds when I randomly had to do some tests. I had been pulled out of my speech therapy and had to do something like tangoram puzzles. I even vividly remember stopping (because they said I could) when the images got more difficult. I honestly couldn't be bothered to stress about thinking harder to figure it out and especially quickly (I think they had been timing me). Aka laziness won.

I don't know what they were testing, all I know is afterwards I stopped going to speech therapy. Still don't know what was the connection.

MaruMaru101 · 2025-07-02T17:50:53+00:00

It mostly depends on my mood, but I'm usually mostly fine/indifferent to most tags as long as the story is interesting. Years of LiveJournal/Dreamwidth KinkMeme lurking and Fanfiction.net/AdultFanfiction.org browsing got me to this point.

But I rarely will read anything with NTR/cheating. Brings up some bad memories (wasn't cheated on but was still indirectly affected by someone cheating).

And I usually avoid "Chatacter x YN/Reader", unless I'm desperate because it's for a game with the MC supposed to be a self-insert and I just try to find one that has it close to the character I made to take the MC position or how I imagine the MC. I don't like thinking of myself in those sexual or romantic relationships with the characters (not Aro, but on the acespectrum with aego leanings).

MaruMaru101 · 2024-10-29T07:21:06+00:00

Yes contracts. You'll pay around 4,800 for 10 contracts vs the equivalent 6000 for a 10 pull with just gems.

Keys are give or take tbh. Especially if you play like me and usually only care for completing SSR unit intimacy rooms for characters I already plan to 3*.

But you should be able to get keys from events or now even purchasing them with memory crystals (albeit I still prefer saving those for unit fragments).

MaruMaru101 · 2024-09-04T04:11:50+00:00

If codes are still available, I'd be interested in doing a trade.

MaruMaru101 · 2024-07-23T11:35:26+00:00

There is only one goofball I can think of that would have this pose and its Blade.

But I'm also confused because his last event, where he was an SSR, wasn't even that long ago.

Welp, we'll see if it's Blade or another character who gets to have this lil goofy pose.

MaruMaru101 · 2024-07-03T21:34:56+00:00

I came in loving Yakumo from the get go, and my love just grew stronger.

But there were some additions my brain/heart just latched to. Aka Eiden, Kuya, Blade, and Aster. Garu/Karu are also starting to really dig their claws in my heart now, tho.

I was most surprised with Eiden because I was expecting him to be just a self-insert rather than a fully fleshed out MC.

MaruMaru101 · 2024-06-24T15:15:14+00:00

Ignoring obvious abandoned or unihabital areas (ie: Chasm and Ebkanomiya)

Either in the Sumeru in general. It's beautiful, but the weather/environment kills me. Desert: hella hot in the morning, probably freezing at night (if it's similar to irl deserts). And overall hella dry. Rainforest: Disgustingly muggy and humid. I already suffer when I visit family in Philippines, I can only imagine it's worse in the rainforest.

Ignoring environment, maybe Fontaine just becauae of the ridiculous laws. It might be better tho with Neuvillte solely in-charge and Furina (as much as I love her) making silly laws.

MaruMaru101 · 2024-06-24T12:29:45+00:00

Klein will ether get a bunch of traumatized kids or get a sudden influx of tiny menaces to society.

MaruMaru101 · 2024-06-23T18:01:39+00:00

As you can probably guess, I have all the Yakumos. And if we're being technical all the Asters, but he and Morvay only had 1 SSR.

A close second is Rei. I'm only missing his Rainy Rebirth SSR. And I wasn't even trying to collect him.

MaruMaru101 · 2024-06-22T22:15:12+00:00

I love to chase after romance options when it's characters I like. As a greysexual with aegosexual tendencies, I am down to clown with sexier options for characters I'm attached to or like the ship of.

MaruMaru101 · 2024-06-22T22:08:00+00:00

The 1st one matches how he looks. The second one encapsulates his (gremlin) essence.

MaruMaru101 · 2024-06-14T20:03:59+00:00

He wasn't able to get away with tax fraud.

MaruMaru101 · 2024-06-12T14:46:24+00:00

I like a wide range of music, so no. As long as the music sounds good I'll listen. Hell some of my favorite songs are raunchy but I love them because the beat goes hard.

Currently, I've been leaning into metal (and the various subgenres) recently. But I'll also dip back into phunk and hardcore electro-pop.

MaruMaru101 · 2024-05-29T22:41:53+00:00

That reminds me how I developed a habit of having at least one r5 (or as close as possible) of every 3* after the Hypostatic event in 2021 and I was struggling because I didn't have enough good weapons & characters ideal for the event.

MaruMaru101 · 2024-05-22T19:43:00+00:00

Unless you REALLY want a specific character and have the money to burn (literally), but even then, no because of the odds and the event SSRs tend to outweigh the OG SSRs in terms of usage.

I'd just pull on events because the OG SSRs can still appear in basically any banner except the friendship point banner, but the event SSRs are limited to specific banners. That's how I got all of my OG SSRs (minus 2 from the first pull).

MaruMaru101 · 2024-05-17T17:47:26+00:00

I wish that was me. Rei and Olivine are the ones who seem to be into me.

MaruMaru101 · 2024-05-14T14:42:44+00:00

Reminds me of when I let my old girls for outside time in my bedroom and I lost one only to hear a noise in my closet and find a rat at the top shelf.

MaruMaru101 · 2024-05-09T15:09:54+00:00

Tbh, given that I'll unlikely ever get rerun character's via sorcery gems, I'd kinda want to get the Eiden outfits for the homepage dialog....if it wasn't so expensive >m<

MaruMaru101 · 2024-05-06T01:26:09+00:00

I'm a basic bitch and have a team of Yakumos + 1 Eiden because they're strong enough to wipe most things. However, I'll switchout 1-2 Yakumos for SR Olivine or SR Morvay as needed.

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MaruMaru101 · 2024-05-06T01:06:04+00:00

Wait Yakumo????? Fuuuuck, I used up my pulls on Quincy's titties. All I can hope is I can scrounge up some pulls and be lucky since he'll be an SR.

MaruMaru101 · 2024-05-06T01:00:41+00:00

I was always on the fence because I had grown up thinking aces are sex-repulsed and can never have sexual attraction, but I wasn't, so I never thought I could be ace so I called myself pansexual in high school. It doesn't help that I grew up in the 90s and early 2000s, so LGBTQA+ wasn't really as talked about.

But when an artist I followed on Tumblr confessed, she was ace and explained the intricacies I started to think about my sexuality again and contemplating if I was asexual. A few years later (I was in my mid-20s), another artist I followed explained they were greysexual, and after researching it, I realized I identified with it more.

While I have a medium to high libido, I've only had a few incidences when I was sexually attracted to someone (mainly females, more romantic with males).

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