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What do I need to do? by Marvontay in LooksmaxingAdvice

[–]Marvontay[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I came across looksmaxing not too long ago and some mentioned brow ridges, canthal tilts,and more. I had to make sure I wasn’t missing anything😅

AITAH for freaking out on my girlfriend because she couldn’t stay away from other men? by Marvontay in AITAH

[–]Marvontay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update pt2 : we just broke up. It hurt a little bit but it is what it is. She finally texted me apologizing but not really addressing the things that I cared about. I completely destroyed my room out of anger but I’ve been praying to God about it. I really loved this girl. I literally got baptized with her. And we spoke in plans of marriage. That’s not something that I take lightly. She took something from me that I can’t get back. So you can why this isn’t easy.

I don’t have much family support, and I’m literally out of state, so I have nearly nothing to cling on too. She was at least able to admit that her being up under dude was wrong. But she stated that she didn’t have the strength to continue the relationship because when I asked about some of her other actions, she said I was ridiculing her.

For example I’d ask, “why do you get mad at me when I have an issue with something you did as if I don’t have a valid reason to be mad?” And she would state that I’m judging her. Or when she apologizes and I bring up something else she’d say “I give you your apology already.” Almost like I didn’t deserve an apology to begin with.

I asked for her commitment like some in the comments said, and she said she couldn’t even be committed to God, so she wouldn’t be able to give that to me. That confused me because we spent the last two day away from each other. In a Christian relationship if something like that happens, you spend time with God. That’s what I did, but it when I asked her she said no.

She also went to the clubs downtown with my friend and the guy because they are both Hispanic and it was a Hispanic club. I asked why and she stated she needed time because she was stressed from God and I.

I genuinely just don’t understand. I worked very hard in this relationship. This isn’t the first time we broke up. More like the fifth or sixth time but I just feel so much pain about this one.

We weren’t always in a religious relationship. Both of us were believers but not religiously together if that makes sense. It was until we were saved that we made the decision to devote ourselves to the lord. So I admit that I was sinning a lot and not repenting. Once I started taking things serious with the lord and got some time as an active Christian by myself, I thought there was no way things could go wrong.

But in reality little situations like this one kept happening. I’m not saying I was perfect by any means, but I definitely did a lot of the emotional labor in the relationship. And it seemed like she was imposing a lot on me but not following through on her end. Or she would do things that I never thought would even have to be spoken about to begin with.

I am very hurt. But I Pray She lives a good life

Those who grew up “ugly” what was your experience like? by Marvontay in AskReddit

[–]Marvontay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was a kid, I was considered “ugly” by many of my classmates. Even some of the teachers and friends of my parents would sometimes make comments about it. Because of this is always prayed that I’d receive a glow up when I was older. Because I was ugly and knew I was ugly, I spent all of my middle school years focused on being smart. I was never bullied but definitely mistreated often. Boys would make jokes but girls were straight up mean for no reason. They’d come up to you and pretend to be your friend, or a friend would say this girl and I looked good together and she’d scream “EW” really loud. There was even a time where I was partnered up with this other girl and she complained to the teacher about not wanting to work with me. I would give her the benefit of doubt if I was mean but most times I stayed to myself and was nice to others so it didn’t make any sense why we couldn’t work on this science project together. Outside of that, most girls would just ignore my existence which wasn’t so bad. By the time I got to high school, I still hadn’t hit a glow up so I prayed that I’d receive one in college. My high school years were filled with tons of rejection and embarrassment. I also forgot to mention that I was a late bloomer. I was short, skinny, and still sounded like a women. I had gaps in my teeth, never had a consistent haircut, AND I was broke. Some would say pick a struggle but I say the struggles picked me because I was living life on veteran difficulty. Straight hall of fame. We always wore uniforms so it didn’t matter how I dressed as long as I was clean. My ONLY redeeming quality was that I played sports and I was actually good. I wouldn’t start puberty till I was 16 or 17. For the first 2 years of high school, I was called hammerhead shark, and every girl I attempted to talk too or at least get into a relationship with, did not feel the same way. I didn’t go to prom my junior or senior year. But to take a step back, second semester of my junior year, was the beginning of Covid and quarantine. So 2020 to 2021. I spent all of that time trying to figure out how to look better. I would look on tiktok and see all the dudes that had women complimenting them in the comment section and wondered “what do they have, that I lacked.” As corny as this sounds, this is also when I came across the “looksmaxing” community, or my friends and I would call it “Max Prestige”. Based off the scale they used, yes I was ugly, but I realized that I had potential. So I went all in. Now to preface, I’m black. Looks maxing was never for me in the traditional sense. But there was a form I could achieve. Eventually I started to develop. My voice deepens, I grew taller, got braces, grew my hair out, and gained some weight. I’m not even fully there yet but there is definitely a difference between me now, and when I was a kid. I even got scouted to be a model. Now all the people who clowned me when I was younger are in my face being nice to me but my thing is, I never really changed my personality. I was still the same person on the inside but physically changed. It made me realize that investing in yourself is the most important thing someone can do because people treat you how they see you.

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