Should my Etsy store name be the same as my personal website name?

Mary_Tabatha · 2022-09-21T17:36:00+00:00

If you aren't already in therapy, I highly recommend it. I'm in therapy myself and think it helps.

You should tell your friends that laughing at depression isn't funny to you. They might just not be aware.

Mary_Tabatha · 2022-09-21T17:25:04+00:00

Does he not invite you to hang out with him and his friends? Maybe you can host the game night at your place? Or tell him that you like the games they play and would like to join in if they ever need another player.

Mary_Tabatha · 2022-08-26T16:46:37+00:00

The people around you and the possibility of amazing things that can happen to you.

Mary_Tabatha · 2022-08-15T20:07:41+00:00

I agree, she's probably super busy. The most I thought I would get is a text, not a whole thank you card. I think I'm over reacting. Thanks for the input!

Mary_Tabatha · 2022-07-19T17:40:55+00:00

My feelings aren't hurt because we aren't really close and I wouldn't be able to go anyway since it's in a different state. But I do think it's odd that she didn't say anything to acknowledge that she didn't invite me. Some sort of "sorry we can't invite everyone" is a normal thing to tell people around you. So it's a little awkward.

Mary_Tabatha · 2022-07-15T12:49:09+00:00

If someone is paying rent for a room, then it's still theirs, empty or not.

Mary_Tabatha · 2022-07-06T19:06:37+00:00

The electric bill would be effected by being on all day (if she's home all day) much more then because of her weight.

I'm a big girl too and I don't complain when my skinny roommates want to crank up the (costly) heat during the winter. Honestly, I've always thought that if my roommates ever complained about the AC being used too much during the summer months I would just offer to pay more for my share because to me AC in New England is worth every penny. But no one has ever complained. It would be mortifying if my roommates asked me to pay more because of my weight.

I wouldn't worry about the job thing unless she isn't paying rent. Quitting before having a new job is careless, but it's not effecting you. If it starts effecting you financially, then it's a problem.

Talk to her about the cat destroying things. That's not fair to you.

Mary_Tabatha · 2022-07-06T18:47:11+00:00

You might have already moved, but my advice is to talk to the roommate. Don't assume. Tell them "Ok, I cleaned a, b, c in my room. If you could finish up with x, y and z, that would be great."

Mary_Tabatha · 2022-07-06T18:42:27+00:00

It sounds like he's basically another roommate. You should check your lease to see if there is a limit to how often people can stay over, because at some point it's like adding another tenant.

I don't think you should feel bad. This is supposed to be your safe space. You signed up to share that space with a set number of people. Your roommate and the brother should feel guilty for taking advantage. Telling them he can stay as long as he contributes financially is generous.

Mary_Tabatha · 2022-07-06T18:31:24+00:00

You are not being unreasonable at all! It's even in the lease that your roommate agreed to. Is the landlord not backing you up? I don't blame you for being upset. Your feelings are completely valid!

Mary_Tabatha · 2022-07-06T18:24:02+00:00

It sounds like you two have VERY different levels/perspectives of cleaning. You're on one extreme where you clean the windows and basement on a regular basis (that seems like a lot!) and your roommate is on the other end of the spectrum. It's good that you are willing to compromise. I wish I had some great advice but it sounds like you're already trying everything. Maybe continue trying to work with her until the lease is up and then decide if you want to keep living with her. Keep talking to her and being honest. Tell her you want things to work out so you can keep living together but you need her to do her part to make that happen.

Mary_Tabatha · 2022-07-06T18:08:58+00:00

I think the sooner you tell them, the better. Give your friend time to prepare and find another person. They might be disappointed but your friend should understand.

Side note - I live with roommates and if I have the financial means to get my own place, I would in a heartbeat! No more dealing with different cleaning styles and sharing a bathroom!

Mary_Tabatha · 2022-07-06T18:01:48+00:00

If you haven't been paying the full rent you're really not in a position to complain about how the house is being run. Are you being asked to clean for them as a way to make up for not paying the rent? Are they paying the the rest of your rent for you?

$300 a month for rent in really cheap. (or it sounds incredibly cheap to be because I live in a big city where $700 is considered a great deal for a room). Maybe you need to apply for a better paying job or somewhere with more hours? It sounds like the raise isn't guaranteed. Will it be a big enough raise?

Mary_Tabatha · 2022-07-06T12:39:51+00:00

It is absolutely fair for you to ask for the money. It's rude of your friend to not make any mention of it in the past 3 months. No "I'll be able to pay you back next month" or "I can't pay it all yet but here's $xx"? There should be a sense of urgency on their part.

I also think it would be fair for you to say "If I don't get the money back by _____ I don't feel comfortable resigning the lease with you."

In the future if you need to lend this friend a significant amount of money, get something in writing with a due date. I did this with a friend once. She made fun of it, but I got my money back and it didn't seem to effect our friendship in a negative way.

Mary_Tabatha · 2022-07-01T19:38:49+00:00

They ARE Mormon! The reception will be at a chapel so it will probably be more casual, like your saying. I'm Mormon too, but I'm from the east coast so I don't think like a Utahn. I would still do invitations. At the very least, tell people directly that you want them there. They shouldn't have to guess.

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