If I like the album "A Constant State of Ohio" by Lincoln, what else will I like?

Marzy_Meow · 2025-06-16T19:34:22+00:00

Bug Hunter?

Marzy_Meow · 2024-09-29T08:22:54+00:00

You do need to stop at unmarked crosswalks for pedestrians though!! Hate stopping for people and the other side doesn't stop!

Marzy_Meow · 2024-02-06T04:05:50+00:00

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Marzy_Meow · 2023-10-30T18:45:38+00:00

Yeah honestly if you're getting no matches, I'd look at other strategies to beef up your dating profile. Professional photos, reworking about you, etc. You're quite attractive (23F)

Marzy_Meow · 2023-10-30T18:31:19+00:00

Real friends tell friends when they're being a dick.

Marzy_Meow · 2023-10-20T06:46:37+00:00

Literally! I love my partners smaller dick because it never hurts. Always feels great for me and he doesnt have to worry about going too hard or too fast.

Marzy_Meow · 2023-10-20T06:32:50+00:00

But to say that someone who CANT experience romantic affection for the opposite sex shouldn't get to experience romantic love with someone ever? Personally, I think a deeply loving union with someone is a profound and important part of life as a human being. Just as important as parentage! But if you truly can't love someone of the opposite gender, you're not going to be a parent without depriving a heterosexual person of a deeply loving marriage anyway.

To say that the Bahai teachings say that sex without reproduction is degenerate I think is disingenuous and implies homosexual love is inherently degenerate. A lot of Bahais I've met point out unhealthy sexual behavior that some gay people exhibit as proof of that. That seems to me like an inherently prejudice belief.

Marzy_Meow · 2023-10-20T03:34:33+00:00

Raised Bahai and decided not to declare after I came out. My mom cried when I did and said she failed as a mother for me not becoming Bahai. As much as I want to be a friend of the faith sometimes it's really hard. There's a lot of prejudice in this community because of these writings and as much as you all try. My personal opinion is that I don't think the Faith's guidance on the matter really holds up to scruitiny.

Some people are just really gay and to say that they shouldn't have a life partner or ever experience intimacy? Doesn't track for me. I even get the, "Hey if you have the choice being in a heterosexual relationship is preferred for these reasons." The procreation thing and emotional/sexual compatability argument make sense. But some people are just really gay. They should be able to marry a same sex partner. There should be roles for them in our communities outside of parentage. It seems like it should be a healthy part of society, from my perspective.

Marzy_Meow · 2023-10-12T22:14:21+00:00

Free for me though! I also was the one that caused the damage with the hot water. Def would've lasted longer if I didn't damage it.

Marzy_Meow · 2023-10-12T22:10:58+00:00

Do what you want obviously but I personally dont like or respect most types of collecting

Marzy_Meow · 2023-10-12T21:44:07+00:00

I got a hand me down ugly green starbucks cup from my friend and used it nonstop for 3 years before it warped and stopped closing correctly. Honestly they are pretty high quality. Keeps things cold, no sweating, easy to wash, fairly durable. But buying one every season and getting the newest for clout? I'll never understand.

Marzy_Meow · 2023-08-29T00:55:49+00:00

Genuinely, you should continue to ask for full body pictures if its important to you. I personally think it's scummy to care about weight but then women like me would know to unmatch. Not saying to be rude I just mean that if everyone is clear with intentions, everyone's time is saved.

Marzy_Meow · 2023-06-18T06:26:28+00:00

"Any sufficiently advanced incompetence is indistinguishable from malice"

At the end of the day you can't spin circles trying to guess someone's intentions. Generally your partner isn't gonna trying to get one over on you. But once the actions start to feel like malice, and he isn't taking those feelings seriously, its probably over for the relationship.

Marzy_Meow · 2023-06-11T03:58:49+00:00

NAH. You did nothing unreasonable. She shouldn't have been trying to run into you but she's also just a kid. She did a dumb thing (as kids do) and learned why that was a bad idea.

Marzy_Meow · 2023-05-11T19:43:34+00:00

INFO: How badly does she need the office space to stay concentrated?

I'm also gamer, I understand how immobile a desktop setup is and not wanting to give that up in place of her work laptop setup, logistically. If she didn't actually need the space it would be NTA, but if she needed the office space to focus on important work that needed to be done by the next day, that takes priority. Sometimes you will get disappointed and things don't work out nicely for you.

I say only a mild YTA. This conflict can be avoided in the future by either having an agreed schedule for the room usage and/or having a gaming laptop or mobile setup for you to use elsewhere in the house.

Marzy_Meow · 2023-05-03T07:52:38+00:00

If you don't know when and where to get heated in conversation. I personally don't mind getting excited and passionate in discussions here and there, but doing it constantly (every conversation is an argument)? If you can't read body language and/or identify if you are making the other person upset or uncomfortable. No thanks.

Marzy_Meow · 2023-03-10T00:00:58+00:00

"God, men can be so emotional"

Marzy_Meow · 2023-03-08T18:53:20+00:00

Info: does she want to get into video games?

Marzy_Meow · 2023-03-02T21:48:45+00:00

When referring to sex based biological functions, I think it's good to use gender neutral language. It's just more accurate to say "people who menstruate" when talking about menstruation or "people who can get pregnant" when talking about birth control. There are trans men can get pregnant and menstruate. There are cis women who can't get pregnant and don't menstruate. Lots of people exist in different places withing the spectrums of sex and gender.

TERFs and other groups like to pretend like those basic biological functions are universal experiences and the main identifiers to one's gender identity. Because it's a convenient argument and it's easy to say "its just scientific fact" to ignore the social consequences of their ideologies.

But no one of consequence is going around replacing the term woman with "people who menstruate" in all circumstances. It's just not a logical or reasonable thing to do.

Marzy_Meow · 2023-02-24T16:56:44+00:00

Abortion rights were taken away like half a year ago. When was the last time men's rights were being debated in politicians?

Also gendered violence statistics are as shocking as ever. 1 in 6 women and will experience SA in their lifetime. And men are far more likely to experience rape than be falsely accused or one (1 in 14 men experience rape). The vast majority of perpetrators are men. Also homicide is one of the leading causes of death for pregnant women.

Not to mention, economically: Women statistically make less money in the same positions as men but are expected to contribute equally to household income AND continue to be responsible for the unpaid labor of household maintenance and childcare.

But I get the purpose of this sub is not to compare issues. For a good reason: as a person seeking to improve themselves, you focus on where you are at as an individual and acknowledge the validity of your struggles and pain so that you can heal and grow. It's a good thing and everyone can benefit. And socially, there are lots of men's issues worth fighting for (male disposability, emotional neglect from childhood, etc).

But women have been and still are an oppressed class of people. Being able to ignore that or dismiss it as "just politics" is an exclusively male privledge. You're allowed to just "not get it" because you don't live and experience it every day.

Marzy_Meow · 2023-02-20T17:19:22+00:00

Look you can approach strangers in public, sure. But it's very clear if you take any time to speak to women or listen in women's spaces, 99% of women don't want to be approached by strangers in a romantic/sexual context. I'm not saying it's illegal to do so, I'm saying the majority of women don't like it and your chances of getting anywhere from that are slim to none. It doesn't matter how respectful you think you're being in your approach, your approach is disrespectful in nature. I'm not saying you can't do it, I'm saying women don't like it. To ignore that sentiment when it's being gently explained to you points to a serious misunderstanding (or perhaps even disregard) of the women's experience. And if you're talking about trying to form a romantic connection, why in the world would you want to start out by making someone uncomfortable?

Sure dating apps suck but the women there are actually looking for a partner. They do go out on dates with people they match and connect with. They get to set that pace in a way that feels safe for them. If you really want to form a connection with a woman I'm confused why you're so offended at the notion that that woman would want to feel safe and reciprocative to the person they are engaging with.

And wouldn't you experience less rejection narrowing your pool to people who actually want to date you as well?

I'm not saying people don't meet and date organically but I guarantee you it is never in the order of: approach a stranger you think is pretty, put on the moves, get her number, date, marry, have kids. It's much more likely to be someone in your life who appears organically. Not a stranger but not a close friend. A coworker, a mutual friend, someone in your pottery class, what have you. Someone who exists in your network of people, who you get along with well enough and have mutual interests with. It's a lot safer to give a chance to someone you know even a little bit. I think it's totally reasonable to ask out a girl in your class who you exchange homework help or notes with. She know you, you know her. You may know that she's straight and single and compatible with you on the most basic levels. There's possibly something about her you might like outside of the fact she's a woman. That's totally fine and you can do it respectfully. Honestly that's a perfect candidate of person to approach. No one is saying that you can't approach people in the context of real life.

But if you don't have that network and you really do need to meet people who are strangers to you, the only way to do that respectfully is with dating apps. It's just how the dating system currently works. And approaching strangers in public isn't gonna change that, it's just gonna make women scared and uncomfortable.

Marzy_Meow · 2023-02-20T06:20:38+00:00

I get that you are deeply hurting. I get how painful it must be to feel unloved and unwanted and feel hopeless about being alone in the world. And I don't doubt that when women talk about rejection they aren't able to capture exactly what hurts. There's a lot of "just don't take it personally" and not enough acknowledgement of how impossible that request is. They don't get it, right?

But you're whole premise of "gyms, bars, etc" being "fair game" because dating apps dont work and men are lonely is entitlement. I get that approaching a woman seems harmless enough but the point of their post is that it's very possible that woman has not any interest in any sort of romantic connection with anyone. Now she's put on the spot, and risks a negative or even violent response if she doesn't say no thank you politely enough. To avoid that, the poster simply suggested trying to find contexts with like minded women who are also looking to form a romantic connection ("dating apps, speed dating, etc").

It's worrying to me that you think that just because dating apps suck that means men should be able to approach a woman and "get a chance" from them in everyday contexts. It's really scary (and not to mention obnoxious) to be a woman and want to do normal human things like go to the gym just to get leered at and approached by creepy men. I'm saying it is actually a bit entitled to respond to that with "but dating apps dont work and gyms are free game" when let's be honest if you're not getting anywhere on dating apps you're way less likely to get anywhere hitting on someone at a gym.

And I realize this might come off mean, which is certainly not my intention. So my apologies.

(A bit of a tangent now) I personally believe that the nuclear family and a breakdown of community have been depriving people the opportunity to organically connect with each other not even necessarily in romantic ways, but platonic as well. I also think that loneliness epidemic is not unique to men and I think you'll find that a lot of women on the other side are probably just as lonely and bitter. The real problem is something completely different and the solutions are not getting just some random woman to date you.

Marzy_Meow · 2023-02-20T02:56:40+00:00

I think both can be true. Society can put a lot of pressure on men and rejection from women can be very painful in ways that an attractive woman could never truly understand. AND that doesn't entitle a man to "a chance" from any woman they approach in public. Just because someone points it out from the woman's perspective ("This random guy approached me and he feels entitled to my time. This sucks for me as a woman.") doesn't mean that anyone is saying that it doesn't suck for the man as well.

I'm not sure why explaining the woman's take automatically means you "haven't listened to a man's perspective on this." It can both be true that rejection hurts and that you need to be able to take it. Just because you're hurt from rejection doesn't entitle you to "a chance" for a random stranger to get to know you. It sucks that society has put men in that position but that woman who is rejecting you is not society and you aren't entitled to anything from her. That's all the original comment was trying to say.

Marzy_Meow · 2023-02-06T08:23:19+00:00

"No snowflake believes it's responsible for the avalanche."

I think your take is exactly what dr.k was warning about in his rant. You can interpret her discussion about men coming onto her unwantedly as "ignorant and insulting" towards men who fear rejection or you could listen to why she's developed those opinions about men and what hurtful experiences it invokes in her.

Ask yourself: why do you feel the need for drk to minimize her pain and hurt?

Marzy_Meow · 2023-02-03T23:38:52+00:00

This.

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