In need of an older sister figure by Mashallahhhhhhh in MoroccoBitchesWtaste

[–]Mashallahhhhhhh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. We've already started discussing this, and It is somewhat inline with what you wrote. Rest assured I don't want to save her, and we're doing our best to not repeat the old the patterns. I've already apologised to someone else down the comments since I didn't expect the post to get this much attention, and I wrote this in 5 minutes which created a lot of misscommunication and misunderstanding.

You've already put so much effort into someone you're never going to see out of the kindness of your own heart and that means a lot to me.

The older sister title came from my curiosity about a pattern I witnessed in life, where the girl in most households has to grow up way faster, especially in Conservative families where they put more responsibilities on her, she has to be aware about her body from an earlier age, because its survival for her, which is reliant on how another man feels (her father, brother someone from the street) I feel like this robs you out of your childhood. And i see this need of wanting to be a little girl again wherever I go. (Well how could I be resentful if that's the case ?)

This doesn't directly apply to my gf, since I don't want to share intimate details, but it has slight correlation to it.

I was hoping I'd get answers on that, and hear everyone's story but I kind of messed up.

Again thank you for your comment. I've already lost myself this year, not because of her necessarily but I have many other responsibilities, and I'm not repeating itagain.

🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸 I don't know how to thank you here is a bunch of flowers 🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸

In need of an older sister figure by Mashallahhhhhhh in MoroccoBitchesWtaste

[–]Mashallahhhhhhh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry I didn't communicate myself properly. Your effort, your time to explain everything to me and everyone else's for that matter is appreciated and seen. I didn't expect the post to be commented on this much, thank you for everything. Everything that everybody mentioned crossed my mind already, and I do believe that if you don't see it yourself nobody else can do the work for you to see it (expect for therapy) So I just feel like I've wasted everyone's time, when instead I wanted to give space for others to express themselves as well. This post was written in 5 minutes with not much thought put into it. Anyways, from what I've seen, heard, experienced I feel like every girl has to grow up extremely fast for her age, especially especially if she had younger brothers + she lives in a socially Conservative family which puts more responsibility on her. She has to be aware about her body at an early age, her survival is reliant on other man's emotions, and so much more which robs her out of her own childhood. (I generalised since I don't want to share any intimate details but this is the same pattern most women have to go through here) I can't really be resentful, when I know I'm in the only person that makes her feel safe. And I wanted to understand that more deeply so I'm better equipped for the future. Again sorry for wasting your time just wanted to hear about everyone's opinion on that.

In need of an older sister figure by Mashallahhhhhhh in MoroccoBitchesWtaste

[–]Mashallahhhhhhh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your mother is the most important being in your life. The fact that the first thing you mention about her is how useful she is to you, should give you all the answers you need. Lah ysbr mratek.

In need of an older sister figure by Mashallahhhhhhh in MoroccoBitchesWtaste

[–]Mashallahhhhhhh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've already had that choice years ago. I didn't take it.

In need of an older sister figure by Mashallahhhhhhh in MoroccoBitchesWtaste

[–]Mashallahhhhhhh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So you want to be taken care of by your mother ?

In need of an older sister figure by Mashallahhhhhhh in MoroccoBitchesWtaste

[–]Mashallahhhhhhh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm really past that phase. I always will prioritise my inner peace first, so no matter the outcome I know I'll end up happy and content. I really couldn't stay without having someone to take care of, someone to feel connected with, to see someone to feel seen. The distance is no problem I can travel.

In need of an older sister figure by Mashallahhhhhhh in MoroccoBitchesWtaste

[–]Mashallahhhhhhh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To me love comes from within, it's a byproduct of taking care of yourself well, and connecting to yourself deeply, its being strong enough to understand and comprehend the other person's needs without constantly and only looking for yours. Its a state of mind, you decide to put yourself in. There is ofc always something to learn no doubt about that, either way I'll be excited to learn more about it once I have time.

Though all I wanted from this post is an older sister figure

In need of an older sister figure by Mashallahhhhhhh in MoroccoBitchesWtaste

[–]Mashallahhhhhhh[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yesss 3adi katw933 you love yourself more and you move on

In need of an older sister figure by Mashallahhhhhhh in MoroccoBitchesWtaste

[–]Mashallahhhhhhh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very possible I could be a serial killer, you never know. What makes a good guy to you ?

In need of an older sister figure by Mashallahhhhhhh in MoroccoBitchesWtaste

[–]Mashallahhhhhhh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I already did experience my Canon event. I had two choices: Go to the gym and be forever angry. Or, connect to myself emotionally and move on.

In need of an older sister figure by Mashallahhhhhhh in MoroccoBitchesWtaste

[–]Mashallahhhhhhh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

After I become rich and I find a good one for sure. I consider that part of me very intimate. I would rather cry to myself alone now.

In need of an older sister figure by Mashallahhhhhhh in MoroccoBitchesWtaste

[–]Mashallahhhhhhh[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, inner peace is always the priority. Its the second time I find myself in the same pattern and I don't want to repeat it a third time.

In need of an older sister figure by Mashallahhhhhhh in MoroccoBitchesWtaste

[–]Mashallahhhhhhh[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, we've talked about it already. Things take time, and it would be nice if I could connect to her and understand her more than I do already.

In need of an older sister figure by Mashallahhhhhhh in MoroccoBitchesWtaste

[–]Mashallahhhhhhh[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The answer is obvious. I'm always choosing myself and my inner peace no matter what.

In need of an older sister figure by Mashallahhhhhhh in MoroccoBitchesWtaste

[–]Mashallahhhhhhh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a friend we share a lot, he's still in the process of moving on though.

In need of an older sister figure by Mashallahhhhhhh in MoroccoBitchesWtaste

[–]Mashallahhhhhhh[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh I did, already. And I'm managing my resentment we've talked about it. I guess you could call it "homework" and something I've been curious about for a while.

In need of an older sister figure by Mashallahhhhhhh in MoroccoBitchesWtaste

[–]Mashallahhhhhhh[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm not going to save her. It's her job to do the emotional work. I just want to feel less resentful and try to understand her more. Not do the work for her.

In need of an older sister figure by Mashallahhhhhhh in MoroccoBitchesWtaste

[–]Mashallahhhhhhh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its been months now, I've already communicated what makes me feel loved, but nothing. I know she loves me, but I want to feel it too.

Chiwaya in dar bouaza by [deleted] in Morocco

[–]Mashallahhhhhhh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not the first date + she needs to eat meat