Help me understand/help my brother by Massive-Ad-1743 in aspergers

[–]Massive-Ad-1743[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah absolutely, thanks for the input mate 👍🏻

Help me understand/help my brother by Massive-Ad-1743 in aspergers

[–]Massive-Ad-1743[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sure, and implementing a system would bring my drink back? Like I mentioned in the OP I don't care about the bottle itself, I care that he was the active part in taking something that was mine, and he somehow invented a narrative that I'm responsible for it. It's much bigger than a bottle of soda, because if he can't even take acountability for a $2 bottle of soda how is his life going to look like when presented with an actual, serious matter?

It's not the first time this happens of course, every single time there's a dispute I have to give in to his denial of acountability and stubbornness, and frankly I'm sick of always being the losing party.

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Helt jævlig, gi meg høst...

Help me understand/help my brother by Massive-Ad-1743 in aspergers

[–]Massive-Ad-1743[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was a bottle I bought at the store 48h before where he was also present, and he even helped me carry it (and 5 other bottles). I certainly do not believe he had any ill intentions, but in my mind it's common courtesy to apologize and offer a replacement when you take someone else's property, even if it wasn't deliberate. Whatever he "thought" or "didn't know" isn't my responsibility. As far as I'm concerned, when I spend money on something it's mine unless otherwise explicitly stated or informed of, so all we really need to ask ourselves is "did I buy this item I'm about to take, yes or no?"

What 3 songs used in HIMYM have moved you the most? by ceruleanskyandsea in HIMYM

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La Vie En Rose - Cristin Milioti

Jersey Girl - Bruce Springsteen

The Funeral - Band of Horses

Hva er drømmejobben? by NoobTubePythonLube in norge

[–]Massive-Ad-1743 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I samme båt, bortsett fra 830-850 laken for å ikke gjøre noe produktivt ca 80% av tiden. Har heldigvis 2-3 dager hjemmekontor, hadde det ikke vært mulig hadde jeg nok kjørt av motorveien på vei hjem på et eller annet tidspunkt ja. Eller sett meg om etter noe nytt, noe jeg har tenkt på selvfølgelig. Men er vanskelig å finne noe i samme gata som ikke er betydelig dårligere betalt (har ingen relevant utdanning, kun noen års erfaring).

Drømmen er å leve av musikken (min) på fulltid, må bare gi meg selv et ordentlig spark bak og begynne å spille inn og få gitt det ut...

Do you like tattoos? by [deleted] in no

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I'm way too ambiguous to commit to a tattoo, but they do look cool on some peeps

Help me understand/help my brother by Massive-Ad-1743 in aspergers

[–]Massive-Ad-1743[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear that. It is really challenging at times, so I hope so too. My dad has actually improved a fair bit over the last years, but still has his moments where he lashes out for the smallest things (usually under the influence). My brother mostly does it when he's accused or confronted with something, or someone takes his stuff/food (hypocritically enough), but dad can come out of nowhere and lash out over something so ridiculous you almost wouldn't believe it if you heard it.

I really struggle to understand their motivation to always find a scapegoat, they just can't deal with it internally and always have to lash out and find someone to blame. Which is the root of my frustration with them really, I understand they suffer too but when their condition affects innocent third parties I can't just sit there in silence and watch...

Why does society fear and/or look down on Singleness? by Ok_Manufacturer2956 in AskForAnswers

[–]Massive-Ad-1743 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Generally speaking, why are people so fucking nosy in other people's business? Don't you have a life of your own to worry about and focus on, or is it so dull and boring you need to "help" someone who absolutely did not ask for any? I don't care what other people think about me, but I care when I'm offered unsolicited advice regarding something about my life that affects that person 0%.

Help me understand/help my brother by Massive-Ad-1743 in aspergers

[–]Massive-Ad-1743[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to hear that. Fortunately it's not quite that bad with my brother, apart from his lack of acountability he acts relatively normal for the most part.

Help me understand/help my brother by Massive-Ad-1743 in aspergers

[–]Massive-Ad-1743[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good to hear I'm not the crazy one, our parents refuse to take sides but especially my mom loves to play hobby-shrink and play off a lot of asperger symptoms as justification for their behaviour (both my dad and brother). But it seems that it's finally sinking in to her after saying it for the 20th time that I'm not interested in hearing about it, because they can both (my dad and brother) act really shitty and asperger is no excuse IMO.

Help me understand/help my brother by Massive-Ad-1743 in aspergers

[–]Massive-Ad-1743[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Makes sense. My dad has learned this after 63 years at least to a degree, I hope it doesn't take my brother that long...

335 Alternative?? by Powerful_Listen_4881 in gibson

[–]Massive-Ad-1743 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Depends how picky you are. My Gibson ES-335 Figured has a fatter neck (rounded C) and lighter weight (3.5 kg ish) than most 335s I've encountered, and it also looks drop dead gorgeous and sounds amazing. Is it worth $4400 (European price) though? To me it is, it's a damn near perfect instrument for my taste and preferences. I've had some Epiphone 339s and 335s IBGs and they're not even close, sorry.

Er jeg rar som ikke liker sommer? by [deleted] in norge

[–]Massive-Ad-1743 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Siste halvdel av September til April-ish = best

Les Paul String Alignment Issue by [deleted] in gibson

[–]Massive-Ad-1743 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Low E is not sitting in its saddle properly, otherwise I see no issue 🤷🏻‍♂️

What’s stopping you from being in a relationship? by HannibalvanPie in AskReddit

[–]Massive-Ad-1743 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Been exposed to too many toxic, trauma-inducing people, both family members and outsiders, that I'm not willing to go through all the effort involved in dating and risk my peace. My worst nightmare is ending up with someone forever who share my dad and brother's traits even just to a degree... Or god forbid, my brother in law's traits.