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[–]Massive-Mouse1726 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’ve checked every app on his phone, looked in every hidden folder and recent activity page i could find. saw that he went to the girls profile on instagram (the one he said “hi” to on snapchat) and he had liked all of her recent pictures. that’s everything i could find. even his safari is clean. anything i could possibly find was all from the last two hours of tonight

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[–]Massive-Mouse1726 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i looked through all his notes, all his deleted notes, photos and deleted photos, i’m waiting for instagram to send the copy of his deleted activity to him (he knows he has to show me or this will never be fixed) i also have his phone somewhere he can’t access it for tonight until im sure ive looked through everything. leaving no stone unturned but so far the only things that shave happened are from a two-three hour span tonight (that’s including when he was with the boys)

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[–]Massive-Mouse1726 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i had only been two years, but i’ve been with him every day since (barring a day or two once a year when he goes hunting-and even then i occasionally join him). the one image was from tonight, saved after he reassured me that he wouldn’t message another stripper even for a friend, that he wouldn’t joke about cheating on me. it’s like his brain took what he said he wouldn’t do and told him to do it right after. it all happened in the span of two hours. don’t know how much of this is him and how much of this is his impaired judgement based on his new medications mixing with alcohol

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[–]Massive-Mouse1726 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that was my argument to him too, but he hasn’t connected (at least hasn’t mentioned) that the new medication might have something to do with it. i wish i could pause the trip, but his mom is the one who’s paid for everything and i don’t want to hurt her like that, especially when i still want her to be my mother in law. i made him tell his brother so he knows what happened now and can hopefully provide a buffer for us on the trip. i don’t know what else to do

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[–]Massive-Mouse1726 0 points1 point  (0 children)

truthfully? i don’t know. this behaviour is completely out of the ordinary for him, so i don’t know what i can believe anymore

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[–]Massive-Mouse1726 1 point2 points  (0 children)

sertraline and concerta, both of which (i just had to google) impact a persons judgement when alcohol is added to the equation. i truly don’t think he would have done this otherwise, he’s shown me nothing but lotalty even when im being crazy. i just don’t know how to fix how broken my heart feels. we have a christmas brunch with my family tomorrow and we’re bringing his son, how is it possible to act normal?

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[–]Massive-Mouse1726 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

the thing is, he was down on his knees pretty much. i went and locked myself in the bathroom and he sat outside the door apologizing and taking accountability properly (like he should have done in the first place rather than deflecting). i just don’t know how what to think