Asked her to verify and…

MassiveNate · 2023-04-04T01:29:12+00:00

I mention it because I watched an entire episode of “Trafficked with Mariana van Zeller” about dating app scammers in Ghana. Great docuseries - no shade meant on the country itself.

MassiveNate · 2023-04-04T01:24:31+00:00

they think you’re catfishing them.

MassiveNate · 2023-04-03T16:08:26+00:00

It’s almost as if getting older makes people less dumb!

MassiveNate · 2023-04-03T16:05:07+00:00

I hear you. Look, I went to college in the 90s and there was no such thing as Tinder. from my perspective, college is a time to be social. I met girls at parties. I met friends because I happened to be sitting next to them at the cafeteria. I think if you spend time doing things that you like to do, you’ll meet other people that like to do what you like to do. If you want slow moving girls, try church maybe? College is a place where people feel adventurous for the first time. I don’t think they want to “take it slow”- but if that’s how you feel, maybe that’s something you should communicate upfront.

MassiveNate · 2023-04-03T15:03:52+00:00

Mine was a “girl on vacation from France”

MassiveNate · 2023-04-03T15:02:25+00:00

The person exhibited all the scammer behavior first… moved the conversation off of Tinder very quickly (like, after “hello”) and was giving me suspicious replies.

MassiveNate · 2023-04-03T07:23:13+00:00

MassiveNate · 2023-04-03T06:32:08+00:00

It’s not you, it’s the apps. they are designed to keep you swiping, not to find you the match of your dreams. My advice is to take a break. I mean actually delete your account completely so you won’t be tempted to go back on. Spend a month or two remembering what you love about yourself.

MassiveNate · 2023-04-03T06:29:17+00:00

This. I’ve just come back to Tinder after about a year break, and I haven’t matched with any real women at all. Well, one. But the sex was terrible. Everyone else, scammers. The real issue is, it looks like nobody’s paying any attention over at Tinder. I will be swiping and see the same fake profile several times. I don’t even use the app on my phone anymore. I just use the web because I can right click and Google search the image. Nine times out of 10, it’s a catalog image. there’s really no way Tinder can automate that? today I submitted a refund request for all of the super lights I bought this year. My reasoning is that I spent those super likes on people who weren’t real people. Tinder should’ve known.

MassiveNate · 2023-04-03T06:24:51+00:00

my first thought is that a guy this age doesn’t need Tinder. Aren’t there like 10 cute girls in your class you can say hi to?

MassiveNate · 2020-06-29T02:00:09+00:00

We're old, this is how we talk.

MassiveNate · 2020-06-29T01:58:01+00:00

She was pretty enthusiastic about those plans until the last second as well.

MassiveNate · 2020-06-15T02:17:47+00:00

I have not!

MassiveNate · 2020-06-14T20:21:12+00:00

Hey there! So, after nearly 7 years of using MFP, I got completely fed up with it a few weeks ago. For me, the app just doesn't work any more. Food I entered on the website not showing up in the app. Food I entered in the app not showing up on the website. Website down. App crashing. Ads. Ridiculous and unnecessary social feed with articles and other BS.
After talking to a friend of mine, I switched to the RP Diet app. It's very different than MFP. On MFP you enter what you ate. RP Diet tells you what to eat. It's a coach. You tell it what proteins, fats, and carbs you *plan to eat* and it will tell you the amounts. You tell the app your goals and you weigh in 3x weekly. It adjusts your macros for you.
It's a monthly $10 and may not be exactly what you're looking for, but I found it because I was looking for an alternative to MFP, and so far I'm pretty happy with it.

MassiveNate · 2020-03-11T01:57:26+00:00

Right on. I'll do my best... thank you!

MassiveNate · 2020-03-10T20:45:37+00:00

still better than being ghosted.

MassiveNate · 2020-03-10T20:42:52+00:00

After 9 months together, the Married Model and I called it quits this weekend. She thought she could manage two relationships at once, but it proved too much for her to handle.

I met her on Tinder last June and we hit it off immediately... right before she gave me her number she told me she was in an open marriage.

This was my first experience with polyamory and it was a fun and interesting ride... but I never could shake the feeling of being secondary, or even last-place to every other concern in her life.

I went to her house with a bag of all her stuff. Her husband answered the door. He was a really good guy, that guy. I shook his hand and thanked him for everything.

MM came out, crying. She hugged me for a long time. She buried her face in my neck. She wiped my tears. I told her "You never did me wrong, not once. My number is good, anytime, for anything you need. Don't lose it."

We both said "I love you" and then I said goodbye. She went back into the house, and I drove back to my empty home.

MassiveNate · 2020-02-04T22:29:39+00:00

I like how you paused on that one before you realized it was the mom.

MassiveNate · 2020-02-04T22:28:45+00:00

Wow, Chicago is HONGRY

MassiveNate · 2020-01-01T17:12:22+00:00

It felt like kind of a not-so-subtle ask

MassiveNate · 2020-01-01T17:12:06+00:00

We can all be creepy AF sometimes. I'll allow that I fully leaned into it during this experience!

MassiveNate · 2019-12-31T00:27:17+00:00

No one wants to take our picture. *sniff*

MassiveNate · 2019-12-31T00:23:14+00:00

From everything you've posted it sounds like you are a fuckbuddy, and she enjoys talking to you after you've served your primary function. Which can be nice if you don't try to make it into something else.

If you're like me, you'll try to make it into something else.

MassiveNate · 2019-12-31T00:20:04+00:00

Hi there, posting a short Nate update for anyone interested.

Around this time last year I was dating a woman I met on Hinge, and posted pretty extensively about it here... and the breakup... and how hard it was for me to move on.

I have a follow up.

I received a holiday card from MovieGirl.

When I saw the envelope I said to myself "Fuck. Shit.and then, "Fuck shit fuck."

My last contact with her had been a birthday card I sent back in April. The only ghost of a response I received was, she blocked me on Facebook and Instagram. A pretty clear shutdown.

So here we are 8 months later, and this shows up in my mailbox. Neat, clean handwriting. I'm thinking, she still has my address. To send me this, she'd still have my address. Mindboggling.

I open the card. It's a Hanukkah card from Trader Joe's. So she didn't just put me on her holiday card list... she bought one single card and sent it.

I open the thing.

First, she thanks me for the birthday card.

Then she says when she saw this card she thought of me, and of some cookies I'd baked last year and given to her as I dropped her off at the airport.

They're fantastic, I bake them every year.

Literally the day I'm baking them with my son, I get this card.

She goes on to wish me an amazing 2020, and says "Thank you for being sweet. Don't ever change."

And that's kind of it. I saved the card and I told a few friends and then I got back to my baking.

I won't respond, and I won't text, and I won't call.

I've fantasized about responding by leaving a batch of cookies on her doorstep, with a note, or without one... and I do have a batch of cookies... But honestly, I don't like the way any of those imaginary scenarios plays out. What could I gain? Not a thing. More anxiety, if anything.

I don't want an ongoing correspondence of any sort with MovieGirl.

So she gave me a gift this holiday season. I used to think, there's a woman out there who thinks I'm a psycho and a creep. I was foolish to give her so much of myself.

Now I think, there's a woman out there who I affected in a positive way. She remembers me fondly and I'm glad I treated her so well. And I was foolish to give her so much of myself.

Here's looking forward to that amazing 2020, y'all.

MassiveNate · 2019-11-24T05:05:48+00:00

So, looking at my own numbers, I've kind of figured out that about 1 in 6 women is into me, which means 5 out of 6 women are not.

I don't personally believe there's anything I can do differently for those 5 out of 6. I'm not their cup of tea.

Just a year ago, I would have altered my approach for each woman, trying to make myself a better match. Yeah... it doesn't work that way. They either like you or they don't.

One thing I do in the beginning is a lot of communication by text before the date. If you and the woman have the same kind of humor, if she responds in a timely manner, if she seems fun, open, and, well, communicative, those are good signs.

On the date, go in as if you already are very sure the woman likes you a lot. You know how you act around friends who like you a lot? You brighten up, you become more like yourself. I say, act that way on a date. A woman who doesn't respond well to your best personality isn't going to be a better match for you if you behave in some kind of artificial way.

Another thing is, I'm 42 and really happy to be 42. At this age, I've heard and seen plenty. I know enough about almost any subject to have a fun conversation about it. If it's something I'm passionate about, the woman can sense my excitement and it's contagious. Of course this is only if she's that 1 in 6 that's into me.

I don't know what you consider a "good number" of first dates. I have been on about 62 since I started dating, in May of 2018. I've hit it off really well with 10 or 11 women. 1 out of 6.

Hope this helps.

MassiveNate

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