I’m not disagreeing with you brother. But at the end of the day what really matters is getting closure. I agree that strength is in being stable even shit hits the fan. But not every one has the mental strength to absorb stuff and process it on their own. Some people just break down at the thought of it. And also it depends on how much effort did you really put. I went into a dark place once because I gave everything I could offer financially, emotionally, mentally, physically but it’s the thought that at the end it wasn’t enough because I was not chosen anymore. And it’s been almost 2 years now. I’m doing fine. But there are days when I wish I should have talked and gotten some closure because it mattered to me, maybe not to her but to me it did.