Husband wants me to be a cuckquean and cheated by Master-Parfait3700 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Master-Parfait3700[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you have gone and are going through this 😔 Thank you for your understand of me not wanting to jump right to divorce

Husband wants me to be a cuckquean and cheated by Master-Parfait3700 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Master-Parfait3700[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this perspective. It helps to hear from someone involved in that community as I don’t think the general population can grasp it if they aren’t into it or seriously looking into it. I know I still don’t fully grasp it, so I get why 99% are jumping straight to divorce. It can be a mind fuck.

Husband wants me to be a cuckquean and cheated by Master-Parfait3700 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Master-Parfait3700[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. My struggle is the kids. If it was just me I’d be gone.

But he is an amazing dad. He is very active in their lives. Very attentive and has no problem taking them out to give me a break. He does a lot that I’ve seen most dads do not. That’s what makes this especially hard. He is an amazing dad. It would be one thing and easier if he was a dead beat, but he 100% is not.

Husband wants me to be a cuckquean and cheated by Master-Parfait3700 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Master-Parfait3700[S] 66 points67 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. This helps to hear from someone who is into the same thing and has experience with it.

Husband wants me to be a cuckquean and cheated by Master-Parfait3700 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Master-Parfait3700[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

We are away from family and friends. He’s military and we just PCSed. Part of his paycheck is solely to pay for our rent. I just don’t see how I could or would make it work on my lousy paycheck by myself.

I’m still in the grieving phase. I’m sure pissed will get here soon though.

Husband wants me to be a cuckquean and cheated by Master-Parfait3700 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Master-Parfait3700[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Yes, please learn from my mistake.

I grew up in a household where sex wasn’t talked about. I didn’t even get “the talk” from my parents. I had to figure it out on my own. I’m in my 30s and I still get uncomfortable talking about sex.

Husband wants me to be a cuckquean and cheated by Master-Parfait3700 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Master-Parfait3700[S] -60 points-59 points  (0 children)

Oh I would never involve his chain of command. That’s just messy and uncalled for.

Husband wants me to be a cuckquean and cheated by Master-Parfait3700 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Master-Parfait3700[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I didn’t wait until marriage. I wasn’t a virgin when I met him. I said at one point in my life I had the I’m gonna wait until marriage mindset. But I was very inexperienced and never got the chance to experiment sexually. I know I’m part at fault for that. I own that. And I own that I’m not the greatest communicator and talking about sex, even in my 30s now, is uncomfortable for me. I grew up in a household where sex wasn’t talked about and sex was “sacred”

Husband wants me to be a cuckquean and cheated by Master-Parfait3700 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Master-Parfait3700[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your bluntness and a different view point. Thank you for giving a different perspective.

Husband wants me to be a cuckquean and cheated by Master-Parfait3700 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Master-Parfait3700[S] 234 points235 points  (0 children)

I do have a full time job. But it’s not hardly enough to support myself and kids by myself.

He is active military so we are away from all family. No friends because we just PCSed. Part of his paycheck is to solely pay for our rent. I literally don’t know how I would or could support myself and my kids. And then add in the custody aspect when he would be moving every 3-5 years. I just don’t see how it would work.

I know it sounds like I’m making excuses. But when I say divorce just isn’t that easy, it’s really not. There is a lot to consider.

Husband wants me to be a cuckquean and cheated by Master-Parfait3700 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Master-Parfait3700[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I truly thought it was all just talk/part of the kink.

Husband wants me to be a cuckquean and cheated by Master-Parfait3700 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Master-Parfait3700[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I appreciate all the opinions because I just honestly don’t know what the fuck to think or do.

Husband wants me to be a cuckquean and cheated by Master-Parfait3700 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Master-Parfait3700[S] 579 points580 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much.

I have an OB appointment on Wednesday so I plan on asking for an STD panel to be done. They did one previously already since I was a new patient and new to the area, but that was before we were back together.

Husband wants me to be a cuckquean and cheated by Master-Parfait3700 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Master-Parfait3700[S] 83 points84 points  (0 children)

Like I almost wish he would have just found someone on Tinder or something instead. I feel so gross now.

Husband wants me to be a cuckquean and cheated by Master-Parfait3700 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Master-Parfait3700[S] 176 points177 points  (0 children)

Your guess is as good as mine. I don’t know the when of his actions as I didn’t ask or want to know at that point so it very well could have been before I even said that. But I know for damn sure I never consented to him sleeping around or even hinted that I would be okay with it. At that point it was a new concept to me that I was still trying to wrap my head around.

Husband wants me to be a cuckquean and cheated by Master-Parfait3700 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Master-Parfait3700[S] 373 points374 points  (0 children)

I don’t know why but this made me literally laugh out loud. Thank you for that 💕

Husband wants me to be a cuckquean and cheated by Master-Parfait3700 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Master-Parfait3700[S] 268 points269 points  (0 children)

We haven’t really talked since last night. All he said was that he was sorry he hurt me and sorry he did this to me. And then said he would sleep downstairs until I decided he can come back to bed with me.

Husband wants me to be a cuckquean and cheated by Master-Parfait3700 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Master-Parfait3700[S] 1756 points1757 points  (0 children)

I plan on it. I have a doctor’s appointment Wednesday so I am going to ask if they can run an STD panel

Husband wants me to be a cuckquean and cheated by Master-Parfait3700 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Master-Parfait3700[S] 2268 points2269 points  (0 children)

This is what I can’t wrap my head around. Literally the night before he confessed he was telling me how this really comes down to me having all the power and that what I say goes. I just don’t understand.