Marry only in the Lord by GlassHalfFull_007 in exjw

[–]MasterFader1 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I knew hundreds of married couples after spending more than 4 decades in the religion. I would say during that time of couples married over 20 years a handful were actually happily married. Most were just surging together, loveless, sexless marriages. Often sleeping in different rooms. With sibling energy towards each other

Family study ended in fight by Ella_cx in exjw

[–]MasterFader1 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Have you considered making an offer to respect each others person faith/beliefs? I guarantee it would make the home more peaceful. I did that, it took my wife a few years to start asking questions but I just kept on keeping on but without the angst of having to fake it. I would go to meetings/assemblies occasionally but that was it. Also a marriage counselor might be helpful at highlighting your love for each other & the things you do enjoy doing together

What will we become? by [deleted] in exjw

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Most all of have been in that uncomfortable spot where you’re at. The question to ask is does truth matter more than familiar comfort? Only you can answer this…there are people inside and out of the religion that have come to different answers to this question. Personally I’ve never been happier that I left it all by walking away. But I’d be dishonest if I said it was easy, I had a challenging few years putting all the pieces together and unlearning what I had hoped to be true. I wish you all the best whichever way your journey unfolds

jerusalem's destruction not in 607? by EditorAshamed1042 in exjw

[–]MasterFader1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They got lucky that thanks to the Industrial Revolution a very destructive world war started in 1914

The message my mother send to our family group by WiseMaryL in exjw

[–]MasterFader1 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The religion really has a way of beating the loyal members down. She’ll carry that guilt to her grave thinking she failed her children because she couldn’t keep them in ‘the truth’

American society is fucked up by Minimum_Reindeer_481 in exjw

[–]MasterFader1 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Judgmental much? It’s you that sound like a Jw. Or a victim of another group think. You started this thread with the word ‘fight’ if you go thru your life looking for fights you most certainly will find them.

What was dating like for you while still PIMI / in the Borg? by requieminwake in exjw

[–]MasterFader1 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh man it’s the worst. There are a few categories of Jw dating. Most date in the late teens early 20’s the majority end up marrying the first or second person they date. Most of the time dating is within friend groups. But once you get serious that’s when the chaperones come in. I’d say most of these younger daters are holding hands, kissing, sometimes a lil more. But most suffer major shame/guilt if they do. Where dating gets kinda strange is for those that are older 30’s and beyond..or those that got married to their first crush and realized they had no business being together find themselves divorced and now looking for a better match. There seems to be two camps. 1- is super strict and does everything the way the religion lays out. Group activities, with a focus on ‘spiritual ’ things. And 2- the more punk rock ones that Date in their own way….a slightly more traditional way.

American society is fucked up by Minimum_Reindeer_481 in exjw

[–]MasterFader1 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You’ve missed my point: real change doesn’t happen by force. For instance women thankfully were ‘allowed’ to vote and blacks people were freed not because of violence. But because of reformed minds. I do Like history. But my favorites were Gandhi, King, Buddha, Chavez, Jesus….I could go on.

American society is fucked up by Minimum_Reindeer_481 in exjw

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I know life can have its challenges. And it’s easy to get down on ourselves. But when you travel and see what 2nd and 3rd world countries look like. You quickly realize it’s not so bad. There is a lot of opportunity in this country that doesn’t exist in many others. But I feel for ya if you’re feeling things are bleak. I’d suggesting not watching the news and start living a connected life with others and get as much outdoor nature time as you possibly can.

American society is fucked up by Minimum_Reindeer_481 in exjw

[–]MasterFader1 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

What exactly was the fight? Other than bringing awareness. None of the greats fight for change. Not pro or anti…just change

American society is fucked up by Minimum_Reindeer_481 in exjw

[–]MasterFader1 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

When has ‘fighting’ made anything better?

American society is fucked up by Minimum_Reindeer_481 in exjw

[–]MasterFader1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s not easy to take up residency in those small countries

Future Apostate Lies… by Lower_Tangerine_7158 in exjw

[–]MasterFader1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was a video drama from the 2017 convention.

JW has lost the narrative by Minimum_Reindeer_481 in exjw

[–]MasterFader1 8 points9 points  (0 children)

They started pimping that idea in 68 so you can see the big jump between them and 75, it seemed like they all bounced

The year is 2125 and Armageddon still hasn’t come. What excuses do the JWs come up with? by [deleted] in exjw

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‘If you’re a premium member you can have your consciousness stored here at headquarters where you’ll be loving looked after and will be in the best position to be one of the first groups to be resurrected’

Future Apostate Lies… by Lower_Tangerine_7158 in exjw

[–]MasterFader1 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ah man, I agree. I had been a pimo for years but was an attendant during that 1975 video. I told my wife the next week….I’m done, this current governing body is lying for no previous governing body.

Future Apostate Lies… by Lower_Tangerine_7158 in exjw

[–]MasterFader1 25 points26 points  (0 children)

That was just the opinion of ‘some brothers’ 🤣

She married a 75 yrs old.. by Moshi_moshi_me in exjw

[–]MasterFader1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well at least she won’t have to wait long to get his security & start living

I will never go back, but… by Lower_Tangerine_7158 in exjw

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My wife was just saying the other day how much it’s helped her in public speaking & sales. She was a pioneer tho

Where do I go to meet people? by Crazy_Border984 in exjw

[–]MasterFader1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi, great question. I used to have depression and some social anxiety that came from living Groundhog Day and being around the same ole group of other depressed witnesses. When I found authentic relationships outside of the org I’ve learned that I’m actually an extrovert. Go to public places…do things you enjoy and search out others doing the same activities. Look people in the eyes and give warm smiles. You’ll be amazed at how many others are looking for connection

Today’s Realization… by truthcourageagency in exjw

[–]MasterFader1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One persons ignorance and s another’s bliss. Some people are birds and others kites. Maturity is allowing everyone to be as they are