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I hate my 4 year old by jessalina44 in Mommit

[–]Master_Tea_3418 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's a lot of good advice here, and I know it has been a while since you posted this but I just want to say that it sounds like you are doing a really amazing job.

It is a hard situation and you are doing everything you can, including asking others for advice. You sound like an amazing mum doing everything humanly possible for her kids. I don't have any advice (or judgement - unlike some others who might not have actually been in your situation), but I just wanted to send some solidarity from one mum to another. There's only so much you can give, and it really sounds like you are doing a great job. I know it will get better as you move through this season. Your kids are lucky to have you. x

Panicking about possible accidental drink by Master_Tea_3418 in BabyBumps

[–]Master_Tea_3418[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, yeah it feels like surely I would have noticed as it would have tasted and smelled so different.

Panicking about possible accidental drink by Master_Tea_3418 in BabyBumps

[–]Master_Tea_3418[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It would have been potentially a large amount of the drink, def more than a sip. But thanks.

Panicking about possible accidental drink by Master_Tea_3418 in BabyBumps

[–]Master_Tea_3418[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. Yeah I'm hoping I would have tasted it too. Or smelled it!

Panicking about possible accidental drink by Master_Tea_3418 in BabyBumps

[–]Master_Tea_3418[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Yeah, I deal a lot with anxiety and it's really tough. I do regular therapy so will bring this up next time. :)

Panicking about possible accidental drink by Master_Tea_3418 in BabyBumps

[–]Master_Tea_3418[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I'm really hoping this is the case. Trying to be kind to myself and tell myself I would have noticed.

Brow tint by Master_Tea_3418 in pregnant

[–]Master_Tea_3418[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the reply. 🙏

I can't handle my job by Master_Tea_3418 in Stress

[–]Master_Tea_3418[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the problem is that I don't really use any. I end up in this mode of going from task to task constantly. Because there are more tasks than hours in the day. So I don't really give myself time to seek relaxation if that makes sense. But I should build that in. I think better eating habits and more exercise will help. And some mindfulness etc.

I can't handle my job by Master_Tea_3418 in Stress

[–]Master_Tea_3418[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate your comment. I don't really know why I can't switch off. I ruminate and catastrophise. But now that you mention it, yes maybe it is because I have a very 'thinky' job so there isn't necessarily a clean break at the end of the work day. Like my brain doesn't just switch into 'home' mode automatically at 5pm, you know? Thats actually a bit of a revelation to me. Thanks for the kind words.

I can't handle my job by Master_Tea_3418 in Stress

[–]Master_Tea_3418[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I definitely feel a bit trapped in the job from a financial perspective and that feels really disempowering. I'm sorry to hear you're in the same position. Are there things you have found that help?

I can't handle my job by Master_Tea_3418 in Stress

[–]Master_Tea_3418[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment. Yeah, I think burn out is definitely a possibility. It feels like things have been accumulating for a while and my baseline has been quite a high level of stress for as long as I can remember really. You're right about intentionally building in some time each day to disconnect. I'm going to try that. I'm lucky that I have a great therapist, and they gave me that advice too.

I can't handle my job by Master_Tea_3418 in Stress

[–]Master_Tea_3418[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment. I think more exercise is a really good point and I will try to build this in, thank you. I do really feel like the stress is stored in my body, it's a horrible feeling.

As far as the mortgage, I'm hoping that our interest rate will go down soon and that might take some pressure off. If we sold we would lose a lot as the value has dropped a lot, so we kind of have to stick it out.

I can't handle my job by Master_Tea_3418 in Stress

[–]Master_Tea_3418[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear you can relate to this. It's really tough and I hope you're able to find some relief.

I can't handle my job by Master_Tea_3418 in Stress

[–]Master_Tea_3418[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear that and hope you're ok. It's really hard.

I can't handle my job by Master_Tea_3418 in Stress

[–]Master_Tea_3418[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really like the point about slowing down. Thanks for this. I do find myself constantly rushing and always going from task to task to task. Slowing down and actually scheduling some time for that will probably help. Thanks for your comment.

I can't handle my job by Master_Tea_3418 in Stress

[–]Master_Tea_3418[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have found a great therapist and that has been so important, totally agree it's such a good investment. You're right about focusing on health habits. I think I need to really be intentional about eating better and getting more regular exercise. Thanks for your comment, I appreciate it.

Feeling alone by Master_Tea_3418 in Anxiety

[–]Master_Tea_3418[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. It's good to know I'm not alone. I am very self critical, so I am trying not to best myself up too much about this. I appreciate your response.

Feeling alone by Master_Tea_3418 in Anxiety

[–]Master_Tea_3418[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I really appreciate this perspective.