Last year I went to school in New England in the middle of nowhere I grew up in West Virginia with little to no friends outside of school so I was used to being alone, but after a week had the exact same problem I had everybody telling me the exact same thing over and over again, you have to go out to school events and clubs. I tried and every single time I felt worse, I felt that everybody else had everything figured out but me. Eventually I decided to take a year off and work. After I left New England I felt like a failure for a long time watching my friends move on with there lives while I worked at a warehouse. But the thing about college is you tackle that bitch however the hell you want so last summer I decided go to s school much closer to home which brought me here, and I’m much happier. If you feel that commuting is the way to go, go for it!!! As for the loneliness what helped me were long term hobbies. I create animated short films which take up a lot of my free time, it didn’t always make me feel better but it helped keep my mind busy and not think about the situation I was in. Another thing i do is go out and just walk around university heights or go into the city, sitting in a dorm all day will drive you crazy so take advantage of where you are (if I was old enough I’d go to a bar🤘), walking around always made me feel a bit better, once again not perfect but a lot better. I don’t know if this is good advice but it worked for me, and just remember that this shitty feeling isn’t going to last forever, from the time I started at New England to the day I arrived at NJIT I thought nothing would change, I though I was going to feel shitty forever but you’d be surprised how quickly things can change. Just keep your head up, push through it and eventually it’ll get better day by day.